I totally understand. It has been two and a half years since my breakup of a relationship that only lasted a little over a year and I am still not completely over it. It ended with her leaving over a reason she never explained, she just randomly lost interest as far as I am aware. I shouldn’t have been so torn apart by it especially now but my relationship with her was such a massive improvement in my life. I was so much happier having at least a hint of what my future looked like especially if it looked like I was going to be with her for the rest of my life because we always talked about marriage and how many kids we were thinking of having. She lives in the most functional family I have ever seen and going to her parents house felt like I was going to another set of grandparents so I lost them when she broke up with me too. She meant a lot to me for even more personal reasons as well, I don’t even think a girl has ever treated me as kindly as she did for example.Now, I am not even sure how to fall in love anymore, I have even went on several dates and nothing is happening and I feel bad for the ones I thought would snap me out of it. My ex is still the most attractive person to me and holds the life I once lived and loved. Even if we got back together, I doubt it would be the same. I think I would rather be single to be honest. She raised my bar so high for most people so I guess I just stopped caring.
Awe, I'm sorry to hear that. Breakups can be extremely rough, especially if you truly loved them, which obviously you did. My mom passed away recently and my dad has never really been in my life, so I know what you mean when you say you were adopted into their family -- all my holidays were celebrated with him and his family, so I'm going to feel especially lost these holidays coming up. My ex says he still loves me and cares about me, but says he needs time and space -- I was the one who fucked up -- so I'm hoping we did eventually get back together, but until then I have to move on. We have a tendency of always finding each other (we've broken up before). Crazy story, actually: we both lived in the same town and I ended up moving in with a different boyfriend and moving two hours away. There's no way he could have known, and coincidentally, he got a new job offer and moved to the same town (he had no idea until we ran into each other). It's like we have an invisible string attached LOL. Anyway, the point is, if you're meant to be together, you will. I miss him and definitely feel heartbroken, but I know there's nothing I can do but live my life to the fullest and know that if the universe wants us together again, we will be. I'm at peace with that.
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