Why do you guys take forever to text a girl back?

Hey everyone, I was wondering if you could help me out.

During the march break I went on a school trip to the U.S. An older guy in my school ended up giving me his number when we were talking to each other on the last day. He didn't have my number so I texted him. We ended up texted from around 11pm- 4am which is pretty crazy to be texting. He was really opening up to me a lot about his past and would compliment me on my looks and appearance in general. He even said good night to me in a cute way and added a heart at the end.

I gave him space and did my own things and wondered why he didn't text back, so I sent him a morning text a few days later and he said "good morning sunshine" which made me smile. But anyways..I've noticed that a lot of the time I'm usually the one who texts him, he'll text back but he takes a while sometimes but what really bothers me is that I notice that he'll stop texting and he'll text me really early in the morning the next day.

Why is he doing this? He's actually done this a few times now and it sorta makes me a tad paranoid. I wait a day or sometimes more to get a text back from him. He sent me an apology text to me but I feel like it was a bit of an excuse..I'm tired of texting him so would it be OK if I asked him to hang out sometime and get to know each other better that way face to face?


Most Helpful Guy

  • If we reply back right away, you lose interest. You may not think so, but it's true. Also we're not always attached to our phone.

    • Seriously? I didn't know that I thought it was usually the other way around since the girl gets to talk to him. But yeah as I mentioned in the other comments bellow..I really have no idea if he ignored the text, didn't see it, or didn't even recieve it for all I know because my cells acting up..I don't wanna sound desperate or dumb if I text hom asking if he got my message from sunday.

    • yeah don't text him if he got the message unless is was REALLY important. If you want just act like it never happened and text him again sometime. When you mention the texts he didn't respond to, he might get irritated.

      Personally, I wouldn't get annoyed lol

    • I'm not really sure if I'm gonna text him again..I randomly checked his facebook last night and wrote a dumb status last night about loving how he texts some girl with a heart at the end. Some girl commented on it so I realized that he lead me on, eventually ignored me and moved on to flirting witg other girls. Thanks for your feedback though

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What Guys Said 1

  • Face to face is always best. (dang, it doesn't rhyme :( ) Maybe he gets busy though? Guys aren't as glued to their phones as girls, usually.

    • Face to face beats the chase? I dunno. Haha, thanks :)

      Yeah..i'm having texting issues with my cell so I don't even know if he even recieved the text I sent him Sunday afternoon. :/

What Girls Said 1

  • Wow. same exact problem. its like I'm reading my own question! butttt guys usually get more distracted then girls when it comes to texting cause ther always doing something... BUT that doesn't give them the excuse to reply back hours or a day later. whatever. lol

    • Thats crazy! :)

      Thanks, yeah it sucks..we were having a conversation Sunday afternoon and he still hasn't texted back..My friends have told me that they haven't been able to recieve my texts a lot of the time now which sucks. I don't know if he ever got my text or not & I don't wanna sound stupid if I ask him :S

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