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Hahaha I do the sameee... sharing memes instead of my life✌️😂
Can u look at the questions i invited you too thank you 😁
That’s true.. you really have to forget about your past so you can move on with life.. nice to meet you Bat. my name is Tampa
Hello Tampa my name is Joe, I'm from Brampton Ontario near Toronto nice to meet you and thank you for agreeing with me
The pleasure is mine.. you really seems very cool and I will like to know you more.. can we talk privately?
Sure, why not
Yooo soo true. I cannot be friends with my ex. I don’t see how people can do it. I think if a person is still friends with their ex, they must like them still
@babyygirrll I have broken up 3 girlsEach time I left their life for good so they could move onI wanted to remain friends with all of them but knew it would stifle the healing process. The right thing to do is to ghost
100 percent true
Stresss is added to a new relationship because of the new partner being too insecure to accept that their partner is friends with an ex. I’d assure a new partner that the ex poses no threat and to stop being insecure cause they should trust me
See, the problem is that you're expecting trust right at the very beginning before it's been earned or built. When 2 people first meet and start dating, an ex still in the picture is a red flag, especially a recent one. It may be due to the limitations of text communication, but im getting the impression that you're equating insecurity with caution (or possibly common sense, depending on the situation).
Well they’d have to give me the benefit of the doubtt then. It’s ok to be cautious but not to try to control who your partner is friends and attempt to rationally understand their explanation
Who said anything about trying to control who a partner is friends with? And yes the person in question CAN give you the benefit of the doubt, but many people would rather not start off a new relationship with complications right at the beginning. Undue stress.
They’re not ready for a relationship cause self confidence and not being cynical is important haha
Right. Because many people don't want to start a relationship off with unnecessary complications they're not ready for a relationship? It sounds to me like you don't want to accept that choices have consequences and that some people won't want to start dating someone whose ex is still around. Haha yourself.
All im saying is that objectively, an ex in the picture puts stress on a relationship that wouldn't be there otherwise. It's up to individuals to decide if that added stress is worth putting up with or not. That's my answer to the original question asked.
It wouldn’t be added stresss if theyre secure in themselves to not make it an issue. I mean if a new guy I’m dating is friends with an ex, I wouldn’t think much of it and not see it as a threat unless there are signs that shows it’s a threat
you're still equating it to insecurity and ignoring that I'm making an OBJECTIVE point that has nothing to do with anyone's feelings. Let's say I meet someone tonight and we start dating. If im still friends with an ex there's an objective possibility that something may happen with her again. If I have no contact with my ex, then there's no possibility that im going to be fooling around with her or getting back together with her. These possibilities are completely independent of anyone's feelings.
I guess it’s the fear of going back to your ex or sleep together that makes it hard for people to date people that have exes as friends
Sure, for some people. You only have so much time on this earth, and some people may choose not to risk investing time and energy when there's a higher chance of the other person going back to an ex. I would bet this is more often true of people looking for something looking term rather than something casual. Im not making any judgment about people who make either choice, and it's important to remember that I'm making this point specificity in the context of new relationships that are just getting started.
@Kit_Kat88 I agree with you. Both my S/O and I have ex's that are friends. When you get with a new person you have to give them the benefit of the doubt that they aren't hung up on anyone else whether it's an ex or not until proven otherwise. We all take that risk. The ex thing only becomes a problem if the new person coming in is insecure, has a big ego and makes it a problem. And it won't end there. Next they will have a problem with you having male friends.Why? Because some don't want a reminder that she was with another man. They feel they will be compared.But if they are secure with how their woman feels about them and their ego doesn't get in the way then they won't trip.You gotta give some trust in the beginning or things will never work.And if the guy can't handle it I guess he can find a woman that thinks the same.