Well earlier this week I wrote him a very heartfelt text, and in the meantime of me waiting for his response he said he wanted to ask me something before he revealed what his thoughts are on what I said.I asked what it was and he asked “Do you miss me sexually?” and I told him that I miss him every way that someone can miss another person. Then later on I asked him what made him want to ask me that and he said he wanted to know. Then I flipped the question on him and asked if he missed me in that way, he put this emoji 😏, so that’s a yes. I then asked if that’s the only way he could miss me and he said of course not.
hmmm, I'm not sure what to make of that either? Unless he was just curious if you enjoyed the sex in the past (might be just validation). Maybe ask him "DO you miss me in another way?". If you are thinking of getting together again, I'd just proceed with caution. You obviously still have feelings, so be careful. Maybe have a serious talk with him in person about how he feels about you exactly? Maybe he's not sure how he feels yet? Like cares about you, but also he just broke up with someone else, so maybe he's not ready for another relationship? I think you have to try and get him to open up and find out exactly what he's thinking and feeling. I know it can be hard to do with some guys, but explain how you feel and that you need to know for your own sake and feelings.
Oh I explained my feelings from the bottom of my heart, nothing was left unsaid. I’m just waiting to hear what he has to say. We’re starting to get back into how we used to talk when we were together, he’s teasing with me and stuff so I’m feeling good right now.
Yes I do have feelings and yes I do want to get back together with him.
Ok that's good. Sounds like maybe he's just figuring out his feelings, and/or wants to take it slow maybe? Just be cautious that's all. Sometimes we see what we want to see.
You’re right, I’m just going to take it slow like you said, I feel like that’s what he could be doing. I hope he wouldn’t do all of this and not want to get back together. I’m just putting positive thoughts out right now.
Can I ask you about something else he said when he was breaking up with me?
So one major thing I found out about him is that he didn’t want to get married. When he broke up with me, he told me that he started to change his mind on getting married in general. I asked him what made him do so, and he said I was part of the reason.I’m not sure if I made him realize it’s the right thing to do as we’re both Christians, or because at some point he realized I’m someone he could marry. What do you think?
I'd say (as someone that also doesn't want to get married), that you're someone he could see himself marrying. Was that his reason for breaking up though? Because that's a little odd to me. I mean, one of the reasons (not the only) I ended a relationship once was because I don't want to get married, and even though she said she didn't care about that, I could tell she did and did want to eventually. That bothered me (feeling like I'm eventually going to hurt her and it's just a matter of time). But if he saw you as someone he could marry, and ended it for that reason, that's weird, unless it just really scared him? Just feeling that venerable maybe? But I'm only guessing.
That was part of it, he was even saying to me that he wanted me to find someone else and have kids and what not but no it didn’t make sense if he was changing his mind on getting married and he knows I want that. I feel like maybe he’s not met someone like me who feels how she does about him and he never thought he could see himself getting married, maybe he’s met his match with me and it does scare him.
I'm thinking so. Very possible for sure.
Thanks so much for you responses, these are the kind of opinions I like on my questions. Too bad you’re Anonymous otherwise, if I had something else I wanted to ask lol I couldn’t. You give very through and sound opinions.
I'll change it lol. You can message me if you want. Just let me know who you are as you are also :)
Thank you! I will!
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