We talked and came to a conclusion, that we are going to they the friend thing. However, she keeps telling me "she is diffrent from my ex's, don't delete all the pictures i sent you" and so forth. We already had sex twice since the "break" and it hasn't even been a week. We agreed that we are not going to catch feelings that way...
Omg now you both are being stupid. Yes you both are going to, because sex connects unless you both had over 10 partners. You two cannot be friends because you're going to destroy potential future relationships because of it. It's all sed between you two and she is just keeping you as a just in case guy when she can't get another. Walk away.
Is there a way I can test or ask her in order to figure out what if this is really true without being straight forward?
NO! If you're not going to take this seriously, then you shouldn't even be dating anybody. You can't test that, it is a FACT. And most girls especially will NEVER tell you how they really feel for fear of being judged or being too attached. That's why premarital sex is a SIN. Because sex is a marriage and marriage is about having sex. You've ruined each other lives because of those choices and effects your future family and children. She will not tell you.
I want an exclusive relationship with her, I tried my hardest to do everything in my power to prevent her from going this route, but she really want to be friends. But here we are doing all this stuff, showering together, having sex, she kisses me on my cheek and neck like she usually do when we lay down together... i just really dont wanna get hurt again. And are being sarcastic when u say "i must be one hell of a guy?"
It's either you two are in a relationship, or you two aren't.So there's no need to over-complicate things.If she feels you are not the one, then you are not the one.Go look for someone else who's more worthy of your affections.
You think it will come to that? She told me she has a high sex drive too but also told me she won't have time for anybody this semester, but being a guy, we know that sounds like a bunch of bs and dont make no sense..
It is what I believe.
I feel like that may be the case, she wants to look around and stuff while I wait but she is afraid I will do the same
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No, she decided to break things off so she wouldn't feel like she is stringing me along but I feel like this is worse, she doesn't get to have me while she figures thing's out.
You can still be her friend.
If that's the case, then why continue to do this break thing? And just call it a break-up
That's what I though you meant when you responded by "break things off". It's a breakup. She's still stringing you along if you can't see other people because it's based on her discomfort. It's not fair for you. She should have known what she wanted before she got with someone who would be emotionally invested.
I think honestly we don't wanna see each other with other people, cause I know I don't. But I don't she really doesn't want to admit that, cause she says she doesn't care but knows if I were to sleep with her friend who she feels extremely uncomfortable with me just talking to her, she would feel some type of way
She is not that type of girl cause she knows I'll leave for good, no friends or anything.
If you put your life on hold waiting for her to figure out what she wants, you're inviting pain. "Don't consider this a breakup" means exactly that. She's putting you on hold.
I think she is just confused, but at the same time know that she never had a person like me before in her life. But I don't want to get hurt again because a confused woman is a dangerous woman.
Tried, but she said this is the best thing for us rn. At some point I'mma start distancing myself. Cause we already started the friend thing
Im sorry man. Kinda been in a similar predicament recently.