As a man, I absolutely love your response!
I wouldn't put all the blame on the guy coz it takes two... but still, you answered this very well
LOL where did it say that these people had sex? For all we know this could have been an abstinent relationship and this person broke up with someone that was too clingy and she got her heart broken because she didn't know how to control her own emotions. And now he's seen as the bad guy for unintentionally breaking her heart when it's not even his fault.
There is a major differe ce between being emotionally attached vs having sex. Most people who have an emotional attachment do okay and move on those who had sex, not so much. And most people have premartial sex. So let's all be adults here and not sugarcoat the truth.
And stop blaming a woman for being clingy. Because there is a difference between being clingy, being emotionally intense and being sensitive. If you have to laugh about somebody having anxious or other insecure attachment styles which is not their fault, your an a*hole who doesn't need to be dating. That is his fault when he knew she was sensitive. Tahts why you don't just date anybody. It's common sense most people don't think. If she says go wait until your both friends, then you say your friendzone and leave her anyway. So please stop promoting selfishness or else your a hypocrite. No man or women deserve that pain. No one.
(1) this question asked why are guys the bad guys for breaking up with girls there is no insinuation of premarital sex at all it is a simple question and the hypothetical scenario depends on person to person that's the reason why I said humping and dumping make someone a a bad guy versus being abstinent with someone that's really clingy and doesn't know how to control their emotions. Because it's not the guy's fault that he broke up with someone who doesn't know how to act like a damn adult. (2) there's a reason why people say before you get into relationship you should work on yourself and it's because if your quick to act on your emotions then you have a problem because you should be able to control your emotions to know when to act and when not to and if you can't it's your fault for why your own relationship falls. (3) let's say they were f****** and then he decided he's not into her but she likes him because he f***** her rightly then she's letting good dick cloud her judgment. (4) I have my own insecurities and emotional issues but I'm a f****** adult and I know how to control them and not use them to get pity from others, does it suck getting hurt of course it does only masochist like getting hurt, but you need to grow up walk it off and move on. (5) also if we're going to be adults let's really not bullshit you know damn well there's a difference between being friends and being in the friend zone if a girl saw a guy and was like oh I would probably date him but I want to get to know him first then they would be friends she would have put him directly in the friend zone unless she saw it nothing of interest from him and there's no point in him trying to build a relationship or trying to get attached to her if he's in the friend zone so he's better off just leaving and not wasting his time being hung up on a girl that's never going to give him the time of day.
Ignore the emoji he's just chilling and just decided to sneak himself in the convo
Also number 6 I'm assuming you're rants about premarital sex is basically because you're religious which again even if people don't fuck it's not going to make much of a difference because they'll still date and sometimes people aren't how they seem someone they can seem common rational when you first hang out with them can actually be an emotional storm of chaos in which case again it's not the fault of whoever broke up with them it's the other person's fault for not knowing how to control their emotions unless that person was specifically being a dick and not taking their emotions into count it's the other person's fault.
Plus not everybody is out here f****** my cousin for example is abstinent as f*** although he's also kind of straight edge so he's kind of the white sheep of society but nevertheless despite my constant telling him to just f*** someone already he stays true to himself and doesn't f*** anyone he gets in relationships and s*** but he doesn't f*** to which I kind of admire but at the same time to each is own.
@PrinceNeo 1. MEN approach WOMEN for SEX. Do you not? You're not approaching us for friendship. You're there for sex. You don't care how you get it, as long as you get it right? That is the POINT. It doesn't matter if it's chaste or abstinent. It is his fault equally because 1, maybe if he got to know her better, he wouldn't be with somebody who isn't being an 'adult'. Because plenty has I seen men not being an adult. 2. First of all, STOP ASSUMING. When a woman tells you no, you push her anyway or move on to other women. LOTS of people suffered from divorce, abuse, etc. I included. It is less to do with working on yourself. And more to do with acceptance, growing and MATURING. Leaving a relationship because you can't 'handle' something shows immaturity on the other's part. There will be plenty of things others can't stand and deal with you either. Like masturbating, pornography, drinking, acting like a fool, flirting with other women, lusting after other women, cursing out fellow male peers, and the list goes on. So don't judge if you can't even look at yourself. I am speaking on the basis of FACTS. No matter who is guilty of it.
3. Fornication is a SIN. A man and woman should be VIRGINS BEFORE marriage and experience sex TOGETHER in oneness in marriage for that reason. A woman sadly would not KNOW BETTER, Because that is how God designed sex for men and women. For Women to bond in closeness through sex with her HUSBAND, and MEN to express his LOVE by having sex with his WIFE. So that he can only may ONLY desire the presence and love of his WIFE. Not whoring around like dogs and pigs in a pigsty! That's you people's problems so don't complain when a woman expects MORE. Don't like it? Stop poking women who aren't your legal WIFE! And you wouldn't be in that fix! I don't pity you men because of that. 5. That's a load of BS! A friend is a FRIEND. There is no FRIENDZONE. You just want SEX. And we owe you nothing as you owe us nothing! This is why a lot of women now no longer want male friends or rejecting males as a whole while becoming guarded and eventually avoiding men altogether. Or going after 'bad boys' because we're SICK of it! And sick of the excuses! Why should we give you the time of day because you can't control what your penis does? That's not our problem, that's yours and call it being a MAN. That's why even my great-grandfather says all men are dogs. And I now believe him.
Thank GOD I never dated! You men have 0 respect. Expecting women to just give in your every whim, and if we do it all of a sudden we're B's and hoes and everything else derogatory in the book. How can a woman just show interest if she doesn't know about you ENOUGH to show such INTEREST!Does she know your family and familial background?Does she know if your a virgin or not?Does she know what kind of women your into?Does she know if your masturabting to her, watching porn and the like?Does she know how you treat women in bed?Does she know if you want marriage, kids, etc?Your political view? Your social status or standing?Do you have money to take care of her, a child and yourself combined?Do her family even know you? Like you? Knows where you come from?Do your friends, her friends, your friends in general [if your a friend] approve your relationship?Does she know your values? Your principals? Belief system? Faith? Religion?Your idea of purity? Sex? How you talk about somebody sexually?The idea of divorce?We need to know ALL of this! We have to feel SAFE! We need to feel something for you emotionally. And this is how we connect to men! This is how we grow to desire a man! To have comfort! To be loved without the need for sex. And we express that THROUGH SEX! Hense why God designed us that why to bond! Not to go outside of the natural means sexually and the natural order of tradition and human values! You deserve to be respected as WE deserve to be RESPECTED. And if a woman or girl refuses to respect herself, that does not give you permission to misused and abuse her! No matter what SHE DOES. You stay out of it before she drags you into her problems. It's common sense. But no. Many of you act like you have no brains.
@PrinceNeo And I am NOT religious. I am spiritual. But not religious. I stick to godly values because its right. It's beneficial and keeps us out of trouble. It's the guidelines for how we're supposed to live. If you don't want to live by those guidelines than stop freaking complaining! You've asked to get hurt and used and abused by such women. Not my problem. Should have read the bible and learned what is expected of you so you won't get with bad women and not have anything in your life to attract such things to you.
So don't complain. It's your fault. Nobody told you to approach us. Nobody told you to have sex with women or girls you don't know. Nobody can force you to do anything you don't want to know. Not even a woman. And the same rules apply to women as well. It's free WILL. And everybody reaps what they sow. It's so SAD how so many of you men do NOT understand about women and seem to not CARE! I at least care enough to understand about men and not be so quick to judge every man the same. I take the time to understand each person indivisually and see what makes others tick. What they like and dislike, what makes them uniquely THEM. Like I learned not all men are whores. Not all men masturbate or watch porn. Not every guy flirts and lust after every women. BUT, I ALSO know and understand that even an innocent man struggles with sex. And struggle with women as a whole. BUT at least he is honest and isn't trying to actually use a woman. Who just wants somebody to equally befriend him and love him just like most women do. But he get's called a pussy for not touching any girl? He's a white knight for defending a woman's honor? He's a male feminist for showing interest in a woman's right? He's stupid for getting married? Wanting kids and building a family? He's a religious nut for wanting to serve God? Or he must be gay for not having sex even if he's past 40? I'd take a guy like that over somebody like you any day!
(1) I f****** called it. (2) I don't approach anyone unless they show that they have a clear interest in me. (3) I'm straightforward and if I want sex from someone I'll tell them straight up. (4) you're miss phrasing what I said what I said was if someone puts you in the friend zone you should leave them because if someone puts you in the friend zone they have clearly no interest in being with you and it's a waste of your time to be hung up on someone that doesn't feel anything for you especially if you want to have a relationship with that person because that person is not going to reciprocate the same feelings and I'm not just talking about just for sex I'm talking about actually creating a bond with this person the loving bond that this person wants from this person can never be achieved from the friend zone. (5) there's a very clear difference between relationship issues and personal issues if you don't know how to deal with your own personal problems don't be in a relationship if there are things that people do that you're not cool with that they won't make an effort to change then leave them because there's no point in being with someone that makes you uncomfortable. (6) masturbating is okay, watching pornography also okay, drinking is okay so long as you have a handle on it if you're a reckless drunk you shouldn't drink, acting a fool is okay for entertainment but doing it too much is annoying, lusting after someone that isn't the one you're in a relationship with is always wrong weather man or woman, swearing with your friends it's something men do casually sometimes even some women and it's pretty funny if you can pair it up with a joke it's not cool to swear at people who don't deserve it though, and if you don't like any of the things that I feel are not that big a deal then that's on you chief that's your personal preference I don't mind.
Also if men are dogs then that means women are b****** so you might want to think pop pops logic over again
Also to directly quote you you said friends are friends and that's exactly my point that's your friend you're not getting in a relationship with the person you're just keeping them as a friend
Technically the Bible is actually the one that tells me to sleep with girls and women because if I'm correct they say it's not cool to sleep with guys or someone of the same sex so how to be fair your God tells me what I'm doing is right.
And no one really asked for anything but by your logic you asked for the exact same abuse and b******* that you went through
Also if you're not quick to judge then why are you riding dick on this and making your passive comments judging people based on what they do in their relationship cuz to me that kind of sounds like judging and last time I checked your not a god your the same scrub human as everyone else
If you got your head out of your ass you probably would have seen the flaw in your logic
There is flaw in my logic! I don't do that crap. And it the k God never happened to me. I am virgin. I never dated. I never had sex with anyone, or been married or he children! And neither have I done anything sexual with any person or guy! So you can take that flight trash you try putting on me elsewhere. It's guys like you is why I will never ever date or be with a man on that level! I'd you don't like my answer then don't come on my comment feed. I don't go around treating men like garbage. For the said that you guys do the very things two other people , and don't want to be blamed for it. Honesty. I can see why a lot of women good and bad are pissed.
The Bible doesn't say to go around sleeping with girls. You find one woman and you marry her then have sex! But that's not what you want to do you want to be a hoe!I believe in Friendship first. So I have no problem being a friend to somebody. I would never seen nobody isn't interested in me in anything more because I believe in communication. And I never had those issues prior to that goes to show me that you're talking out of your ass.
If first of all I don't go around doing stuff like that to people. Therefore I can make those righteous judgement as long as I'm not doing anything wrong. And therefore I am not doing anything wrong. I'm telling you the truth about yourself. And if y'all don't want to hear the truth, that's not my problem! Because I don't have those problems in my relationship with people or with men in my life. I sadly have a problem with men who wanted to use me and abuse me. So stop trying to make out like you're all that innocent yourself because you're not innocent. Am I coming or not passive. I don't do wrong to people. And I don't need somebody like you to try to tell me who I am as a person. Because I don't do those things. And anytime if I design against relationship with a friend I can do so as long as they equally share the same desires. There's nothing wrong with that. It's a decision you both make together. Not by yourself! You must be very miserable for your age.
There is no flaw in my logic*But there's certainly a flaw in yours because you can't even learn to even keep one woman in your life! I am not miss praising what you said. I understand exactly what you're saying. What you're saying is that you think you're entitled to sex with any woman that you want, and if you ain't getting it from anybody you want to move on to the next girl that offers. That's a dog. I am no b!@$. Excuse my French. Who are you to judge? At least I believe I sex with only a husband. I will not date somebody who isn't compatible with me. And it's my right, just like it's your righy to walk away. But don't use a woman. You tell her what you want. But if you know she wants something more, walk away. That's all. Don't use a relationship to use a woman. The same way a woman shouldn't use a relationship to use a man.
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Lol where do you live?
Someone give this girl Mho!!!
nobody likes to get hurt