I worked with this guy who had a girlfriend. I saw him on bumble last fall so I assume they broke up. He was also into me at the time but was with her. I’ve been focused on me. I haven’t reached out bc I’ve been busy with my career. Do you think it’s best to let him be and worry about it down the road?
If he was on bumble, he was actively dating, not taking time off. He's as likely to be in a new relationship as he is to be … finding himself or something.Get in touch, see how he is casually.
You mean rebounding to heal from his ex?
You know how people know it's a rebound? Because it doesn't last.I've also seen people date someone for years, break up, start dating someone new immediately and marry that person. TBH if people were still rebounding after half a year, they tended to keep rebounding for a looooong time. That's not a rebound, that's having relationship baggage.You can't be paranoid about this, you could be paranoid about anything. Oh he just broke up from a serious relationship, he's going to rebound. Oh he just broke up, then had some flings, now he's a player. oh he's never had a serious relationship, he's a player. Oh he broke up and has been single, he's still recovering. like every possible scenario you can imagine it makes the person impossible.Talk to him. If he's not with anyone see if he's interested. If he's interested see how it goes. You have to trust that INSIDE the relationship you can assess whether it's growing and working well or not.
Do you think it’s possible he’s in a serious relationship again?
It's possible, but more likely that he isn't. In any case, i'd reach out in a 'friendly' way and see how he responds.
More likely just reconnect and say hi. I think that’s what you’re saying right?
Yeah i'd suggest catching up.You could play dumb and be like 'oh, are you no longer with (girl you know he's not with)' if he doesn't bring up dating, and see if he offers up that he's with someone knew, or just been 'dating a bit but nothing serious'.
Do you think that’s the most likely scenario he’s just dating casually
It depends a little on him, how ready to settle down he is, and how good his attributes are. Like my next door neighbors at one point got divorced, and it was sort of … hilarious to me. Like she never left the house and met some guy online. Meanwhile the husband, who was all sad about it, was like this athletic 6'4" guy with a good job who was friendly and ready to start a family.So after she leaves him, he just gets swamped with women. He enjoyed being single for a few months (and kind of forced himself not to get serious fast in that window) and then, wham end of that picks one of the women chasing him, and is now with her with kids.But that's an extreme case. More average guys, the odds aren't bad they'd maybe have kind of dated around a bit but there's a decent chance they're not with anyone.Doesn't hurt to reconnect though.
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Go for it
Do some people take more
There are some that take a week, a few months, a year, a few years, a whole lifetime lol It all depends on what your body, emotions and such say
Just let him be. Cos you don't know for certain if he has broken up. People be married and they're still on tinder and such lol. Why, i will never understand. Probably just for the sake of chatting or it being a social platform or whatever
So you’d give him enough space as possible and reach out down the road.
I suppose yeah. Because like i said, you don't know if he still is with the girl or not.
So it’s not to say I can’t reach out down the road. Just let him be for now.
You could, of course.
So you’d leave it alone for now.
For now, yes