I have been dating this guy for five months, and the relationship is progressing slowly but nicely. He's four years older. 20-24. Him and I see each other around twice a week, sleep together, et cetera. He's very honest, sweet and respectfull. We have been exclusive for about two months, but he still refers to us as just dating and won't call me his girlfriend. When I met him he was going through a hard separation with his longtime girlfriend. She moved away. In a year from now, he is also moving away and I've known this from the start, that whatever happened between him+me would be shortlived. He loves her, and that's OK with me. Yes, he had initially started using me as his comfort blanket, but I have become more than that to him. I feel that even though he will run to her in due time, are I g h t and o w, he's is with MOI. And we truly are in a relationship, so why can he not have the decency of refering to me as his girlfriend? His friends do know we've been dating for a while. Why does a title matter so much? It does'nt, it's more so the fact that he is not using it. Why am I not finding someone who wants me as his first choice and will love me? Because I too am moving away shortly after him so it would be problematic whoever I am with. In the end, there will be pain. But, I am happy with him, so I'm not giving this up. I crave your thoughts on the matter, please read and respond! Thank you so much.
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I just got through the exact same situation. My guy and I dated for 4 and a half months and we were never boyfriend/girlfriend. Our friends knew we were seeing each other, so it was no secret. He's planning to move to Europe next year and he plans to stay there for 5 years so I felt that it was best if we stopped seeing each other (Europe was only one of the many reasons why I dumped him). The reason why we were never official was because of his future plan to move. I guess having the title would make it harder to leave someone and that it established the notion that you two are together on a serious level. I still think that's a bullsh*t reason for not being official because it felt like we were an actual couple. I was finally starting to let my guard down and I was starting to fall in love with him. But moving to Europe is his dream and I did not want to be the one to hold him back.
Now it's been almost 2 months since we broke up and he's seeing someone new. We go to the same school and he usually hangs out in this one spot in between classes, so we bump into each other. Although I'm over the concept of "us", it still angered me to see that he's already moved on. But knowing that he's not looking for anything serious and knowing how willing he was to just leave me for Europe, makes me feel better because I know he'll do the same to her as well.0