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I tried everything I could in my marriage before eventually realizing it was hopeless, so I was ready to move on by the time I left. Of course the legal process took a while and was frustrating at times, but emotionally I was over her already when I left.It probably helped that I met someone that was also in the process of getting divorced so I had a friend to do things with during the process, but I'd have probably been OK even without that. We supported each other through our divorces and after a while realized that we really liked being together and a relationship developed from that. We're in a long term relationship now.
I was with my ex for 7 years and she cheated on me a couple of days after I put a deposit on an engagement ring. That was 4 years ago and I get major panic attacks still, it's not fun...
Depends on your emotional involvement with the person. Depends on how long it has been broken, and if you have reconciled it in your mind it is over, before it legally or actually is over. Depends on the issues in the relationship (cheating, emotional withdrawal, etc.). Depends on if you got side-blinded by it. Depends on if it ended amicably or badly. There are many factors. So each person is different as to how long it takes to recover enough to move on.
i asked for a yr. and i did.. but at the same time, he was prssuring me. it was a very very painful year through thoughts of sucide... etc.that was 6 years. ago...i am with a 2 yr. boyfriend... i feel like i am reliving the pain of that breakup... i don't know why this relationship is so painful... is this what its call life?
I honestly dont wait long. Usually I'm back out after a month. Life is too short. The shortest has been a few days. Not because I'm cold hearted or anything but because i understand that things happen for a reason. Yes I cared tremendously about that individual but it ended for a reason. I usually spend time contemplating if there was anything I could do to improve myself. Often (read almost every time) it ended because of their fear of commitment or something else that caused them to be unfaithful. I then immediately jump back into the dating pool.
I wish I could adapt that outlook. I've tried. I just get too invested I suppose.
I get heavily invested too. Its certainly not an easy outlook to have. Once you look at what you went wrong you gotta move on. I feel its unhealthy to hang on long after you realize there was nothing that could be done.
my longest was 4 years but it ended on bad agreements due to both our mental health being affected. its like fighting fire with fire but now that im stable... er. and bc we found out how severe his ended up being, it explains a lot so we only just talk as we both try to restable our lives. so i agree with others that say "it just depends how things end" ... as for dating sites, you ever heard of ourtime. com? its for people over 50. my aunts sister said it helped her :)
My first ex I dated for 1.5 years. It took me about 1.5, almost 2 years to fully get over him. My new ex, we broke up about 6 months ago because I found out he was cheating. I am not fully over the pain he caused me, but, I am over the idea of dating him ever again. I hope i get over him soon. :/
The relationship was over before we officially ended it. Neither of us wanted to admit it, along with being long distance. I'd say it technically ended in December (my perspective), not sure what he would say. I was totally broken back in March/April/May of this year regarding it. So I'd say the mourning is done for me. Not interested in dating right now, but I also don't think about it anymore.
I divorced soon 4 years ago, I was over him quite fast because it had been a thing that created a lot of resentment the last year of our relationship. The year that followed was filled with his outbursts, questions, and refusing to understand; and him being a form of stalker for a good 8 months.So I have had 3 years to heal and deal. While I'm ready somewhere and my to be with someone, I don't feel ready wholly yet. I want to be the best I can be and I have some things left I want to fix 😊
Excuse the extra "and my" that snuck into my sentence
I can relate.
My wife just announced she's leaving right when our youngest graduated. Like few weeks ago. I had no clue because I was the only income and was used to her being miserable. But she always said when our kids graduate were gonna start living, traveling etc. She's a big liar and it breaks my heart to see how gullable I was. I feel no love loss just anger and a little scared because I have no clue how to flirt and connect with women. And dating sites seem to fail me as the last one, (POF), connected me to my daughters friend. She's like 18 and I'm 50. Kind of funny. When I saw her, I panicked and quickly tried to delete everything before she saw me. Anyways, maybe I'll try the old shopping cart trick of accidently running into someone while shopping lol j/ k
My last last ex, I broke up with him 4 years ago and i feel like im not even fully over him. My last ex who broke up with me 3 months ago is still fresh so im still really sad about it.
I single for about a year. Then dated and went back to being single for another year before I really tried to find someone.
A few months. The relationship had toxicified to the point where ending it was a relief, so moving on wasn't very difficult. It's the short term relationships that take me a long time to get over.
2 years coupled with a few relationships. I still think of him often.
Just a reminder the goal is not to become resentful, it is to become indifferent.
The reason it ended was because I felt there were too many qualities that I did not like about her over the course of the relationship. By the time we ended it, I was already well over her.
It all depends on how many years and what that person meant to you. My 7 year relationship with my children father took me a while like a year because that was my best friend, my first love, first man to have children with and share that bond and I knew that I have to see him everyday regards to the kids so I didn't have time to get over him quickly. My other ex was 2years and i got over him in 1month because of how we ended.
About 5-7 years. He was the only man I loved. Took me too long but now I’m over him lol
That must have been hard. I'm going through that now.
Same deal with me, but my marriage was 22 years prolonged for the children. My opinion is whether you have a distraction either another mate or hobby. Loneliness is where it becomes hard. And for the older folk, what do we do? I tried to be all hip, registered for some dating sites and BAM, I see two of my daughters friends on there. I panic, trying to erase profile and why am I linked up with teens? Too challenging. Good luck
Umm..!If you really want to stay back to him) her, you should try to convince him/her.And if you want to move on then just move on.Hardly it takes time but not more than a month. It also depends on your mood too.
Took me about 3 years with a previous relationship and heading to around that time now again with my last relationship.. While I feel I am over my last relationship I don't feel ready to start something new
I am single. Hehe. But if someone asks me to be in a long term relationship then I need some time. At least 6 months we should live together. Trust is more important for me.
It took 5 years.And now after 8 years it looks like I'm almost free from depression.
That doesn't give me much hope lol. That really sucks for you man
About a year or so for me, i'm not quick to heal if i love you, i love you very strongly.
I was with my ex for 5 years, I was "over it" within a couple months, but I didn't start dating again until about 3 years later
Not that long. But the relationship was over ages before the break up. So on paper it was a month, in practice it was 6.
Tbh, I was still in a relationship when I met my current partner. That is always how it seems to go for me.
That's the ticket! If your cup empties just refill and everything is fine. But how do older people fill that void? I get placed on these dating sites with youngsters and I look like a total troll (?) . Or I get these scammed telling me everything I wanna hear but wait they need $100 for a funeral or something stupid.
One year after divorce. 10 years of marriage; tried to make it work within the last 3 years. I took time for myself to regroup and learned to be single for a while, then decided to see what was out there.
No divorce, We split in September, I started dating seriously on Jan 4
I was cheating for the last few months so I just moved on to my fuckbuddy.
After divorce I dove right into dating, it took a few years to feel comfortable committing though.
Lol I'm still not over it. It's been a year 1/2 now
The longest for me was 1 year. I had been told that you have to go through all 4 seasons if it was a relationship of many years...
1 months and I was engaged to him left him because he was a compulsive liar
1 min. But since I was married, for respect to her family, 1 year no public relationship
3 years. Still think about her. Still sometimes miss her.
Not too long. I'd say to truly move on, maybe a few weeks. It was difficult though.
It is has been 8 months and it still hurts but nothing like it was. I was with her 11 years.
I had emotionally moved on while I was still in the marriage, that is how bad it was.
She ws hinting to me before
I just ended a 6 year relationship. You own your life. You decide when you are ready
A yearxx~ Bloodrayne Absinthe Nevermore
1 second, actually barely 1 second
Still struggling and it's been since January
Half the years in womens nailed
3 months for me worked
Almost a year...
I have never had a breakuo or divorce
Too long weeks
How long was the relationship?
Still not over it
Still tryna move on and its been 6-7 months ago
Three years later and still not ready
few shots or week
4years for me.
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