Ok so recently I have talked a little with the ex I split up with a little over 2 months ago. It has been a tough few months but I am over the worst of it and moving on with my life. I have accepted we will not get back together and she seems keen to be friends again. I miss her at times but the idea of friends doesn't seen as impossible as it did 2 months ago.
She has a new boyfriend whom I've met before and he is a nice guy so I would'nt do anything to jeopardise their relationship.
We've had a few brief chats about general stuff/ life etc which is fine but we have not had any proper chat about our relationship.
I don't want to stew over the past too much but at the same time she did a few hurtful things that were out of line.
Now we're talking again I don't know whether to bring this up or let things remain in the past. It's nice to talk to her again and it's great that we are getting along but at the same time it bugs me that she acts like nothing happened. I don't want to upset her or think that I hold some grudge towards her because I don't but I also believe in standing up for yourself.
I just feel if we are going to be friends I should not be keeping this to myself as I think I deserve an apology as much as anything. I'm just wondering how to bring up these feelings without coming across bitter?
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Do you think it would be worth it to still say something to her about these things you don't have closure with? Sometimes this need for closure never ends, but if it is unbearable, sometimes it can make you feel better to let it out, too (reasonably without making yourself look bad). I wrote out a lot of the thoughts and feelings I was having down, all of it. Wait a day, wait a few days, read it over to see if it's reasonable and not going to make you look too bad (although what is going on in your mind, the answers you need, and knowing what is reasonable sometimes can only be found to be reasonable once a dialogue has been started with the other person). It really depends on all of the little details of what happened between the two of you. My heart goes out to you, I've been through it, I think many people do nowadays. Good luck and try to focus on other things that make you feel good about life (exercise, activities, job or getting a better job) - that is what I try to do. Take care, I hope this helps.0