I also don't think people desperate to change are necessarily the ones with the highest probability of changing, because desperate people are in no condition to really learn and make permanent changes to their psychology and lifestyle. It's usually people with a more calm mindset that start to learn from their mistakes. The desperate ones usually only do the minimum to gain back whatever they lost through their mistakes, only to work their way back to their old habits.
Don't see it as an issue of "wanting it badly enough". That's something I disagree with on shows like The Biggest Loser where the coaches are like, "Do you want this badly enough?" That show has a horrible turnaround apparently where most of the contestants put back on all the weight, sometimes even more, after the show. Because these kinds of permanent changes, if they are to be permanent and sustainable, don't come about from "wanting it badly enough". They come about from appreciating every single little babysteps, realizing each one is making your life better for you and everyone you care about, to the point of appreciating it enough to sustain it.
And that might seem strange to compare a physical transformation to a mental/psychological one (ex: someone learning to be more mature, accountable, treat people better, etc), but I see both as similar. Actually true physical transformations that are sustainable generally require a psychological transformation, and psychological transformations are really difficult for people to do. But they generally only become possible when the person genuinely appreciates every little babystep of progress they make towards their goal without just feeling pressured to make that step for some more immediate desire fueled by desperation.
So I do not trust desperate, emotional types of people to make changes in a sustainable way. I'm more trusting of people who seem to be appreciating the progress they're making independently of some desperate goal.
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