In all reality I just felt like I need someone I can talk to that won't be derectly connected to my life. And you don't need to tell me I made a stupid decision I'm well aware. I just want to know how I stop feeling like inadequate and broken 💔. Basically my story is I had a boyfriend who lives with me for 3 years things were great till a girl he works with at walmart called us because she needed a place to stay to get away from her abusive husband. After a week or two. I started noticing things that she was getting closer to him flirting with him and that he acted like a jealous child whenever she slept with one of her fuck buddy's and that he started talking about her all the time and was always hanging out with her instead of me I didn't want to believe he was cheating on me with that skank especially since she had been trying to hook up with my cousin but I just couldn't take it anymore more the flags became to much to ignore. so I checked his phone when he took a shower and found all the I love you the dick pics talking about the last time they fucked how they can't keep doing this that they are going to stop after he proposes to me. and further up it talked about how she would wait for him to make a decision between us and that he loved us both. Reading that damn near broke me I could feel my skin burning and crawling and I just kept shaking. I confronted them both about it at different times and that
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hould break up with him because I wasn't good enough for him. I gave him a choice he could either stay with me and try and work shit out or go with his skank ass mistress the next day she moved back with her husband. Me and him stayed together and are trying to work shit out and now have relationship guidelines. But we are engaged now because he had planned to purpose to me in front of our families in a week and there was no way to call it off without everybody knowing what was going on. But how
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You were betrayed by someone who trust in your own home , it's understandable to real hurt and hate , what she did was very wrong... but he did it too he betrayed you the most and only way you can stop is to ethier cut them out (both of them ) or to forgive (As someone who has been cheated on twice this is the hardest to do which even I have not done ) ... have have been scorned by these two you have wrath built up inside you.. its just your choice how to release it
I have forgave I don't hate either of them I'm just mad at her because if she sees me in public she gives me a stink eye like I'm the one who did wrong. I'm actually a very forgiven person don't get me wrong if he cheated again he better not come home. Because I don't play friggin head games. But I'm having a hard time shaking the feeling like I wasn't good enough or what did I do wrong that made him desire someone else
No you were good enough hell you are way beyond all expectations, a loving person and you didn't do nothing wrong... what ever you may think you did doesn't excuse himself from doing that... he did that out of lust for another as all he should of done was respect you more and say no to her advances but he chose to lay witj her in your home behind your back
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On the bright side at least he didn't do it in our home apparently they did the deed in a car and at the archery range. So at least he had the decency to let me feel comfortable sleeping in my bed. It also made me more aware of some of the issues in our relationship so we can work on them and made some rules that apply to both of us
What type of rules though and what do you see a problem with yourself?
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Date night is now every Wednesday ware we turn off our phones and spend actual time with each other
If something is wrong or feel unsatisfied with something in the relationship there is to be a sit down conversation
If hanging out with a friend of another gender there is to be a 3rd attendant And a few other rules.
It's not so much something I did out of choice see we live with my mentally abusive mom and I was dealing with her and wasn't giving him much attention because I was trying to keep her from pulling her bull shit on him. and I did subject myself to the same rules
Those rules are good and well u understandable... but him "feeling neglected " due to you being practically a full time carer for your mum, he should of talked instead of what he did.. it is hard to deal with mental health but harder alone
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I have always delt with any issue in my life from being suicidal to having a crush on someone hell even when I was sexually abused when I was eight by my older cousin loss heart ach I always delt with it alone I never spoke to anyone about it I always smiled and laughed as if nothing was wrong because I couldn't handle anyone seeing how weak and broken I actually was inside. Not going to lie if this relationship doesn't work out I'm probably not going to try looking for companion ship again. Everyone I have let in my life has stabbed me in the back or had an alternative motivation even my own family uses me and trys to make me the fool. Keep in mind the guy I'm with is my first legitimate boyfriend and when I say that I mean he wasn't just someone I flirted with online. Basically if this doesn't work out it will mean everyone I ever trusted left me rather by choice force or decent. I only trusted 4 people my whole life my grandma- passed away when I was 13. My younger cousin- he's changed and doesn't care about me anymore. My dog Lucy- murdered by my older cousin and my boyfriend.
I am so sorry to hear that you've had a extremely bad upbringing and It infuriates me that has happened to you as no one should ever be treated like that (my friend in North America as suffered simlier to you and wish I could do anything to help ) if you ever need talk to or vent or anything I can offer myself here for that whenever you need
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Thanks. I think a lot of people my age kinda got screwed as far as a child hood gose. it's ok what doesn't kill you makes you stronger I guess. On the bright side I never got bullied by kids at school. Mostly because I had so much bull shit in my life that I was very uninterested in there's
Could look at the bright side but still no child should go though what you did... i didn't have a good one but no where near like yours which still sorry to hear but brighter side you are still here , you are still strong and getting through life your way and no one can say otherwise
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My life wasn't the best but it's definitely not the worst and at the very least I actually have plans and goles in my life
That's great to hear that you have raised above it all and going hard with your plans 😊... sorry gone off topic lol
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It's alright I don't mind yah ultimately my goal is to have a tiny farm/homestead ware I'm pretty much self reliant. The night I found out about him cheating he took his glasses off because he was expecting me to hit him. Which I didn't I didn't even raise my voice. I tend to have a large amount of control over my emotional state. So people in my family have never seen me lose my composure
Yeh that's my dream too... people are shit and want to be left alone on my little paradise aswell... when my ex's cheated on me I kept my composure too when they were expecting some thing from me but no I just lost all emotion and talk to them as nothing behind my words.. not even a second of my time so your boyfriend doesn't actully know you when expecting to be hit when really.. whats that going to do hitting someone 🙄
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Don't get me wrong I wanted to hit him I wanted to drag them both to the river and drown them but I knew it wouldn't help me in the long run. Basically I'm going to wait this relationship out a little longer and see if he cheats again if so I'll continue with my original plan of being alone because when it comes down to it the only person who is there for you in the end is yourself
I don't blame you at all and one a cheat will always do it again to some degree. Understand that thought as well... who can you trust when people just ruin it
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Well I actually did know someone who cheated but didn't do it again he wasn't my boyfriend but I did know him. I just don't really understand why my life has tried to find every opportunity to put me through hell. One day I hope I reach my goals so I can finally start living my life and being happy
Life is crual and unfair to those who don't deserve to be treated That way but you will reach your goal and dreams , and you will be living the life you want to... just hope your boyfriend actully realises how much of a amazing loving woman you are and doesn't do something stupid again... otherwise I'll fly there and knock his teeth down his throat 😅😅
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In all honesty I told him to remember the truth always comes out and I'm not a fool so tell me the truth to start or get out of my life because if you make me find it things are going to get very ugly for u and fast
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Trust me you won't have to I grew up with 5 boys if I choose I can really hurt someone. I slapped him once out of reflex because he scared me and it took 20 minutes to convince him I slapped him not punched him
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