so I just found out that the guy I'm sleeping with has a girl friend and I want to know why he cheated on her. I really want to say somethings to both of them but I feel like I should be the better person and just walk away, I have no feeling for this guy any more, I did at one point in my life but it didn't work and now its just sex or at least was just sex until I found out that he had a girl friends, so I guess I just wanna know what makes a man want to cheat? and yes I know women cheat too. I just don't understand why you whould have a relationship if you just want sex, there is a lot of people out there that don't mind just having good sex, why break some ones heart?
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The man and women who cheat/have cheated ratio is about the same, this "guys cheat more" thing may have been true in the past but not any longer.
PEOPLE cheat mostly because of their own fears and insecurities, when someone is insecure they tend to "prove" otherwise, if someone can have more than one sexual partners it may instinctively make them feel powerful. Remember we're animals with the gift of reason, yet, animals. So those instincts may act against us if we let them.
I recommend you read something from Helen Fisher, an anthropologist who has devoted her life to try to understand love and its consequences, you might like "WHY WE LOVE: The Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love" this might seem as an ad but I do personally recommend that book. It helped me understand things I pondered about for years, such as your own question.6