Why do people marry someone divorced or with multiple divorces without a really good reason?

[Anonymous]

What is so special about being the 2nd, 3rd, 4th, etc. person that someone made a vow of lifelong love towards, only to break it?

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[CallMeDave]

One divorce wouldn't concern me (depending of course on the circumstances). It could be that her partner was the main problem in the marriage or if it was a long marriage they could have just grown apart over time. Neither of those mean that can't be a good partner.

More than one divorce would be worrisome though. Anyone can make a mistake once or have their partner change during the marriage, but after one failed marriage people should be very careful about choosing another spouse. If a second marriage fails, then I would be concerned that there's a problem with the person that would make it difficult to have a successful relationship with them.

[girlzruleboyzdrool]

I think people marry people with multiple divorces are if they are divorced themselves, for the most part bc they can relate or did the same “crime”
personally, I’d never date someone who was divorced multiple times that was their own doing
you can’t always blame them
but I do know some guys that have been divorced 2 times and on the 3rd marriage
they finally realized “hey, maybe it’s me”. Or grew up

its too bad when people marry, they don’t realize what they are committing too
it’s not a girlfriend boyfriend thing
its not something “fun and new” to do

marriage is work but can be amazing too
i have my share of issues for sure
but neither myself or my partner have ever been divorced and we will never divorce

I think the vows and marriage should really be understood before it happens

i see people married multiple times as a red flag
and
also if dating a red flagger, are they going to want to commit again?

[Espresso-Grande]

One of my cousins has been married 5 times. Her current husband doesn't seem to mind he's husband number 5. My cousin always chose the wrong type of men. All 4 ex husband's , turned out to be abusive or controlling. Her current husband is the total opposite. He's laid-back and quite shy, and is not controlling or abusive at all.

[Thatismyanswersowhat]

My momma and poppa know what is best for me. I got so angry at first with my momma and poppa they pick out a wife for me. I loved this other girl, Now I just found out she got divorce because she was sleeping with her boss. You see momma saw something in her that I was to blind to notice. Now I thank my momma and poppa for choosing the right wife for me. My wife cleans the house cooks and treats me like a king. We would have less divorce if parents choose who we marry.

[jennifer_bloom]

Some woman are so confident about their own sex appeal that they don’t believe they will ever be abandoned the way the man’s ex wife was - usually unless the man is rich, most woman will not risk marrying a divorced man

[mindNsoul]

Divorced without a good reason is the key point here. But people can always blame the other party so it is difficult to really know.

Now having more than one divorce is a huge red flag. This person apparently got issues.

Divorce can have good reasons but again it is case to case situation.

[SexyAshh]

Why not. They dont care about their past marriages. Both of my grandparents married the legal limit which i believe is 4-5 times.

[NyceGuyFinishingLast]

Because it is like playing the lottery. No matter how many losing tickets you played. You always feel like the next one will be the big winner.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

Maybe they married a b**ch before and are happy to find someone worth the bond.
Not every marriage is the right decision

[bamesjond0069]

Agree. I always advise my friends not to do this. They never listen and they always wish they had.

[hsshannah96]

Because guys my age aren’t mature enough. guys who are in their 30’s are more mature

[8lutty]

how can a vow predict future? if they happen to break up then they beak up, it not always bad, so with me it is fine to marry someone divorced, after i know enough about them.

[msc545]

Good sex and bad judgment.

[KrakenAttackin]

They are damn fools.