Most Helpful Girls
Greed. They know the court system will favor them, and they try to move up the hierarchy very quickly. So they get the man's wallet and go f'ck around. And I know most people wouldn't expect this to come from a woman, but I am sick of this disgusting attitude that women in this generation have.13
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Men have more to lose in a divorce than a woman. If you subsidize a certain behavior, you'll get more of it.
I don't agree with alimony.
Also, men tend to become really distant and cheat when a relationship is failing or there's problems. Then the woman gets fed up and leaves. I know they say most divorces are because of finance, but myself personally would be reserved for cheating, or abuse of any kind.
Also, women pick questionable partners. They pick men who they hope will change. But that's a dumb strategy in my opinion. Pick a partner who already has the traits they like, instead of hoping he'll acquire them later. I know some guys do this too, or overlook serious red flags, but women do it more. I can't tell you how many women think being "exclusive", marriage or even kids will change a man, only to be disappointed when he's still cheating after the vows were exchanged.7
Most Helpful Guys
That's an interesting statistic. Do you know what the definition of "initiate" was in this research? I'm curious because in my case she was the first one that mentioned the idea of divorce, but we stayed married for a while after that and I'm the one that actually initiated the separation, moved out, and filed for divorce. So I'm not sure which group I fall into.
Here's my guess about why women initiate it more. I think it might be because guys are less willing to admit that something's wrong. A lot of guys like to think they can fix anything and it's harder for them to accept failure at something. My guess is that the statistics would be similar for who initiates marriage counseling when the problems first start to get bad. That's something else I did, but from what I've heard most guys resist even going, much less be the ones to suggest it. If so, that seems to be evidence for my theory that guys think they can fix it and don't need anyone's help - or perhaps are just unwilling to acknowledge that the marriage is failing and needs outside help.4
LOL, it's because MEN have the most to lose during the divorce.
whereas most women from my observation only do it when they can guarantee their financial stability and lifestyle.
If the guy has much more money than her, she will "try much harder" :) than in the scenario where their income is relative.
This is one of the main reason. Most men (actually all men i know) make more money than their partners, some by 5-10x.
please don't hurt me7