I know several friends who have cheated on their gfs and their gfs take them back. Why?
I never understood this since I'm the type of guy who would get rid of a girlfriend if they ever did this to me (throw them out of the house, discard them like a "rabid dog"(bit of strong language but you get the point), w/e) (btw, I would never cheat on them period. I don't play around with relationships since they are relationships and not casual encounters since I think its pretty f'd up and selfish for anyone to do it). I mean there isn't really ever an excuse to cheat, right?
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When a woman has been cheated on, she feels used and has a low self value for a long time. As a result, it is difficult for her to see past the point where she last felt attractive, sexy, wanted -- which is usually when she picked up the *git* who cheated on her.
The point is that in a moment of weakness, no matter how much logic and empirical evidence a guy or girl happens to have on hand, if they're feeling vulnerable because they don't know what it is to truly be loved and cherished -- if all they know is what the git showed them -- then it IS possible they'll accept the git back.
The problem here is that you start an abusive cycle at that point and it lowers the self-worth of the person who took the git back. It also empowers the git, who will most likely cheat again since he/she "got away with it" the first time. The negative cycle can sprawl on forever...0