Most Helpful Guys
For the worst case (break up 3 weeks before marriage), I did not find it that helpful to talk about it. It kind of re-opened the wounds, if you will. At the same time idle distractions weren't really keeping my mind off of her.
What helped me most was finding new passions, hobbies, things that encouraged me to work hard towards a goal. I picked up things like fitness and revived my old interest in drawing and writing music as well as meeting new people and going camping together and so forth.
After a while I was waking up in the mornings so motivated to pursue those goals that she slowly started to move to the back of my mind. It's like I replaced the dream of her and us with other dreams that filled me with a sense of purpose.
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does depend on the break up but if communication and answers to questions why are met... there is no reason why a breakup has to be difficult... or end in two people hating each other... or not being friends
I try to remain friends if i can, especially since before i go out with any girl/woman I like to get to know them as a friend and consider them as such before hand... so going out with them just brings us closer, it doesn't mean you stop being their friend... or them your's and as such if things ended amicably then I like it to return to such dynamic...
it makes it easier moving forward...
so I prefer closure to any situation and then I prefer to look forward and get on with life... if someone wastes my time i dont have time for them, if someone is hurtful or vindictive and decides to not be a part of my life then that's their choice... I have a lot of love to give and can't waste my time on anyone who won't appreciate it
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Most Helpful Girls
I try and keep myself thinking about other things or people, but I suppose its from whom the break up comes, my first love went away and it took me ages to get over him, my second boyfriend well I stopped seeing him so it was easy, everything past that has been alright