OK so I split with my girlfriend two months ago and it was probably the most heartbroken I've ever been.
I've been a mess but thought I had turned a corner. I've accepted that its over and that we will not get back together so have moved on in one sense. My problem is that I just can't look at any other girl and feel anything sort of attraction to them. I seem incapable of not comparing them to my ex and this immediately puts me off them.
I don't know how I am supposed to move on when I seem unable to move on with a new girl. Is this normal?
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1. Stay positive
2. Negative thoughts will come, it happens your human, but try not to beat yourself up. If you notice yourself crying, it's because your beating yourself up. Try to relax, or just take a cry about it. Sometimes actually, crying isn't so bad, it actually literally helps, so just because your crying, don't beat yourself up, let you be you, and the way you need to make it.
3. Obsessing, thinking all the time. It will happen, and the more you think about thinking, the more you'll think your obsessiong. I had that problem. Basically, the goal of this, is to stop seeing yourself as obsessive, and just live your life, let the thoughts come and go when they want to, because in truth, you'll literally always be reminded eventually, so there's no way to control your thoughts. When your dad for ex says pacers, you think pacers. Your thoughts are just a state or moment in time
4. Accept it as a part of your life, the more you see as that it was an experience, the more you can focus on your life. This is a part of your life, don't get too upset thinking about it, it happens, even if we get fired at work for example, we'll think about it, or stress over it. The more you start seeing it as a part of your life, and an emotion, the more you can start to control yourself.
5. Just say no, you might look, wonder, or venture, but if you don't cry, or can go on without thinking, then there really isn't a problem. Just basically let the thoughts come, and go, and let it be apart of you, as an experience you learned, and an experience you can use in the next relationship.0