A friend of mine is in a relationship, a very good one it seems, he really seems to care about his girlfriend. The girlfriend seems devoted to him, too. They look like a really cute couple and I thought he was such a sweet guy until he made a move on me. That baffled me. Yeah, he's attractive, but I'd never give in if he's in a relationship. When he made the move I said "You have a girlfriend, think of her". He said "I do think of her, and I love her, but come on... give me a kiss... I've done this before, there's nothing wrong with it".
That's something I don't get. If he loves her and is happy with her, then why cheat? I know some women who do this to their boyfriends too, and I just don't get it.
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As a cheater myself, I have experienced loving someone and doing the worst thing I could possibly do to them- cheat on them.
I had a great relationship with a great guy, and personally, I may never find that again. But that's besides the point.
As a cheater, I did it for the thrill, not because I didn't truly love my boyfriend. We had been together for nearly three years, and for the first time, I made the mistake of hanging out with my hot single female friends. By doing this, I began to go to clubs and bars without him and started to get attention from much more attractive men. This was my downfall. I began to date men outside of my relationship and things lead to other things.
Although I truly loved him, I did do things outside of my relationship with him that I still regret to this day. I did it because I wanted a hotter boyfriend, I didn't do it because I even liked this guys, I truly just liked the chase and being with more attractive men, something I had missed for three years. However, as karma would put it, I learned that a relationship of love with someone cannot be replaced with looks. You may feel fulfilled in emotional needs, but not necessarily physical needs. I have heard many times that a person cheats for a reason, I guess that was my reason.
So, in essence, I cheated out of the thrill of being able to be with someone more attractive. It is very hurtful, especially for the person you are with, but I did it for physical reasons and for the chase, not because I had feelings for someone else. But don't worry, karma has it's ways of sorting things out.2