My girl and I broke up about a month ago after dating for a short period. I think I want to get back together with her but I'm not sure how to go about it. Things did not end in a nasty way they just ended. She was texting me every few days but has stopped all together now. I had not been responding to her texts because I wanted to figure out what I wanted. Her friends asked me why I had been ignoring her and I told them I just needed some time to figure things out. Her friend told me that she will not text me now because she thinks I am mad at her and is afraid I won't respond if she does try to contact me. She is seeing someone new now, which is fine, but I need to get this new guy out of her life and get myself back into her life. How do I get rid of the new guy? How do I get my girl back? Should I just call or text? Should I take her on a date? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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I think it's great that you finally realized what you wanted, but I don't think it's fair that you can put her through that and just now decide that it's her you want.
I think you need to respect her and her wishes and let her pursue this guy. Not only is it out of respect for her, but it will help you two in the long run. By letting her be with this guy, you will not have to worry about him coming into the picture in the future and you can actually get to know her this time.
Until then, become friends with her. Reenter her life because you truly want to- not because you want her now but are still unsure as to what kind of commitment you want with her. Get to know her as a friend, find out what it is that makes her so different from other girls.
If it's truly meant to be, it will happen. But for now, you need to respect her and her current life. I know it's hard to realize that your no longer hers, but at least this helped you realize how special she really is.0