I'm doing this whole no contact thing for a while, and when I feel ready what should I say/do to get back into contact with my ex? Is it best to just start off with friendly chit-chat? And how long would you wait before initiating contact with an ex that broke up with you but it wasn't a horrible breakup? I do want to try to work things out most likely. A part of me doesn't even know if I should bother though... I'm going crazy haha. Too many questions going around in my head.
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I have been in your situation. I'm actually in it now with the only difference that I don't want to get back together (our break up WAS horrible). But, there is ONLY ONE WAY to not drive yourself nuts over this. Do not contact him first. You said he broke up with you (so he didn't have a problem initiating that). If he wants you back, I'm sure he will not have a problem initiating that either. The truth is that it hurts to wait for an answer and to wait for a reply from him. If he's interested he will contact you back. You don't have to do a thing. Just prepare yourself, live your life, and don't sit around waiting for something that may never happen. Even if he contacts you, it may be because he wants a friend back and not necessarily get back together with you. Save yourself some stress and DNC him first...and DO not wait on him. I drove myself crazy thinking that this meant this or that and I was probably dead wrong. We broke up over a year ago and have not seen each other since. I don't think that means we're getting back together. Time will always answer your questions even if it's in the form of one LONG and SILENT Nothing.0