OK I know that sounds obvious but we broke up a few years ago. When we "broke up" it was really just 2 days after we had last woke up together and he left. The next day, I called him and he had to go abruptly after talking for about 30 minutes. I didn't hear from him at all the entire weekend. Two weeks later...I find out he got married that Saturday! Of course I was upset. So I ran into him last year and we started to communicate. He holds back things--says he's happily married and very happy, until out of the blue he blurts out that he is not that happy or he would not be communicating with me. But as I probe farther, he shuts down and just talks jokingly about my life, my travels, etc. to the point of annoyance because I cannot get any real sense of closure from this guy. Finally I see him and he tries to get me to have sex with him. He is all over me literally. Anyway about a month after that incident, he decides that he doesn't want to talk to me any longer out of the blue of course. He abruptly says "have a nice life" because I couldn't reply to an email as quickly as he wanted.
I was busy having a nice life when wham, he contacts me again. We talk and go along okay until out of the blue, again, he says I cannot do this to my wife (of course after I had turned him down again for sex that he was killing himself to get from me). So I say are you sure and got no answer. (this was by email how we usually talk). I don't contact him anymore. Then, out of the blue, again, he contacts me saying happy birthday and he couldn't help but contact me. I was on vacation so I didn't get it. There were a total of 4 messages really trying to get me to answer. So finally when I returned, I answered. We talk again and I tell him he must explain himself. He says he doesn't cheat and he was thinking about me so much that it seemed easier to just cut all contact. I told him if we are talking then lets talk but not to do that to me anymore because its hurtful. His reply was he was sorry and he was wrong. He also said he should have explained himself.
We go along about 2 months and he started getting a bit curt. Just slightly like snide remarks and things like that, or joking about a trip to Italy I took. They were not anything big just a bit irritating to me. Anyway out of the blue again, you guessed it...wham, He 's gone again. This time he didn't say anything. He just abruptly stopped answering my emails.
My question is why would someone do this? It's easy to say he only wanted sex. But I think it's more than that because he would always say he couldn't stop thinking of me and he loved talking to me. But it could have been just the sex. Oh by the way, our sex was mind blowing. The kind that makes you want to faint.
I need some good advice and just a good push to put this behind me. I wanted closure but I just got more of the same abandonment as when he first left. Help!
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It seems you are only good enough to contact when HE wants to talk "out of the blue" Its time you stopped answering his e-mails all together. He did tell you to have a nice life. So follow his advise and do just that...without him. You'll probably be better off.
And you can get mind blowing sex elsewhere, you just need to find the right guy.1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE