And so I felt like there's no point in being in a relationship with someone I don't trust
I said "I love you but I don't trust you, so I have to let you go"
I cried and he hugged me
He said "its okay, do what you gotta do, hope you find that right guy that you will trust, sometimes you gotta let someone you love go, but I will miss you"
And then I left and blocked him on all social media
Then this morning, he sent me an angry message saying this:
"Hey this is last message, but I wanted to say that... I can't believe you never trusted me, we have been together for over 2 years, all women are the same, always treat guys like shit, I tried to be a changed man, I did all the right things for you, I never cheated on you but you still never trusted me, so Im going to go back to my old f**kboy ways now, I already set up a date for that girl that likes me, and I'm probably going to f**k her tonight, I thought you were different to all the girls I've dated but I guess I was wrong, I really loved you, I can't love anyone else after you, so I'm just going to treat girls like shit, I don't give a shit anymore, so have a good life"
Why would he send me an angry message when last night he hugged me when I was crying and saying its okay?
What the fluck? :\
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He's hurt that you dumped him so he's playing a game with you, trying to hurt you back.
If he could contact a woman and set up a meeting to fuck her that fast after you broke up then maybe you had a reason to worry about him.
You're allowed to move on if you don't trust someone.
He's allowed to do whatever he wants now, but the fact that he's rubbing it in your face just seems like a tactic to get a reaction out of you.
Oh this one’s easy. He’s a guy and guys are taught to treat the women they love with more kindness than what we may be genuinely feeling in the moment. Ask any guy you know how often he’s pissed at his wife, or dissapointed by her, or embarrassed of her, or honestly just unattracted to her and how often he decided to just let it go. Guys are used to things not working out the way they hoped with girls so we work hard to maintain the small inklings of success we have. Think of it like choosing this suffering over that suffering because this suffering isn’t that bad and at times actually pleasant where as the other suffering is an unknown. And I know it sounds bad to paint relationships in this light but to be honest a very small minority of men (or really all people) end up with the girl of their dreams because that girl either doesn’t exist or does but is interested in someone else. Most people end up with who they feel is the best they could get. Or in other words a tiny piece of hope in a sea of disappointment is something to be treasured greatly. But you took that hope away because you didn’t trust him despite him doing everything he thought possible to be a trustworthy guy. If his immediate reaction was anger then he’d be tossing away his potential last chance to salvage things. However after sometime that little glimmer of hope starts to seem indistinguishable from the rest and you’re left wondering if you’ve been a fool. Some people don’t feel comfortable blaming themselves and point their disappointment outward at others. His words aren’t meant to inform you of his plans but rather to illicit some emotion from you. His wish is to have you share the pain he’s feeling. I doubt any guy who feels the need to send a text telling a girl he’s moved on has actually moved on and getting under a new girl is probably not going to help much but it will remind him that other people do exist and that could result in a number of outcomes. It’s all just life. Often messy but ultimately up to you to decide how you’d like to perceive it.