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That is natural, especially if you saw him in person. It sounds like you became overwhelmed and flustered, then began panicking because of it. It's just your hearts way of reminding you that you still have feelings for that guy, and that you're definitely NOT over things yet. Don't panic when you see him, try to ignore him and focus on whats around you. Surround yourself with good friends, family, and do things to make you happy. Breakups are hard, and it takes a long time to get over someone we once loved, but it does happen eventually. I wouldn't stress too much about this, do know it's normal and it's okay to feel anxiety about the breakup still. You will get over it soon, and you will be okay on your own. You were just fine before you met him, so you'll be more than alright without him. :) Best wishes!
The problem is all those years together. We had a relationship over more than 9 years
They say that when breakups happen, it takes twice as long as the time you were together to get fully over them, and to be able to move on. In your case, that would be 18 years!! However, I think once you begin keeping your mind off of things, and realizing there's so much more to your life than that relationship, it'll be better. :) Have you thought about dating in the near future? Even just casually dating to see whos out there, or to make a friend who can take your mind off the old relationship? Sometimes moving fast is the best choice if you have the opportunity. When I went through my breakup, it took me a long time to recover, but i found myself an amazing guy bff who helped me through a lot. He eventually became my boyfriend, but I do highlight the importance friends have during a breakup. Keep them close, and try to introduce yourself to new people if you're ready. :) You dont have to date, but open your social cirlce a bit can do wonders
Describe to me what this “anxiety attack” feels like
My chest begins to hurt. I feel pressure. I cannot breath till I begin crying. Sometimes I have cold.
Hmmm sound interesting, and you feel this way everytime you think about your ex?
The first month was everytime. At nights, at work, all day. But today they are trying to appear again.
Why do think you feel this way? Did he break up with you?
Yes, he did.
Ok and saw yourself having his kids and living happily ever after right?
We were together for almost a decade.. Obviously I had those plans..
Well I’m not sure what his reasoning for breaking up with you was but I kinda went through the same thing I realize that me and this girls weren’t meant for each other, but I did it so she could find someone who fits more with her personality, maybe he did the same.
We were too good to be true. Soulmates.. He just decided to be alone when I took him out from his safes zone. He didn't have studies. I impulse him to do it. And when he saw he was able to do new things like going to college and stuff, he decided to leave me
It’s probably for the better, now your free to be with someone who can love you the way you need to be loved and so can he, so think about that next time you have anxiety attack
Thanks. But after this kind of situation.. You lose faith in love. At least, that's how I feel right now.
Joy will come again
My ex broke up with me 3 months ago and the first month was hell for me because I kept getting anxiety , I also kept assuming the worst case scenario. I felt that talking about it worked, or at least it calmed me down. I know i annoyed my friends and family too much so a friend recommended me a website called " 7cups" where you can freely talk to people about anything (its free if you click on "listeners"). Long story short I was able to talk to whoever i wanted about my breakup and its good getting an outside opinion. Also, i kept watching youtube videos on breakups, one channel i found that helped is this guy called "askcraig" he has all sorts of videos about breakups. Anyways, i hope you feel better, just thought id share what worked for me!
do you care for dating me in your dreams :)))
I tried it. It was not good enough.
You need psychotherapy then.
I tried psychoanalysis and holistic therapy.. My results.. They only appreciated the money.
You need the right people then, I wouldn't give up on it, because the likelihood of you finding a magical cure on your own is highly unlikely. It's either that, or you just learn to get over it.
Thank you. I'll try it better. It's hard to do it alone
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