I broke up with my boyfriend because even though I care deeply about him, and I love him and respect him, I just don't think that in the long run he is the person I want to be with. I know it doesn't really make sense, but there's just a lot of things between us that don't work and I just feel that in the end its not gonna work out.
He told me that he loved me and didn't want anyone but me, and I told him last thing in the world I wanted to do was to hurt him but that I just didn't see it working. He asked me why, and I didn't know how to answer... the point is that while I know its not gonna work out I do care about him a lot and I don't want him to be hurt. We have classes together so I've tried to be as nice, and helpful as possible but I think he thinks we are back together... and I don't know what to do. I really don't want him to be hurt, but I just want to be alone right now. What should I do. Is there any way to make it clear to him that we are done without hurting him? is there any way I could help him make a transition from our relationship to a friendship?
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Without being rude or sounding mean, your being selfish. If you ended the relationship and came to the conclusion "you love him but you don't want to be with him" this is your way of coping with a broken relationship. Truth is you don't love him the way he loves you anymore and being friends with him will only give him false hope. You need to stop talking to him for both of your sakes, but give him closure. Look deeper and explain why it really can't work. He needs to hear it to move on. For the first time in my life I have been jaded and did not get the closure I needed after 3.5 years with a girl that said she wanted to marry me. Them I got every line in the book after I was scared to commit. She wouldn't be straightforward, wanted to be friends and has hurt me to the point of severe depression, and that is not the person I ever was
Do him a favor, give him closure... don't be friends (this is just a way to cope it hurts both parties in the end) and start to heal. Breaking up sucks, its the worst feeling in the world, and false hope makes things worst in the end. Trust me on this, I've been on both sides of the fence, hit rock bottom, and lost the person I should have spent my life with... buy no contact and closure will help him and you heal.0