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Too focused on the wedding, like that is an accurate depiction of how the marriage will go - which it isn't. They set the standards too high, which builds up a fantasy in their mind that simply won't come true. People have to understand marriage is way more than combined incomes, sex, having children, going on dates. Marriage also involves fighting, disliking the other person, uncertainty, disappointments. Even with all that you're still supposed to love, and a lot of people can't love when things get tough, which basically proves they're not in love
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Many women are so focused on their dream wedding, that investment in a true relationship is secondary. They get their dream wedding only to find the person they married are not for them. And they don't put in as much effort on keeping their relationship/marriage strong, as they did planning their dream wedding. Sad really, as a dream wedding, big engagement ring, wedding ring, truly mean nothing. They seem to put more emphasis on those, when in fact without knowing and being with the one you truly love makes the marriage.
But keep in mind, most little girls start dreaming and planning their dream wedding, and as adults that is their goal to obtain.
You can plan the crap out of an event that lasts for a day, but you can hardly plan how a relationship is going to turn out.
Because they go all out on a wedding spending a ton of money they don't have. Then when they can't pay their bills because they are still paying for the wedding they start fighting over finances and whose fault it is. Why did we invite all your hillbilly relatives? Why did you invite your lame friends who ate like horses at the reception. And yours broke out moonshine and spiked the punch and everyone got drunk and trashed the place and we have to pay for the damages.. So the fighting continues and they go under financially and get foreclosed on and that's all they wrote.
I think it varies on the woman. Some might do it to get money, some just for the experience, some need to get into another country and that was it, some couldn't handle it or wasn't ready for it. And other times both people just grow apart. You might even have some cheating on either side or lies and crazy stuff. There are just too many reasons why a woman gets divorced after planning marriage her whole life. I'd ignore it though, find whatever girl is truly in t for the long run and is ready for that time of commitment.
A lot of marriages turn out to be not so suited for the couple. Sometimes, one person has to leave their SO because their SO is endangering them. You can't just assume that all divorces are because of someone getting tired of the dream they had of wanting to have a spouse. Plus, this question and the poll options kinda make you look like an asshole. Maybe instead of getting tunnel vision, you could open your eyes and see that not every marriage is some happy dream that gets crushed by "selfish" women.
It's easier to put it this way than actually seeing the reasons why divorce actually happens. A girl dreams about weddings because actually thats the biggest party she will ever throw with all attention on her on her happy day. Divorce happens because one of the couple starta acting a certain way that is either abusive or tormenting or other reason not just child support not cause she is spoiled or any of those reasons u mentioned. Ur qst is so disrespectful the reasoms are rven more disrespectful..
They're ingrained with these beliefs from a young age with things like Barbie and Ken, house (childhood game), and Disney movies.They grow up believing thing these fantasies about how great is it but then reality finally sets in add either the person they married isn't right for them or it's not what they wanted.
They lack intelligence. It's simple. Before you get married to someone, filter the fuck outta them. Learn all their qualities. Be realistic about whether you will work out or not. Most women, just get emotionally attached to the guy because they bond with them and they have history with the guy.
No one plans to get married just to get a divorce. Its a gamble and I believe with some people when you put that tittle on it some people just take it over board and want to forget what brought them together. They lose track and do everything else and forget to communicate and do things as a family. Always remember what brought y’all together.
They dream of a wedding, not a marriage. They underestimate the work and dedication involved.
Just what I was gonna say. Women are obsessed with wedding. People dont believe in till death do us part anymore even if the spouse is going to be loving and giving through out. We now have divorce without fault. A lot of women choose partners that are available when they are finally ready to settle down.Also there is a huge gaps between the guys a lot of women choose to have fun with and the guys they end up with (usually not that fun but care enough to not play with their feelings and eventually put a ring on it)
i think people think you find someone you love, you get married, and all is well. but marriage is hard. really hard. and people and their desires can change. nobody gets married wanting to get divorced. it feels like a personal failure to most.
Because lots of women in this generation are taught that marriage is just something to throw away when things aren't going perfectly. Seriously the leading cause of divorce is boredom. On top of that nearly 80% of all divorces are initiated by women.. Let that sink in.. On top of that in nearly 90% of all divorce cases if there are children involved the mother gets custody child support and alimony.. Thank god i married someone that actually values marriage.
You didn't give a great selection of options here. They all are very negative. If she got her dream wedding. Then next step is a loving marraige. If that's not provided who cares about the "dream wedding". Why would any woman stay in a bad relationship just because "my wedding was amazing."?
It could be one or all of the above. Most people don't take marriage vows or the marriage itself seriously. You are only important till someone else comes along that they think is better for whatever reason. Divorce rates are spiraling out of control. The chances of anyone staying in the same marriage is extremely low.
Because once they are married they know they can get divorced and steal the man's stuff.When they are growing up they think of marriage as part of a loving relationship, but as they get older they realize the law helps women and penalizes men so they take advantage of it.
Because in all the stories and fairytales and movies we're spoon-fed as children, the wedding is seen as the end goal, the "happily ever after." the spectacular finale, the end to all problems.And then we find out that oops, that's not real life at all. Just because the wedding was great doesn't mean the marriage will be.
No one gets married really intending to get divorced. It happens for many reasons, and is usually something a couple decides mutually.
Bullshit they don't... https://blogs. findlaw. com/celebrity_justice/2015/06/chris-rocks-prenup-expired-before-divorce. htmlarticles.chicagotribune.com/.../0203270022_1_prenuptial-agreements-jane-welch-clausesWhen in doubt, throw them out completely.brandongaille.com/.../What is a 'fair' prenup? Mutually decided divorces are 20% or less. Women bring about 80% of them.
@demonics Who files, and who decided on getting divorce are two different things. My husband filed but we both wanted the divorce. Why did he spend all this money on a wedding to a woman he already didn't like?
You're saying your situation trumps the states? By all means share some data that says women initiate 80% of divorces BUT they are mutually agreed upon. From a legal standpoint, the person initiating is entitled to some (most of if woman) of the other persons shit. The divorcee has to 'defend' themselves so to speak. Simply put, if there were no cash and prizes, and social stigma, women wouldn't be getting divorced so frickin much.
@demonics I'm saying that judging who initiated a divorce by who filed is inaccurate. For most people who get divorced, it's a decision arrived at mutually.
Sometimes shit happens and people make mistakes choosing a partner. People can change a lot through out the years, and maybe the person either the wife or husband turned into doesn't make it work anymore.
The wedding is the party. The marriage is the rest of your life. Focus on marrying the right person and the rest of your life can be a celebration of love.
No one dreams of getting married then divorced, its just when reality hits you, the stresses of life and other people non stop stupid conduct can drive a person to just finally quit and get out of the marriage.Divorce is evil, to make that clear.
Becuase they dreams of the occasion the ceremony but not about life after marriage I guess then think mostly about the sweet thing in a marriage but not about the worse part of that...
Maybe because now that the husband has a wife he decides he no longer has to make an effort
That could be the case but women also stop putting in the effort to but men are less likely to leave.
That's because men are less likely to find another long term partner
That's incorrect. Women have it harder to find a longterm partner but easier to find a new sex partner.Lets assume u are right. So basically women have too many options that leaving a marriage isn't such a big deal. Why does anyone want to marry a woman?
Shouldn't the question be why stop making the effort after marriage?
If both and women can relent on their efforts and women double times more likely to leave the marriage then my question is still valid
I'm not saying women can relent on their efforts, I never said that. I don't think either one should stop putting in the effort
True but im also saying women shouldn't be so quick to leave. If u ask married men how their marriage is doing, a lot would say, "its ok" and to them just 'okay' isn't a cause for concern. on the other hand women have this garden of eden expectation of marriage and constant self happiness checks and once a marriage is just ok, then its boring and someone else becomes more exciting.Its important for partners to make each other feel special but in society its a mans job to constantly assure his woman with compliments. There are lots of men that never get constant compliments in their relationship, yet they don't even think about it. Tho women sometimes compliment or appreciate their man it has never been their JOB to reassure us. Our happiness is independent.A man ALWAYS has to prove his love and has to notice every detail.Women are not children
The amount of vast generalizations you make shows me that no matter what I say this conversation will not be enlightening for you. If you want to see women as children then go ahead, be gay or alone, makes no difference to me.
What i have said is from stats from marriage counsellors, divorce lawyers, relationship experts on divorce without without fault. Nothing here is generalised. I speak of a majority of cases not all cases.U also fail to admit that its a not a good thing that women are Too swift to leave a marriage when they are not satisfied.Life would have been way easier if I was into guys tho. I just think from a young age, we are thought wrong ideas of marriage and unhelpful expectations from the opposite sex.I love women but how can marriage be attractive to men when women are so willing to leave. This is a growing sentiment with millennial men.
That's because I'm not admitting it. If women are unsatisfied then yes they should find better if their partner isn't cooperative. I think saying that women are so willing to leave a marriage is a big generalization. You have no idea how willing a woman is to leave a marriage. It could be and likely is a very difficult decision for her. I'm just saying maybe you should focus the blame on women and maybe look at your own actions and see how that affects the relationship. Stop shifting the blame whenever it's convenient, take some damn responsibility for your own actions
Like i said, its NOT all women. I'm saying in cases of divorce without fault, women are the champions.Behavioral patterns show that most of the time when the woman express desire for no fault divorce she it ain't feeling hard to leave no more.Women (not all) have a habit of not being satisfied. There would be way more divorces if men divorced women based on their satisfaction levels.If its a good thing to leave when a partner at a point is not cooperative then men should do it more often.
If a man is unhappy with his wife and she isn't being cooperative then maybe yes the marriage isn't working out. The problem is probably that people are getting married too quickly. I don't know what you want me to say. All women are evil monsters who prey on weak idealistic future husband's? Is that what you want me to say? Or are you just saying all this to try and sound really clever?
a marriage can be mediocre and yet its cause for no concern to a man, so a woman not doing the work might not be a reason for divorce. All women are monsters? Im not sure that has anything to do with this conversation. Its like that part was meant for someone else.In all my statement I have at least tried to use "(not all women)". If all women are evil monsters, then its the fault of the "weak idealistic future husbands" to marry them to begin with.I think u came only teach without an open mind.U've said what I wanted to know, that its okay for a man to leave when his wife isn't being cooperative. It makes sense for a man to leave cos if the tables were turned a lot of women would.
Alright I'm done with this conversation, thank you for wasting my time with your confusing dribble. If you want to be taken seriously learn to take a second and proof read because there's been a lot of miscommunication here. I'm trying my best but honestly I am struggling to understand what you're trying to say. Make your points and arguments clear, then we can talk.
My woods are always taken seriously. I'm sure i have to make extra effort for some people to get it.I agree. This conversation was pointless.
What effor do women put in?
Because they can't handle a big responsibility and to get married is a very big responsibility coz u will have children and family so u won't only think about ur self
Divorce wil affect at least 50% of us. Why the hell spend 10's of thousands on a Party you won't really remember, WHEN you can put that same money onto a house and have a place to live until one of them cheats on the other and splits.
From what I noticed, it's either because of cheating or abuse. My aunt had to divorce her husband since he was abusive. Why do men get married then divorce? Same concept
Because they don't want to actually be married... They want the benefits of it... like a woman with lifetime pussy checks is the same coolness rank as a guy who flys fighter jets or has a fat ass collection of muscle cars and and bikes... You don't want their autograph but you know their days are cooler than yours
They grow up being taught to give into a fantasy. It’s not exactly their fault.
All women got together and came up with a plan to see if we could get someone to ask this question on GAG.And I am happy to say. it worked!!!
ew what you know divorce and marriage isn't all just one person
Probably because the people they married weren't apart of that dream.
Wedding is one thing, just one day. Marriage is something completely different.
Because sometimes the guy they end up marrying isn’t the right man for them.
Because they spent decades dreaming about their weddings.
Religion. From experience with friends who was involved in it.
Because they dream about getting married itself not living a married life plus a lot are unhappy can't expect them to stay if they arnt happy I wouldn't
Cause there's a massive pressure on women to get married and "if you're not married by 30 you're failing" on top of that a lot of guys are oblivious jerks and when we find a nice one, whether or not he's compatible everyone says to "keep him"
weddings are stupid marriages are stupid all a waste of money
You mentioned dreaming of the wedding not the marriage. I think that answers it all right there.
Well if you get divorced then you can have another wedding
Because wedding is the very easy part. Marriage actually takes hard work and commitment.
Date Latin immigrant females. They don't have the ego or entitlement issues.
The family court grantees them a big fat check for doing it. And to a woman men are nothing more than atm machines
They fall in love with the idea of marriage, not the marriage itself.Life is not fairytale
Are u serious? this is why you're single 😆
I'm not single...
Would appear they dreamt only of the wedding day, not the time afterwards.
Because marriage isn't a magic bond that can't break. If the relationship can't last as it is then marriage won't fix that
To have another one. Haha! JK
Most of the time there is abuse, verbal of physical from what I've seen with friends and family
Spoiled. Most of them have had everything handed to them.
They are more interested in appearances then the man they are married to
It just doesn't always work out.
All of the above and more.
Because girls need new dick!
This isn't my dream. Will never will be
They want a wedding. Not a marriage. That's why.
They didn't want to work at it.
The white prince proved to be an imposter
Because. They have stadards?
I actually never dreamed about my wedding.
Cus hey can’t predict the future
Women are extremely superficial
All of the above
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