Can someone please advise me should I answer him or not?

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so my ex boyfriend decided to breakup because we have too much arguments and cannot see eye to eye, in the past he was very supportive and was very emotional with me so I tried to save our relationship and gave a letter of 4 papers with all of my emotions and how we can fix it and asked to read it after 1 month in order to calm down from all the drama.
I was really excited for him to read it and in my mind we will fix everything and get back together because we really love each other.
So yesterday a common friend talked to him and he told her that he made it very clear that this was our closure even though he loves me and he took the letter just for my sake and it will not change his decision and she told me all of this.
I realized that I will not wait for him to read anything and it's just a waste and I don't want to contact him to tell him that, so I decided to stick to the no contact rule but now I know he will call me in 2 weeks to tell me that he's sorry and cannot come back.
Should I answer him then or just ignore it? I really want him back but I need it to be his desire not only for my sake.

Answer 1

Claraaa

Xper 5

Since you are the one who asked him to read the letters and contact you, I personally think it would just be really mean to then not even answer to his call. Just don't do that, it's really unfair to be the one asking to be contacted and to ignore him when he will do what you wanted.
Just tell him now already that you understand it is completely over so there's no need for him to read the letters. Then block him so you're not tempted to talk. And move on :)

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anayma

+1 y
but why do I have to listen to him rejecting me all over again, I think twice is enought.
Do you think he will reconsider this breakup and will reply with a diff response?
Claraaa

+1 y
I dont have to say you have to talk to him, I said the opposite. I told you, you should tell him to forget about the letters and forget about you.
Claraaa

+1 y
*I didn't say

Answer 2

anayma

but why do I have to listen to him rejecting me all over again, I think twice is enought.
Do you think he will reconsider this breakup and will reply with a diff response?

Answer 3

Claraaa

I dont have to say you have to talk to him, I said the opposite. I told you, you should tell him to forget about the letters and forget about you.

Answer 4

Claraaa

*I didn't say

Answer 5

FollowtheFellow

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If you wanna try it from deep down your heart and if you trust in him to be able to change or be a good Person, why shouldn't you hear to yourself? There is no one else better suited for deciding what your heart wants.

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anayma

+1 y
do you mean that I should answer him even though I know his answer already? I want to respect myself but at the same time want him back but not with pressuring him into this
FollowtheFellow

+1 y
See, do it and it could get Bad or it could get worse. Let it and you'll always think about what would be if you would have done it differently. If your heart seeks something, why shouldn't you Listen. There is always a risk, but if you don't take a risk, you'll never get a reward.

Answer 6

anayma

do you mean that I should answer him even though I know his answer already? I want to respect myself but at the same time want him back but not with pressuring him into this

Answer 7

FollowtheFellow

See, do it and it could get Bad or it could get worse. Let it and you'll always think about what would be if you would have done it differently. If your heart seeks something, why shouldn't you Listen. There is always a risk, but if you don't take a risk, you'll never get a reward.

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MannMitAntworten | 318 opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.

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Going by what your friend shared, he has no desire to return to you. You are holding on to someone who no longer wishes you part of their life.

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Answer 9

In_Trance | 1.3K opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.

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don't answer. block and move on

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Can someone please advise me should I answer him or not?

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