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No. like you said it stirs up drama and problems.
No I didn't I said it would not stir up drama and problems
i wasn’t referring to you
I'm not close to anyone from previous relationships however it's friendly if I meet them. That we don't hang out is not so much because the relationship ended, but they're not "my people" and I think moving on to leave room for a new person to be "in my place" is a good thing.I would feel awkward meeting someone who's parents still met up with the ex and have a close relationship. The judging and comparing would be there, not so much to their intent maybe but it would be automatic.Healthy boundaries is a good standpoint in this situation.The only person I did have a close relationship with was the grandmother to my children's father whom I did not see for 4 ears after our separation but whom asked for me on her deathbed and I was the only one who she wanted to talk to going through her motions.I count myself blessed in that.However you do you 😊 Just make room for a new "daughter in law" ❤️
What was the reason for your breakup with him? Did he do something to mistreat you?If so, If your ex's family chooses to stay in touch with you, I think it's likely because they're aware of his mistreatment of you and he disgraced the family. They're not going to cut him off solely because he's family, but they prefer your company and still welcome you as family.This is much like my parents when they divorced. My dad is f*cked up and neglected and abused my mom. And his family was well aware of his treatment of her. That is why my mom was still considered family to them while my dad was borderline-outcasted. Yet on my mom's side, he was entirely outcasted.If this is like your case, your new family should accept any other guy you should find, as long as he treats you well.
He never mistreated me, I went off to college & him to the army so I believe we grew apart from eachother. I got into another relationship sometime later and she was always still there for me. I feel like its one of those situations you have to go through in order to agree with or not be biased
Oh... Well nevermind then...
I know somebody with that situation though. Their son is a pos and when the couple split up, they spend more time with the ex than their own son
In your case, I guess since the breakup was seemingly mutual, maybe that's why his parents are okay with you?
I just consider her a motherly figure in my life, if i really think about it, I don't know why she still cares about me
Keep your friendship. Life is going to be full of awkward relationships. This is a great way to build character for you and to test your current s. o. your S. O. should be okay with a friendship between two females and if not then that's a red flag that he's possibly insecure and something to address with them,( ... your significant other)
I’m currently in the “I’m thinking of breaking up with him” process and I can tell you that if I do decide to leave him, fuck his parents and sister! They are liars and always facilitating and I understand that’s their kid so they’ll take his cheating side, but don’t be fake and tell me to call you “mom” if you’re going to act like him having a whole other girlfriend and inviting her to your house is not a big deal😤 needless to say, nope. I’m practically done with all of them!
I completely understand in that situation! Im sorry you're having to go through that. I dated a guy for 2 years and we went our separate ways but his mom and I are still friends to this day. I dated another guy for 2 years and his mom and I were never able to get along & I think thats what caused a lot of problems with our newly ended relationship. If his momma dont like you and he's close to his momma, it was best for me to just remove myself from that situation altogether.
Oh yeah. I’ve been in my relationship for 11 years. I felt like I deserved a little more respect. If not from him, at least his family. But whatever. Essentially, his mom is going to be a rift in your relationship. It sucks cause he could be awesome but I would never put myself in a relationship where there is dislike towards me. Like I want happy moments during Christmas and to be able to share as a family, not bad auras or feeling like the person I’m with has to choose between me or his parents
Ending a relationship or marriage is not equal to war. So why would it be impossible? Or in another way, if you dislike a friend, does it mean you dislike a friend of that disliked friend? Your ex's mother is a friend, nothing more, nothing less. And some friendships last forever...
I wouldn't say "close" but I do maintain contact with my ex's sister. She doesn't seem to have any problem with me being in a new relationship. We stay in touch and probably interact about once a month or so.
His mum isn't going to care about you dating somone new after 2 years. Im still friends with the familt of an ex i broke up with 11 years ago. Just go for it.
My friend recently got a divorce and her parents loved her ex husband and then she kidnapped her dogs and refuesd to give her the money when they sold thier house (she put down the whole down payment and most of the mortgage but for some reason the house was under his name)
I wouldn't say close, but I occasionally talk to my ex's parents like friends. In your case I don't think it would stir mixed feelings any more than you and your ex breaking up.
Who cares. It’s your life. She’s just friends with you. Like seriously.. who cares if it stirs up feelings. You just gonna stop everything for a ex’s moms feelings?
Not for an exs moms feelings, but if a new person came along and didn't like that you are still friends with an exs mom. Like do you tell him tough luck, she's like my own momma or cut ties and risk y'all working out😂👏
It might but sounds like you found a good friend. Be sensitive you can be friends without being in the home where you Will run into your ex. With phones today your friendship can keep on growing. Just be smart about it
We’re not on bad terms but nobody kept in contact with me afterwards. So no contact whatsoever with my ex family or her.
My ex wife is closer to my siblings than I am. But I have no problem with it
I'd imagine nobody would be that's just taboo and weird.
usually not like I had a bestfriend and I loved her parents and I just had to let them go even tho it wasn't there fault
I think his mom won't mind if he was doing fine without you
I wouldn't say we are close. But her mom and i get along still. Unfortunately my ex is crazy and her mom knows it. So we bonded over that.
No I was tutored by her grandfather in high school but that’s it
Maybe his mom is still hoping you'll get back together.
I would not be suprised if that was a case😂 its not though, she just happened to be there for me when my own mom wasn't.
Has that caused any issues with your ex and his mom? Kind of hard to be there for both people in a break up.
Nope. He has his relationship with her and i have mine, its separate like talking with her i never have to see or hear about him unless i were to ask
Okay that's good. Although how does your new boy feel about it? He might feel odd seeing his new girlfriend chatting with her ex's family.
He always felt weird about it but I really don't understand why. His mom never liked me so that could have played a part in his uneasiness.
I’m not close to any of my ex’s or their family.
No contact whatsoever
I'm always close to my family
Treat her as an individual not as ur ex's mother!
Are you seeing anyone
Not anymore but when I was, it was just something he had to deal with bc his momma didn't like me
Sorry to hear that
You can't win em all over. 💁 Hate to admit that in the end, all you get are your memories. People come and go but family is forever. Its always different for different situations though so I can't say anything for certain
I know we just met do you want to go out
It probably won't
I am sure and I love my family very much
No not at all
Yes in one case
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