I am a single 27 year old male... Have been trying to get back with my Ex (we were together for 6 years and have 3 kids) I am a firm believer of an Ex is an Ex for a reason... But with kids involved and the fact of how we broke up I feel there maybe an exception for this.. so here is is a little history I moved away for work almost a year and a half ago and she was suppose to come 2 months after I moved but things fell through and she decided to stay close to her family... which ended up in me calling it off as we were over 1000 km away from each other and the fact I was never able to get in touch with her to talk to her or our kids... 4 months ago she moved close to where I am. About out 6 weeks ago she started telling me she wanted us back together and wanted to be a family again... But she refused to tell her family... So I emailed her sister and told her that we were together again and she has been lying to her and the rest of the family(to me seems they know she is with someone else and that is why she did not want to tell them) but anyways her sister questioned her about and she lied to her sister(the sister sent me MSN conversation to show she was denying it so I sent some in detail conversation back to the sister with my ex) over the last week she has told me she can not be with me she wants to be friends for now until she gets help that she needs etc. So I told her OK I am not putting my life on hold for her and when she is ready she knows where I am and she freaked on me saying I have someone else and I want nothing to do with her etc but I have asked her many times since she freaked and same answer and I have explained to her it is not me asking to be friends it is her what I do not understand is why freak on me when it is her telling me she doesn't want it right now and I am giving her what she wants... any input welcome :)
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You are right that it's different when kids are involved, and ofcourse you love your kids =).
You are right to say that you are just giving her what she wants, she doesn't want a relationship with you right now...
and you are right about just not waiting on her...
don't let her control your life, and make you feel anything. If she doesn't love you then she doesn't and you can't help that.
Just go out and have fun and be with the people that does love you. Even if you do love her, being with someone who makes you feel frustrated and low isn't that great for you.
That's what I think.1