Texting an ex happy birthday?

Question

Should you text an old fling Happy Birthday! ? I have mixed feelings about it... thoughts? He reaches out to me every so often but seems to always get upset about something.

Yes, text Happy Birthday!

Nope, don’t do it

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Answer 1

Walamagicc

Xper 5

I am going to go with no. If you text him, what if he doesn’t reply back the way you want him to or worse, never answer at all. It’s just going to ruin your day. You aren’t going to get anything out of sending him a text message. He may even think that you’re desperate by mistaking your kindness for something else. So no don’t text him. Continue doing no contact.

Asker

23 d
Thank you. That’s what I’ve been thinking in the back of my head. I never reach out to him, so I just don’t think I want to put myself in that situation with the possible outcomes you mentioned. We are friends on fbk tho... would you even do that?
Walamagicc

23 d
No I wouldn’t be his friend online. I understand how you feel. I broke up with my ex 3 weeks ago and sometimes I wanna text him too but I don’t. My pride won’t let me and don’t let your weakness get the best of you. You may miss him but he isn’t worth a text message or any more time of yours. Y’all broke up for a reason. If you text him, it’s like reopening a stitched wound.
Asker

23 d
I’m sorry! I feel like when he does reach out to me... I’m at fault somehow. I don’t even know what I even say that gets him pissed off. 🤷🏼‍♀️ I just feel like it’s a waste of my time and like you said, my pride! I just don’t want to seem rude by not acknowledging it so that’s why I asked.
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Walamagicc

23 d
Listen, you don’t owe him anything. You are not in a relationship with him so there’s nothing to “owe.” It kind of sounds like you like him still the way you’re talking about him. Did you text him anyways?
Asker

19 d
I guess there is still some feeling there a little bit. But he just finds fault in everything I say so I know I need to forget him and move on! Today is his birthday but haven’t said anything to him.
Walamagicc

19 d
That’s great. Just keep moving forward. Later you’ll look back at this situation and question why you would want to give this idiot a second of your day. Happy New Years!
Asker

19 d
Haha! Thank you! You too!

Answer 2

Asker

Thank you. That’s what I’ve been thinking in the back of my head. I never reach out to him, so I just don’t think I want to put myself in that situation with the possible outcomes you mentioned. We are friends on fbk tho... would you even do that?

Answer 3

Walamagicc

No I wouldn’t be his friend online. I understand how you feel. I broke up with my ex 3 weeks ago and sometimes I wanna text him too but I don’t. My pride won’t let me and don’t let your weakness get the best of you. You may miss him but he isn’t worth a text message or any more time of yours. Y’all broke up for a reason. If you text him, it’s like reopening a stitched wound.

Answer 4

Asker

I’m sorry! I feel like when he does reach out to me... I’m at fault somehow. I don’t even know what I even say that gets him pissed off. 🤷🏼‍♀️ I just feel like it’s a waste of my time and like you said, my pride! I just don’t want to seem rude by not acknowledging it so that’s why I asked.

Answer 5

Walamagicc

Listen, you don’t owe him anything. You are not in a relationship with him so there’s nothing to “owe.” It kind of sounds like you like him still the way you’re talking about him. Did you text him anyways?

Answer 6

Asker

I guess there is still some feeling there a little bit. But he just finds fault in everything I say so I know I need to forget him and move on! Today is his birthday but haven’t said anything to him.

Answer 7

Walamagicc

That’s great. Just keep moving forward. Later you’ll look back at this situation and question why you would want to give this idiot a second of your day. Happy New Years!

Answer 8

Asker

Haha! Thank you! You too!

Answer 9

iseekpinetrees

Yoda

No he's am ex move on dont think about him I don't even remember when any of my exs b days are except maybe 2 people but they are stuck in my head for some reason. Still have no want to message them.

Answer 10

Serenia

Xper 4

Yes, text Happy Birthday!

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