I don't know how to tell the guy that I am with that he is just not my bag of chips.
He is adored by my two children, my whole family and taboot he is a DOCTOR! What else could a girl ask for?
However, I am miserable because I am not in love with him. I love him but not that way. How do I do this?
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Look staying with this guy is torture for you both. Although he may not know it you're hurting both of you by just sitting by and slowly dragging your feet through your relationship of misery. When you started the relationship it wasn't about your family's approval or your kids happiness or content with a guy, it was about you being happy.Don't force him to stay in a relationship that won't go anywhere because you are trying to make sure everyone else in your family enjoys life! Get out, let him be with someone who deserves his time, love and effort. And you do the same. Just talk to your kids about it first and try to get their approval, and hell if they will miss him too much (and it won't be weird) let him come around to see them after you two end things. But if he is truly the nicest person that you know then why would you allow yourself to contain him for no reason? Don't lead him on any longer, I know it'll be difficult but just step up and have the "hardest conversation" of your life and end things.
P.S. don't do it in public or places that you two had a great time. It's even more emotionally damaging. And once you've made up your mind, don't for any reason, back pedal.2