Why do girls love the idea of marriage but initiate divorce more often?

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Probably unrealistic expectations

Answer 1

Xper 7

That's why I have been single and why my only two love relationships in life didn't advance to something more deeper. I have seen in men that they don't want serious relationships, just have fun and enjoy life like single men (although I have seen men around my age tied the knot, 20s, early 30s, they still want to go out and party when they have the chance). In our case as women, some of us have been programmed and grew up with the idea of the fairy tales (romantic novels or soap operas): the true love, the perfect mate, someone who can be the perfect support for our needs (specially emotionally), however, when we face the real world, two things happen: the expectations are high and unrealistic; or they are met but we are still not happy, despite changing things how they want (like the furniture in the house).

In short: some women need to learn how to find happiness within them, not outside of them, not looking for someone whom they can depend on their happiness.

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chris_987

1 y
But men are happy when where single and women are not, so why do they go after men?
Rei02

1 y
Like I said: some women need to learn how to find happiness within them, not outside of them, not looking for someone whom they can depend on their happiness.

If you want the why, it is because of how both genders have been programmed by society and through many generations about their roles and how to see things, how to see life, love, relationships, freedom and independence. Women in general, although that has been supposedly changing in the last years with the newer generations, have been programmed to see things in a more romantic and perfect way where the most important thing is find someone whom you can depend on so you can feel complete, while men, I think, see having a partner just as a life's ornament, not pretty necessarily to feel complete in life.
chris_987

1 y
I’ve never heard a girl admit that she’s need a man to feel complete, they say the opposite. And act like they don’t. So how did you reach that conclusion
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Rei02

11 mo
By living 35 years.
chris_987

11 mo
So most girls that live to be single at 35 will realize that
Rei02

11 mo
Not just being single, also experiencing life in general: having friends, been forced to deal with harrassers, learning to say no, learn that the real world is not like the romantic novels, fairy tales or Holywood movies which "teach us" what is "love", that your "true love" is not as you expect or maybe he isn't, etc, etc.

A good example is in the movie 500 Days of Summer, although is the way inverse: the boy has the "romantic" mentality while the girl has the "realistic" one.

Answer 2

chris_987

But men are happy when where single and women are not, so why do they go after men?

Answer 3

Rei02

Like I said: some women need to learn how to find happiness within them, not outside of them, not looking for someone whom they can depend on their happiness.

If you want the why, it is because of how both genders have been programmed by society and through many generations about their roles and how to see things, how to see life, love, relationships, freedom and independence. Women in general, although that has been supposedly changing in the last years with the newer generations, have been programmed to see things in a more romantic and perfect way where the most important thing is find someone whom you can depend on so you can feel complete, while men, I think, see having a partner just as a life's ornament, not pretty necessarily to feel complete in life.

Answer 4

chris_987

I’ve never heard a girl admit that she’s need a man to feel complete, they say the opposite. And act like they don’t. So how did you reach that conclusion

Answer 5

Rei02

By living 35 years.

Answer 6

chris_987

So most girls that live to be single at 35 will realize that

Answer 7

Rei02

Not just being single, also experiencing life in general: having friends, been forced to deal with harrassers, learning to say no, learn that the real world is not like the romantic novels, fairy tales or Holywood movies which "teach us" what is "love", that your "true love" is not as you expect or maybe he isn't, etc, etc.

A good example is in the movie 500 Days of Summer, although is the way inverse: the boy has the "romantic" mentality while the girl has the "realistic" one.

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wittymilf | 90 opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.

Guru

This is hard to answer... maybe husband’s play up more than wives 🤷‍♀️. Maybe men are more accepting of their wives transgress 🤷‍♀️ I don't know you say unrealistic expectations, do you believe you should accept and keep wife no matter what she does?

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Answer 9

ThatQuietLass

Xper 6

You'd be surprised how much "being married" suddenly adds strain onto a relationship for one.
Not everyone can live long term with another, and life happens. It adds a lot onto people

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chris_987

1 y
Or maybe if a woman get divorced she ends up getting the kids and alimony so it’s a win win situation for her
ThatQuietLass

1 y
oh wow. sexism is just rife with you isn't it?
chris_987

1 y
Yes very good way to prove a persons point is to just call the sexist. Don’t you have a safe space you should be hiding under
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ThatQuietLass

1 y
once more the question history doesn't lie. Kinda cringe to be fair.

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chris_987

Or maybe if a woman get divorced she ends up getting the kids and alimony so it’s a win win situation for her

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ThatQuietLass

oh wow. sexism is just rife with you isn't it?

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chris_987

Yes very good way to prove a persons point is to just call the sexist. Don’t you have a safe space you should be hiding under

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ThatQuietLass

once more the question history doesn't lie. Kinda cringe to be fair.

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OrallyFixated

Yoda

Because they have been sold a fairy tale and told they shouldn’t settle for anything less.

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Answer 15

MMM31

Xper 1

Yes, unrealistic expectations. Media also promotes the vision of ultra-romantic weddings and happy endings whilst life is life and nobody will change it (and it's far from a fairy tale)

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Answer 16

evangeline777

Xper 5

I think girls like the idea of the wedding.

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