Why is it hard to love someone?

[GingerGuy]

Is this just a general fear, or from past experience? Unfortunately I guess there's a lot of guys that cheat, and I think so much so that women just assume ALL guys do it or will, but that's definitely not true. Unless you have trust issues in general (which maybe you need counselling or therapy for?), when you find the right guy, trust and love will be easy and come naturally. Every relationship and guy is different, remember that. You can't bring the past into new relationships. A new relationship is always a risk to some degree, no matter who you are, but don't place judgements on someone new until you get to know them. Give them the benefit of the doubt and basic trust unless he proves he doesn't deserve it. But base it off his actions, not from your past experiences.

[ItsTheNephilim]

You have trust issues which seems normal these days. The way people get together, one gets used to the other and the million ways how it can lead to a toxic relationship and in the end, they get separated. Well not always but that's how it goes usually. Takes too much effort, expectations and letting yourself go. That's what makes it hard.

[Cataphract]

Ugh, such a cheezy title... Because in order to "let someone see the real you" you have to open up, which makes you vulnerable. And nobody likes feeling vulnerable.