sigh, don't know where to begin. ex broke up with me. I kept callling...he finally screamed to leave him alone, we will never be together. fast forward a month later...on Thursday, we talked again on the phone. again...screaming, yelling, telling me to leave him alone, he doesn't want me, and this time tells me he is talking to someone else. (I posted a question about this) so we hang up.
an hr later he calls, but I don't answer and he leaves no voicemail. but its eating at me not knowing what he wanted, so I called last night asking him what he wanted and if I don't hear from him I will assume it wasn't important. today, he calls me and we talk for an hour.
he tells me he wants to end things civily, to bet closure for both of us, and that he doestn want to remember me in a bad way. the thing is, everything we said to each we already knew. I basically kept telling me why he doesn't want me, and that we will never be together again. I tell him (crying) that I regret how I treated him, I wish I could change things. how I think of him all the time, but I understand he doestn want me.
we ended the conversation thanking each other for talking and then said bye.my question is...what was the point of him calling me? why not just leave it alone. it kind of has me thinking that it was a test? even tho he was saying he doesn't want to be with me. guys, girls? ever have a situation like this? how did it end up (did you get back togetehr, or never speak again)
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He called you, because like he said, he want's the break-up to be civil, don't think its for any other reason. He may not be in love with you but he cares enough that he doesn't want it to be ugly between you.
It tough and It hurts like hell, your in mourning, but as time goes by the hurt will fade.
You should stay away from him as much as possible, I mean no contact at all. The more contact you have with him the harder it will be for you. If he tries to get in touch with you, I think you should avoid him, only because it will set you back. Sometimes when couples break-up they stay in touch with each other but I feel that this just delays the whole process of the person that was left, to move forward with there life. You will always be questioning his motives, and hoping that things will change.
Start doing nice things for yourself, to make you feel better. Go shopping and treat yourself, get a new hair style, exercise a little it always helps when your down. Before you walk out your house make sure you look good, that will also help, go out with your friends, meet new men, these are all things that will help you get over him.0