Do you keep a list of people who wronged you?

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I do. It's divided in two categories - people I actually know in real life, and that's 68 names, and people online or celebrities/politicians, and that's 216 names.
On the 68 people I know in real life - most of them family, acquaintances, friends and rivals - I write down possible ways to get back at them based on the severity of their wrongdoings and keep it overall realistic, since it's concrete planning for future actions.
For the celebrities/online people, I allow myself to fantasize a bit, but that's it.
What about you?

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1 y

For people who keep mentioning violence - I abhor violence and will never resort to it.
There are far more ways to get back at someone without physically harming them.

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Youryeodongsaeng

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Oh, yes. My grudges ages as I do. I've been holding grudges for so many years, up to my childhood. This is why I'm depressed, I'm so focusing on the past events that has already happen 2-3 years ago and my grudges can longer than that. My MDD was from holding those grudges that happened in the past and I would love it if I was free from my MDD and grudges, because it can be very tiring.

One of my ways of how I'd try to handle my grudges is killing, but I wish there were an alternative way of killing, like an author killing off a character.
There may be a theory that I'm gonna create: Am I really living this life? What if I am just imagining all of this? My real dad actually died a long time ago and when he went up here, to collect me for the first time in my 12 years of life, he was actually taking me with him, seeing that my mom and her husband will do something to make me wanna be in foster home in the future from then. When I said that I wanted to go back home, something probably casted an illusion of what would've really happened to me if I lived to be 16 years old. Maybe. Just maybe, the one who casted this illusion is trying to push my buttons and make me end this so-called 'life'.

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letsgettalking

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Can I ask what is MDD?
Youryeodongsaeng

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Major depression disorder.

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letsgettalking

Can I ask what is MDD?

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Youryeodongsaeng

Major depression disorder.

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Screenwriter | 62 opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.

Guru

Making the list takes enough time. And why hold all that shit in and stew in it?
Sometimes the people who "wronged" you don't even know they've offended or hurt you. So why list them?
Then there are others who are in the past, so they're off the radar. Why bother.
Who made you judge and jury? Is that realistic in any sense of the word?
Why not let these resentments GO and move on. Forgive the people who are ignorant or unaware of how they affect others.
This is a waste of time. There are so many positive ways to live. This is not one of them.

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TruthBringer

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No. I don't give much importance to people who I dislike or who dislike me. I live my life for myself, not for resenting people or allow myself to be annoyed. This includes the people who have wronged me. I've dealt with things such as betrayal, disrespect and racism. It used to bother me before, but now, I just brush it off whenever I see it happening again. Having an abundance mindset and truly not care of unconstructive criticism is one of the most important things you have to do as a person.

You keeping that list is nothing but a reminder of negativity and a waste of energy. Which has an impact on your overall happiness. Let it go. Be in the present and look forward to a better future, without them. That doesn't mean what they have done to you is right, but it's not right to allow them to have that much important to your life.

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Not_Average

Explorer

Nope, that's too intense. I put a mental note in my head, and move on. I don't put energy into negative people.

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Account | 264 opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.

Master

Not a list, but I used to have a place in my head where they all resided.
Growing up, I can't do that anymore.
I used to be really petty in the past and I kept quite a lot of anger inside me and unleashed it towards them whenever the opportunity presented itself to me.
I no longer can do that, I don't have the energy and it is seriously not worth it.
No one is worth it to take a spot in your head.
All of that is wasted energy.

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TruthBringer

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That's a great decision you have made. I'm glad you've grown as a better person! You're right, it's nothing but a waste of energy. And those people aren't worth it
Account

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Thank you, I really appreciate that

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TruthBringer

That's a great decision you have made. I'm glad you've grown as a better person! You're right, it's nothing but a waste of energy. And those people aren't worth it

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Account

Thank you, I really appreciate that

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AlienParasite

Yoda

Nope. I want to make a list about people, but about details. What are their ticks, what's their personality type according to different schemes, what seem to be their fears, goals, likes, dislikes, best skills, drawbacks, most used expressions, funny or interesting anecdotes... But I'm a procrastinator.

Returning to the main issue, I don't see interest in any other type of list. I don't see how revenge could improve my life or make me feel a worthy lasting satisfaction.

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Anonymous

Who has time for this? If you have "that many" people who have wronged you, maybe it's not them, but you, and as an adult rather than keep endless lists, try actually dealing with the situations and not harboring feelings of resentment or hatred for the rest of your life about it because they are out their living their lives not worried about you, while you're making useless lists about them. You're verging on crazy territory here writing down what you'd do to them...seriously....you may need to deal with your issues in a more constructive manner or potentially seek counseling.

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Jean-Marie_Céline

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I'd agree with you on the useless part up to a point, since I can't get back to online people and celebrities.
But for IRL people, it's not useless, I have already took some payback on three of those people. I keep it realistic, I only write down things I'll really do to them.
Opinion Owner

1 y
That's disturbing.

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Jean-Marie_Céline

I'd agree with you on the useless part up to a point, since I can't get back to online people and celebrities.
But for IRL people, it's not useless, I have already took some payback on three of those people. I keep it realistic, I only write down things I'll really do to them.

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Opinion Owner

That's disturbing.

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Daniela1982 | 109 opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.

Guru

Nah, I let Karma deal with them. Do you keep a list of people who wronged you?

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kuttypuli

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I keep a list but not for revenge. I stay away from those people as I will never trust them again. If I get a chance to return the favour, I'm just a man, I would gladly be opportunistic.

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aialex | 56 opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.

Yoda

Yes. I wouldn't go as far as planning revenge against them, but if they're on fire, and I have water, I'll drink it.

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Agape93 | 325 opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.

Master

No need to have a list, I know exactly who they are, what they did, why they did it and more often than not, where they live or work.

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Everglow5

Xper 6

No. I just make a mental note to destroy that person in my free time. Unless they apologize or it was a genuine accident.

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Hangry22

Guru

I have it in my mind. I may not remember the reason or incident but i will always remember the feeling and once an oppurtunity comes, i will take it

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burlen | 127 opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.

Yoda

Really? 😲 That’s scarily weird if you really do such a thing.

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purplepoppy

Master

The police call that evidence. I just keep the names in my head.

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Levin | 67 opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.

Master

I have a list, yes.

I should imagine I will be like Stalin one day. Just biding my time...

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M1k3y

Xper 4

If you write it down they're affecting your life more than they deserve to.. don't waste your time of them. It'll only bring you down. Move on and enjoy your life rather than devoting time to those who don't care.

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Gwenhwyfar | 223 opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.

Master

No. I don’t do that. There are very few people I hate enough to wish harm upon.

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prettyfacegoodtaste

Xper 4

Yes and no. I remember their names and faces and vow to never bless them with my presence again.

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KingdomForAKiss

Explorer

No, I don't write down things like that. I know who has and I keep them far out of my life.

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taeh_ie2

Xper 7

I don’t.

I just go by the quote forgive and forget.

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TacosRAwesome | 554 opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.

Master

I have a few people I wish serious pain to, but I can't be bothered to get revenge so I hope life fucks them over.

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Hmmmbetternothere

Xper 4

Not at all, just keep on moving on down the road of life. Love to prove people like that wrong instead. Do I wish them well, yes.

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Liam_Hayden

Guru

No. Unless the person is actively antagonistic, I try to avoid wasting time and energy on such nonsense.

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