My ex and I agreed to meet we dated 4 years and its been a long distance for 1 yr. I broke up with him a month ago. We met and immediately he kissed me and we slept together... Also before I met he was really hesitant and said he thought it was a really bad idea.. He said I really hurt him, but he did miss me. After we slept together he would hardly look at me. We talked about surface things and he asked if I wanted to ever come and party where he was from to let him know. He said it had been really hard on him. He seemed really guarded. The next day he said if I ever wanted to talk then I should feel free to talk to him. Later I said I cannot be your friend and if you want to walk away then I am done period. He said that made him really sad.. and hoped I would change my mind? I am so confused! I said no because I felt used and didn't think he was a person I was interested in being friends with ever and wished him well. Did I do the right thing? I definitely CANNOT handle being friends with someone I though I was going to marry! I feel like an idiot!
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You felt used? Judging by what you said YOU used HIM. You used him and then you tossed him away once you got what you wanted.
Just swap positions with him for a moment. You get dumped, then your ex convinces you to meet up, even though you express your concern about the whole thing. You have sex, and then the next day he tells you that he doesn't want you in his life.
What you did was basically really, really horrible. The fact that YOU feel victimized is icing on the cake. It is best just to never contact him again, rather than continuing to string him along. Just stop torturing him and let him be.1