Anyways, I have made amends and he wants to stay in touch and has been making effort to see me for months. At some point after our break up I blocked him because I was devastated, but he found a way to contact me and managed to cry and confess that he tried dating someone but that it didn’t work because he still loves me. Then proceeded to ask why I blocked him which I know I shouldn’t have, given that I really hurt him during the relationship. we made up and He says he still loves me and believes in future, but then he stopped making plans and I found out he’s dating the girl again. And now, he still texts me to causally ask how I’m doing and even calls every day... I talked to him about this and asked what’s going on and he said he doesn’t know why he still contacts me, but he said he doesn’t wanna lose me and that he loves me very much and then proceeds to deny still dating her (so as not to hurt me , I had a habit of getting v jealous and upset; of maybe they’re just on and off idk) The situation is not ideal as I personally also do not wanna date given my situation in life right now, however I am working towards bettering my life and meanwhile it seems he’s busy with someone, All while having no apparent idea why he still contacts me.. I don’t wanna cut him off. But I don’t want him thinking I will be here waiting hand and foot either. I asked him to please stop saying there’s future if he’s with someone else. He said he’s sorry he told me that we have a future , that it’s because he doesn’t wanna lose me... I don't know what to do
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I was in the same position, me and my ex broke up but i still loved her, but she didn't loveme anymore.
Do not stay in contact, you keep having hopes of being together again, you'll feel conflicted being a friend when you feel like a girlfriend, and it will hurt a lot more than you can imagine when he finds a new girlfriend. You should break off contact, even though it hurts a lot, or you're just going to hurt yourself more.
I recently met my ex in a video game by accident, and it made me feel so bad i had to stop playing because i was shaking too much and couldn't see because i was crying, that is bound to happen every day if you stay in contact
Play tough with him. First of all, let him know you are not dating anyone right now, so you can fix the reasons why he broke up with you. Tell him you want to stay focused on your goals and be more successful. Second, explain that IF you are going to be together, there will be no “other girl”, and no denying it. If he needs hook ups are sex, he needs to get that all out of his system before he gets back with you. If you’re not together, then he should go hook up, ‘cause once you ARE together, YOU are his ONLY well (source of sex). I think getting back together, you need to put rules and boundaries in place, in order for you to STAY together.
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My ex wanted to stay in contact with me after he broke it off and then regretted it pretty soon after. We tried to remain friends but he still had feelings for me and ended up messaging me saying he wanted me back whilst I was with my current boyfriend. I had to tell him that we should no longer be in contact as it was messing with my relationship.
If he is seeing someone else and is happy then he shouldn't be messaging you. He needs to break it off with one of you, otherwise it's not fair because he's stringing one of you along or at least keeping you/her their as a back up option.