How do you move on from breakup when you’re still in love?

Question

We broke up because I had to move away. We were deeply in love but he didn’t want long distance without being able to see each other, which is impossible right now. Even though I was the one that moved away I still feel rejected.

Today, 4 months after we broke up we decided to completely cut ties. I’ve never broken up with someone that I still loved or wanted to be with. I don’t know how to deal with this. I’m so heartbroken, hurt and angry. On top of that I moved to a new country and I don’t have friends here.

In the past I had something to motivate me get over the person. Something they did. Now I don’t. I need something that helps on the inside, not things like “keep busy” “go gym”. Its a pandemic I don’t have that many options.
Please help.

Answer 1

keenmind2007

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Most persons don't opt for a long distance relationship because as you said, they don't get to see each other enough among other things. Though you still love him and moving away was something you had to do, his decision to call quits is something you'll learn to respect after a while, and of course, with every good relationship that has unfortunately come to an end, you'll feel sad, hurt and even angry, but eventually you'll get over it. Try getting to know the people around you (the safest way possible), divulging in new hobbies and exploring your new home to get your mind off him.

Asker

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I work out 4-5 times a week, and do regular work but since I’m kind of quarantined I don’t know how to meet people. Like everything I do only helps temporary and doesn’t change anything about how I feel or my thoughts. It’s come to a point where I have nightmares about it. Thank you for your answer💕

Answer 2

Asker

I work out 4-5 times a week, and do regular work but since I’m kind of quarantined I don’t know how to meet people. Like everything I do only helps temporary and doesn’t change anything about how I feel or my thoughts. It’s come to a point where I have nightmares about it. Thank you for your answer💕

Answer 3

neverendingloops

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It's going to be tough. Honestly, you might never 100% get over it. There might always be little thoughts and feelings in your mind. Best thing to do is try to focus your mind on other things for the time being. But that can be really really hard when your brain feels scrambled. Something as simple as watching TV or playing a game to be able to concentrate on something else for a while can help a little. Hopefully the pandemic stuff goes away soon and you can completely focus on other things. Until then you just have to do your best. Sorry I can't be more helpful. Good luck for the future.

Answer 4

melnc | 1.6K opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.

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Look, If someone ended the relationship with you it doesn’t mean that there’s anything wrong with you. Try not to take it personally because relationship breakups happen all the time. Whatever you’re feeling now won’t last forever. It may take some time to get over and recognize there will always be good days and bad days. The sun won't stop rising for that guy... live your life.
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scott04sa22

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Well said
Asker

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It’s really difficult not to. I’m always thinking back if I did something wrong or the way I am made him not value me. I just have a hard time accepting how you can give up so easily.
melnc

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Instead of holding expired dreams and hopes, make peace with the past. The point here isn’t to stay angry or hurt but to remember the full truth of why the relationship ended.

Sometimes, we need relationships with others to see ourselves more clearly. So, the best thing you can do is figure out who you are, what you need, and how to get those needs met. And to truly know that, you have to figure it out on your own... Invest in yourself.

Answer 5

scott04sa22

Well said

Answer 6

Asker

It’s really difficult not to. I’m always thinking back if I did something wrong or the way I am made him not value me. I just have a hard time accepting how you can give up so easily.

Answer 7

melnc

Instead of holding expired dreams and hopes, make peace with the past. The point here isn’t to stay angry or hurt but to remember the full truth of why the relationship ended.

Sometimes, we need relationships with others to see ourselves more clearly. So, the best thing you can do is figure out who you are, what you need, and how to get those needs met. And to truly know that, you have to figure it out on your own... Invest in yourself.

Answer 8

scott04sa22

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You're not alone. I broke up with someone after a month of datings in 2014. She was too crazy.

Answer 9

V4mp315

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I might not be much of a help on this because I have been wanting to know exactly the same for long time ago now, but nothing yet 😕 good luck i hope someone can help you out with and if so please let me know

Answer 10

Anonymous

Time lots of time and years go past... Your pain your feelings will decrease. BUT still will probably think miss love want to hold him
If its meant to be. You got to wait it out more.
. I understand there is millions of men. Out hearts wants what we cannot have or love that is hard. Its painful let me tell you right now.

Asker

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I hope not :( I hope I’m over him by the summer, If I’m not I’ll try to get him back.

Answer 11

Asker

I hope not :( I hope I’m over him by the summer, If I’m not I’ll try to get him back.

Answer 12

KrakenAttackin | 151 opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.

Yoda

Find someone else. For a woman this takes five minutes.

Answer 13

Nay12

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Try to distance yourself from things that reminds you from him/her

Answer 14

Anonymous

Cover the pain with multiple meaningless sex relationships.

Answer 15

linds34 | 107 opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.

Master

It just takes time

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