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What do you think? It sound like the sort of question that a person asks when they want to hear a certain answer.Just do what you want to. You don't control who you're attracted to and there is 0 shame in that.
Are you certain that the separation will lead to divorce?
I don't think that it matters because adultery happens when one person is still in love and his/her partner cheats him but in this case since separation is going on so looks there is no connection between the two of you and that's why it won't matte because although not legally but emotionally and mentally you both are free and can choose whom to date and when to date and also it won't matter because it's not affecting any of you in a bad manner now surely others might say that you are cheating or you have a cruel heart but that's utter bullshit because it's everyone's right to stay happy and if you find happiness with someone then don't let them go and don't worry about the time because everytime is right time in its own sense.
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I would think it's a form of monkey branching. No time spent grounding oneself, correcting the behavioral patterns that wasn't helpful in the prior relationship, and no time spent on enjoying being single. I mean it's a sure fired way to drag your baggage from the prior relationship into the new one, and also a great way to not correct the mistakes you were making in the prior relationship before starting a new one. Honestly when I see the number one concern of someone ending a relationship is to start another... i start to think wanting another relationship probably played the biggest part in the prior relationship not working out.
If you have sex it is adultery, which is sex between a married person and someone who is not your spouse. My question is why would you want to start dating when you are not done with your present relationship? People need time to recover from an old relationship before they start a new one. A separation means that you may have the possibility to get back together. Why start something new then? Your heart won't be in it and you are just further hurting your present significant other. Basically what you would be doing is cheating, or are you used to that?
Well actually the husband cheated and doesn’t want to be with the wife anymore. So, the wife is already accepting the fact there’s no workout in the marriage if she’s the only one trying to save the marriage even the fact she’s willing to forgive the husband of cheating. He doesn’t want to work things out. So she wants to move on already.. and on a process of divorce because he committed adultery. Now What are you thoughts on this?
That's perfectly right reasonable because for any relationship to work there should be equal contributions from both the partners in both their ups and downs and since the husband here doesn't want it to work then the wife can't really do anything I mean she can't force him right so my thought is that the husband is already out then why should the wife suffer now even though she is ready to sought it out but the husband is reluctant then why shouldn't she move on its both mentally and emotionally correct.
I think it would be nice had you posted these facts in the first post. I thought it was a guy asking this. My bad. :( Now, you are talking in the 3rd person. So this is someone else and not you that you are talking about?
Yes, I was speaking in general though
It is adultery. And it is a sin. You can't sugar coat it, you can't make excuses for it, you can't make it look good. You can't explain it away. You swore a vow, and entered into a contract between you, your husband, and God.www.biblestudytools.com/.../It is also one of the Ten Commandments from Godwww.google.com/.../%3fsearch=Exodus%2b20&version=NKJV&interface=amp (Exodus 20 verse 14)
Doesn't it also say that you cannot divorce you wife except if there is cheating going on?
Yes, that is correct.www.biblestudytools.com/.../(Key Take Away, Read this one verse below)http://biblehub.com/kj2000/matthew/19.htm
This husband is cheated and on drugs.
@AskerYou mean your husband cheated on you first, and is on drugs? Doesn't matter, it does not make what you did right. We are not to repay evil with evil. An eye for eye leaves the world blind. Even Martin Luther King Jr. said "hate can not drive our hate, only love can do that".Please read this whole verse of Matthew chapter 18 verse 21-35www.google.com/.../%3fsearch=Matthew%2b18:21-35&version=NKJV&interface=amp
If your thinking from a spiritual point, your likely setting yourself up for it in this way; the practice“... it was said: ‘whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ However, i say to you that everyone divorcing his wife, except on account of sexual immorality, makes her a subject for adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.” “It hath been said, whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement:But i say unto you, that whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.” Matthew 5:31,32Unless on the grounds of sexual immorality happening or them passing away, the practice of dating someone else while your married could lead you down that road..
This is in general. The latter part.. say if the partner was to divorce you and cheat on you, they have broken a sacred bond and likely caused most of the damage. This does not mean that there’s no room for forgiveness and that there’s no chance of repentance over the situation for the divorcee and the person giving the papers, but it too, doesn’t serve as an excuse to do it. I do feel the weight is more on the one that cheated and divorced you though and is to be looked at more severely.
Deliberate actions are also looked at..
Some states actually will legally consider sex with someone prior to the divorce as “adultery”. I think if your ex isn’t going to make it an issue in divorce court, then go date, have fun. If your ex isn’t going to make it an issue, then the court could really care less.
Heck Saskatchewan allows for you to be both common law spouse and married at the same time. (if going through the process of getting a divorce)I think you can date while separated if you are sure that it is over and getting a divorce is the plan. Not adultry. That being said I know people who got back together after being separated. So.. Be sure.
Depends on the nature of separation. If you’re done for good and there’s no negotiation, then, you’re done go out and find someone else if you want. The reason you’re asking this probably means that you feel that things aren’t entirely done, so id exercise caution. Think about your actions, the people in your life, and your future and if you are okay with everything then do what you wish.
I don't count it as adultry. Mainly because she left me without any real reason other than "we are just different people."I didn't do anything wrong the entire time we together. She went to the courthouse and filed. Then had the filing expedited.I don't owe anything, I don't have to explain myself, I don't need permission to live my life. I don't have to wait for someone to tell me that something is okay. She left me (paperwork says so), I'm dating.
I think that is a good question for a lawyer. Get their advise during a divorce as to whether it is a good idea to start seeing other people or should you wait (could it hurt you in the divorce when the other side learns this and can use it against you in the divorce).Religiously speaking? Good question. If the separation has been in place for a while and you two are "divorced" already in your hearts but you are still waiting around on the paperwork than I'd say it shouldn't be a big deal.
Ethically, in my opinion it's fine. But your behavior may affect the judge's decision on a final property division (if there is anything to divide), depending on where you live and how much your spouse wants to fight over it. Talk to your lawyer if you have one.
As long as the person or people you're dating are aware that you're not divorced just yet then I don't really see anything wrong with it. Personally I would try to get divorced as soon as possible. I would at least wait a year if not more to move on. It's best emotionally and respectfully to who ever I'd date. Technically it is adultry if you have sex with someone else when married. So yes. But its not the same in mind because you and your ex are separated as far as y'all are concerned.
I think out of respect for your old relationship - you should wait at least a year before you begin your next relationship but I know that can be hard when you are feeling lonely and separated. However - if the person cheated on you - you can date in 2 days and I would not consider it adultery.
Is the separation happening because you two want a divorce?If so, it makes sense you'd move on, especially if you've been separated for some time.But if the divorce isn't planned and you two still might think you'd get back together I'd see it as cheating, yes - because there's still hope, trust and romantic love there...
If the adults are married but in the process of divorce (aka papers have been printed and lawyers have been contacted) then no, I don't think it's wrong to start dating.Like someone else said though, your behavior may affect how assets are divided and especially if things like alimony are being brought up...So, consult your lawyer first. Live your life though.
Legally it depends on your state. You have to be separated for 1 year and not have sex for one year. Biblically speaking it is adultry. Contact your spiritual leader for advise. Hopefully you can wait until the divorce is final. Usually it's a grid process then dating but everyone is different.
See the only thing with dating and being separated is i would worry if her soon to be ex-husband would say she committed adultery other than that i would date a girl who was separated. Now if her soon to be ex-husband was dating a woman it wouldn't matter to me at all. It wouldn't bother me but otherwise I'm optimistic about things.
Not really a good idea. You may be acting on rebound, carrying the unresolved issue (s) of your separation into this new date/relationship. The better course is to complete your separation from the first person and make sure all ties there are cut before you begin dating again.
Adultery would mean having a physical relation before separation, just meeting new people isn't considered adultery at all. But if you don't tell your partner about it then it can lead to disastrous situations, one should talk to this with their partner and have an open relationship before their separation, Otherwise strict actions may be taken against you
Depends on how fast you can get divorced where you're from. I mean locally it is 4 years of separation before you can divorce so I don't think its a big deal to date while sepatated. However if you can get divorced in a couple months, it is a good idea to wait.
It isn't wrong to date during a separation, in my own opinion. The relationship is over, just pending paperwork. I dated while in the process of getting a divorce, and was upfront about my divorce on my profile bio so people wouldn't feel tricked.
Separation means no longer together. If you consider it adultery, then its a lie to call it a separation.
I don't know about the bible or others view due to not having enough information. if they still live together, then not okay. if they have two separate homes, have moved on a year or more and waiting to sign paper. i dont see why not start dating.
It's ok if you tell your partner about it, otherwise no. However I think you should calm down a bit. It's not fair on other people to make them your rebound, well unless your honest about that from the very start. And no, even if you think you're ready for something new you're most likely not.
It really depends. If it's a divorce and it's not because of something awful. It might ruin current friendships with mutual friends and a possible futaur friendship with you partner. If it is because your partner was a p. o. s. nothing wrong with meeting people who will treat you better.
Going through a separation sounds like your still married and or still with that individual by law of land and by God Almighty. So it's not opinionated or guessed to understand that in fact bottom line answer is yes that person would be considered having adultery. Do yourself a favor and get one relationship completely over and re-discover your self worth before starting another.
My ex openly had an affair and they both told me that they were having a relationship.. They were flirting in front of me. I found them in our bed together. Would anyone think after I left her and had to wait three years for the divorce to finalize that a relationship during that time is adultery? My ex blocked the divorce until she would have had to appear in court for trial. Greatly depends in the circumstances...
You can but you will always do it. wrong
By definition it's adultery. That being said, I don't necessarily think it's wrong. I knew someone who was technically still married to someone that she left because she got beat by him. Due to financial reasons, she couldn't finalize the divorce, but I don't see how it's right to say someone needs to keep herself for an abusive guy that she will never be with again.
I'm sure no one ever gets prosecuted for adultery, but it is still against the law and morally wrong.
@Allesana Against the law depends on the location, but I disagree on the morality part of it. I don't think it's inherently right, or that it can't be wrong. I just think it depends on the situation.
I guess I should also clarify. Technically speaking having sex is where the adultery line is at, not merely dating.
i dont know about your state, but here where i am from, dating someone before the divorce is final is classed as adultery.. Not illegal mind you, but it will drastically effect how the divorce comes out. It will look extremely bad on you.
It is not typically considered adultery in a legal sense at least... a separation is in most regards the same as a divorce just not binding But I would say for me it would certainly not make reconciliation likely
If you both have consented to a separation, then it is time to start making your way for a new life. If you find someone who is worth dating, be friends first. Don't jump right away from the fat into the fire, go slow.
I dated a guy who was separated from his wife. Then they reconciled. This happens more often than you would think.
It's not adult if you are separated unless your partner thinks there is a chance of a reconciliation
I would say yes because my sister did it, but her and the person she was being seperated from had a mutual agreement about it.
I think legally it depends on the state and morally depends on the couple
Not really. You're still married and a separation is to see if you can live without the spouse not with another person. It's honestly a disservice to yourself
Best probably to wait for it to be fully done as not to add to the drama.
I agree with victorvolf. Many people date and even have sex while separated. I don't think it is considered adultery because you are separated.
If you and your partner are separated, and you’ve made it clear you’ve ended things, it’s not adultery.
If the relationship is irrevaocably broken down, and thats understood by both parties, then you're free to do what you like
I wouldn't consider it adultery but I wouldn't call it kind either, wait till it's all over, at least out of respect for the other person.
Under some circumstances. And according to the definition, it’s only adultery if they have sex while one is still married.
Depends on the nature of the separation. If it's not official, at bare minimum it's in bad taste. If it is? Inadvisable, but fine. Inadvisable because, well, it is better to start something new once the only thing is finished for certain.
I would considered adultery since you guys are still married... and I believe you should not date right away just for respect
Do you consider to buying a dildo moving to fast or cheating? ?
I would wait until you get the papers, that can get messy.
Some might think it adultery because you are still married/together.
Hmm. Even if they’re getting ready for divorce?
yes until those paper are sign not good idea to really date
A separation is almost as final as a divorce these days. It wasn't meant to be like that but that is the way it is now.
If you have to ask them you know wrong. why even carry that baggage to the next person? use your head
If you were smart, you would have started dating before filing the papers.
I don't think it's ok unless you've agreed to the split and to cut ties with the relationship.
I would say dont date till it is officially over because if you dont it's like walking through a mine field blindfolded
Dude It’s called cheating, you are still together !!!
Even if you are separated you still legally married until divorced.
No. Get your self settled first and not just your relationship but you yourself as well.
I would date a woman who was separated or take seriously just because she checking to see what better. Then it happens to me.
No work out your problems there is a reason you're seperated.
He cheated and he doesn’t want to work things out. Why be with someone that don’t want to be with you plus messing around with other women.
they must 100% KNOW that you two are separated FOR GOOD. Otherwise it's fucked in my opinion
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