How do u get over the person u lost ur virginity to?

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So like it was to this guy I was talking to at the time. And it’s not like I even want to be in a relationship w him or even be friends w him. But like I feel like I have a soul tie and I just want to be able to break it. I regret it tons cuz it’s a long story but basically he made it seem like we were dating and then after the deed said we weren’t. Anyways I’m glad we’re not talking anymore but if any one reading this and is a Virgin. Dont do it, he isn’t worth it.

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btbc92 | 634 opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.

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Oh trust me I'm a virgin myself and what I tell people all the time do not have sex before marriage. This is not something you get over this is something that you will have to live with. The only thing that I can simply tell you is simply leave it in God's hands and repent from making those decisions. In the end you must remember something that into a lot of women especially start coming together and voicing their opinions and why these things are badly affecting our relationships with the opposite sex especially, other than just going to say suck it up buttercup, oh well your loss not mine, well everybody has to go through a deal with it, and other dismissive and toxic messages out there. But while there is some truth to it, the promises. You're the one that's broken down. You have to remember that at the end of the day those were your personal choices, and the only way that you're going to be able to get through this is unless you choose to get through it. Is a reason why they say you become one with that person. You already created a marriage with this individual without a legal one. And this is why gentleman you don't sleep with a person you're not legally married to.

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Obviously it was my choice. Never said it wasn’t.
btbc92

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Exactly my point. Because you made your personal choice that's why it hurts even worse because it was.
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How would it not have been my choice? I mean besides rape but like how does rape have anything to do w my question. I’m looking for helpful tips and u saying it’s ur choice that’s why u feel bad is just stating the obvious sherlock lmao. If u don’t have any advice then don’t comment
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btbc92

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The reason why I said that it's out of their personal interpersonal experiences of my own friends that done the same thing. When you develop trust with a person and they made vows and Promises to you it will hurt but then you remember that it takes two to tangle. When you already made that decision because you wasn't looking for a relationship or anything else, that's when it hurts double. It depends on your sexual beliefs. It is better to have a strict moral standards that you live by instead of going based on what you feel. Because it can be very deceiving and it could lead to more regrets that is often avoidable. Until you understand the root of why you made those decisions it becomes harder for you to actually move on. Before you end up attracting the same problems in the future.
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Well no I was looking for a relationship. I could have seen myself marrying him. But that didn’t work out. Either way yeah I have repented. I love the story of Mary Magdalene “let they who haven’t sinned cast the first stone”. It doesn’t matter if u haven’t done sexual sins, you’ve sinned before and thus can’t cast a stone at someone who has. Everyone sins and that doesn’t make sin ok we all have to strive to be sinless but we’re all sinners
btbc92

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To tell you the truth nobody can really help you with that because this is your life. You say you know that but if you know that then you already have the answer. I'm only telling you what I have always told my friends especially who made those decisions and they had to learn this for themselves. They had a choice oh, they made plenty of countless choices that led to countless mistakes. Some of them kept on repeating the same mistakes edit didn't learn until they grew tired of it. You got to go to a point where you really grow tired of it and you say no means no and I would never do this again. And you don't just say it, you apply and you do it. You just simply do. That is not much that can be said. There's no real formula to this. It's a choice of saying am I going to do this again or I refuse to do it. You can't just say it, you can't just try even though it's better to try to not try at all. You have to do it. Did you simply have to do it. You can't wait just to feel okay just to do it. You have to do it now if this is what you really want. Because the longer you procrastinate, the more you're going to feel like you don't want to do it. If you need help doing it then you need somebody who is a professional, and especially if you looking for faith-based counseling which may be best, did you do what you got to do for the sake of your mental, psychological, emotional, and spiritual health. Before I'd God forbid tears you down. I seen it done it to one of my friends, it took them nearly three months of stairs intensive Counseling in order for them to try to help. They got worse a bit after that. But it was trial and error. And they eventually got healing and got better by the grace of God. You have to want it just as badly. That's all I can tell you. You must acknowledge that, and then let it go. If you really did like you say you do, then you just now got to let it go.
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Thank u
btbc92

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Actually it's called righteous judgement. Because I haven't done so I can get that judgment in that way. Because I never made those sense. If you are feeling offended by it then again there's something in you you have to work on the same way there are things I have to work on. You got a really work it out. The same way Mary had to work it out. Because that was actually referring to the same men that mess with her and felt they didn't have any sin. Never said I never had any sense. All I'm saying is that if you say that you want these things that you need to listen to somebody who didn't do those things and who still holding on to stand for what is right. Because it's easy to say that I don't know your pain and then you do the same thing again. I don't want you to do the same thing again. But I can't control your life. If God is leading you to do what's right then you need to just do it. That's why you got to put God first and not your will first. I'm telling you the same thing I told my friends were doing the same thing you did. And it still affects them today but not as bad as it did a few years ago. Put God first. You going to get George regardless. We all going to get judged not just by God, but by people. If you going to get judged, make sure you're just full right things and not be held with blame and contempt. We all have our problems and we all have our sins that we got to work through. But it's when you choose to do it willfully is when there's a problem. You now have to just walk, Let It Go, and don't do it again. That's all you can do.
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Im not offended, just stating the Bible “ Judge not, that ye be not judged. [2] For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.”
Thanks for the advice pal
btbc92

18 d
And the word of God also says do you know that one day we will judge angels? We can give judgment. But it's about the intent. If we have no judgment in our life then we don't need free will. We have free will and ability to judge because we have to do it righteously. It's best not to quote something you don't know about. Because I understand that scripture and I understand what it means to hold weight in order for you to make such judgments. God knows my intent when I say what I need to say and I'm led by the spirit to say what has to be said. This is what you have to do. It's called having the gift of discernment.
btbc92

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And please understand that none of what I said was a direct message to you. It was for those that think there's no consequence when there is. What I had said the first time was for them. It was not meant for you. That's why I told you if you took offense that it was not meant to offend you because that wasn't for you. My message for you was for you to let it go and let God and not do it again.
Asker

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Do u believe in soul ties? And if so how do I break them?
btbc92

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It's not that I believe in it I know what exists cuz the Bible speaks about it. The only way that can happen is by the grace of God. There's a lot of things that has to be done it but it really all depends on what kind of soul-tie you got because sadly not also ties all the same. First you got to understand and acknowledge that you more likely have transferred spirits from him to you and you and him. You got to first get delivered from those spirits that you picked up from him. That require spiritual warfare. And it's not a joke. That's why I tell people especially those that are believers in Christ better take it very seriously. That is key number one and two since you already said you were repented of that sin. The next things to do is that you going to need somebody who can mental you with this. I am not sadly the person who can do that. I'm going through my own battles and it's not easy. The only thing that I can do is give you advice on what to do in the meantime. But that's what this covid-19 is going on it's all for you to get the people. Especially when lying I don't even want to go there. Other than that. You're going to have to make sure if you haven't already cut off all contact with this individual, but first, make sure anything he gave you physically such as jewelry, clothes, video games, movies, trinkets, Etc return it back to him. If he says he don't want it anymore make sure you get it in writing, you both get a notarized, and if he told you to basically don't give it to him anymore. Then you have the option to do whatever it is you please with the items as long as it's not within your presence and in your possession. You got to clean out everything that is not for you to keep. You also got to ask God what kind of Soul tie do you have. And make sure you hear properly from the spirit of the Lord. Any bondage spirits that you got from that guy you got to rebuke it according to Matt 18:18.
btbc92

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And that also includes the spirit of lust and rejection. You also asked God any tie made with that person that is not of him you asked him to help you cut the silver cord in the name of Yeshua.
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Ty I have asked God to break any ungodly ties. What is the spirit of rejection?
btbc92

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As the definition is, is when you feel unloved. It's sadly tends to tie in with the spirit with witchcraft. That's when you start getting into spiritual warfare. But if you look it up, it would tell you a lot of stuff about it. Sadly when you have those kind of spirits on you you tend to attract the wrong kind of people in your life. Usually they're the type of people you don't want which are narcissists, abuses, manipulators, things of that nature besides socio and psychopaths.

Answer 2

Asker

Obviously it was my choice. Never said it wasn’t.

Answer 3

btbc92

Exactly my point. Because you made your personal choice that's why it hurts even worse because it was.

Answer 4

Asker

How would it not have been my choice? I mean besides rape but like how does rape have anything to do w my question. I’m looking for helpful tips and u saying it’s ur choice that’s why u feel bad is just stating the obvious sherlock lmao. If u don’t have any advice then don’t comment

Answer 5

btbc92

The reason why I said that it's out of their personal interpersonal experiences of my own friends that done the same thing. When you develop trust with a person and they made vows and Promises to you it will hurt but then you remember that it takes two to tangle. When you already made that decision because you wasn't looking for a relationship or anything else, that's when it hurts double. It depends on your sexual beliefs. It is better to have a strict moral standards that you live by instead of going based on what you feel. Because it can be very deceiving and it could lead to more regrets that is often avoidable. Until you understand the root of why you made those decisions it becomes harder for you to actually move on. Before you end up attracting the same problems in the future.

Answer 6

Asker

Well no I was looking for a relationship. I could have seen myself marrying him. But that didn’t work out. Either way yeah I have repented. I love the story of Mary Magdalene “let they who haven’t sinned cast the first stone”. It doesn’t matter if u haven’t done sexual sins, you’ve sinned before and thus can’t cast a stone at someone who has. Everyone sins and that doesn’t make sin ok we all have to strive to be sinless but we’re all sinners

Answer 7

btbc92

To tell you the truth nobody can really help you with that because this is your life. You say you know that but if you know that then you already have the answer. I'm only telling you what I have always told my friends especially who made those decisions and they had to learn this for themselves. They had a choice oh, they made plenty of countless choices that led to countless mistakes. Some of them kept on repeating the same mistakes edit didn't learn until they grew tired of it. You got to go to a point where you really grow tired of it and you say no means no and I would never do this again. And you don't just say it, you apply and you do it. You just simply do. That is not much that can be said. There's no real formula to this. It's a choice of saying am I going to do this again or I refuse to do it. You can't just say it, you can't just try even though it's better to try to not try at all. You have to do it. Did you simply have to do it. You can't wait just to feel okay just to do it. You have to do it now if this is what you really want. Because the longer you procrastinate, the more you're going to feel like you don't want to do it. If you need help doing it then you need somebody who is a professional, and especially if you looking for faith-based counseling which may be best, did you do what you got to do for the sake of your mental, psychological, emotional, and spiritual health. Before I'd God forbid tears you down. I seen it done it to one of my friends, it took them nearly three months of stairs intensive Counseling in order for them to try to help. They got worse a bit after that. But it was trial and error. And they eventually got healing and got better by the grace of God. You have to want it just as badly. That's all I can tell you. You must acknowledge that, and then let it go. If you really did like you say you do, then you just now got to let it go.

Answer 8

Asker

Thank u

Answer 9

btbc92

Actually it's called righteous judgement. Because I haven't done so I can get that judgment in that way. Because I never made those sense. If you are feeling offended by it then again there's something in you you have to work on the same way there are things I have to work on. You got a really work it out. The same way Mary had to work it out. Because that was actually referring to the same men that mess with her and felt they didn't have any sin. Never said I never had any sense. All I'm saying is that if you say that you want these things that you need to listen to somebody who didn't do those things and who still holding on to stand for what is right. Because it's easy to say that I don't know your pain and then you do the same thing again. I don't want you to do the same thing again. But I can't control your life. If God is leading you to do what's right then you need to just do it. That's why you got to put God first and not your will first. I'm telling you the same thing I told my friends were doing the same thing you did. And it still affects them today but not as bad as it did a few years ago. Put God first. You going to get George regardless. We all going to get judged not just by God, but by people. If you going to get judged, make sure you're just full right things and not be held with blame and contempt. We all have our problems and we all have our sins that we got to work through. But it's when you choose to do it willfully is when there's a problem. You now have to just walk, Let It Go, and don't do it again. That's all you can do.

Answer 10

Asker

Im not offended, just stating the Bible “ Judge not, that ye be not judged. [2] For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.”
Thanks for the advice pal

Answer 11

btbc92

And the word of God also says do you know that one day we will judge angels? We can give judgment. But it's about the intent. If we have no judgment in our life then we don't need free will. We have free will and ability to judge because we have to do it righteously. It's best not to quote something you don't know about. Because I understand that scripture and I understand what it means to hold weight in order for you to make such judgments. God knows my intent when I say what I need to say and I'm led by the spirit to say what has to be said. This is what you have to do. It's called having the gift of discernment.

Answer 12

btbc92

And please understand that none of what I said was a direct message to you. It was for those that think there's no consequence when there is. What I had said the first time was for them. It was not meant for you. That's why I told you if you took offense that it was not meant to offend you because that wasn't for you. My message for you was for you to let it go and let God and not do it again.

Answer 13

Asker

Do u believe in soul ties? And if so how do I break them?

Answer 14

btbc92

It's not that I believe in it I know what exists cuz the Bible speaks about it. The only way that can happen is by the grace of God. There's a lot of things that has to be done it but it really all depends on what kind of soul-tie you got because sadly not also ties all the same. First you got to understand and acknowledge that you more likely have transferred spirits from him to you and you and him. You got to first get delivered from those spirits that you picked up from him. That require spiritual warfare. And it's not a joke. That's why I tell people especially those that are believers in Christ better take it very seriously. That is key number one and two since you already said you were repented of that sin. The next things to do is that you going to need somebody who can mental you with this. I am not sadly the person who can do that. I'm going through my own battles and it's not easy. The only thing that I can do is give you advice on what to do in the meantime. But that's what this covid-19 is going on it's all for you to get the people. Especially when lying I don't even want to go there. Other than that. You're going to have to make sure if you haven't already cut off all contact with this individual, but first, make sure anything he gave you physically such as jewelry, clothes, video games, movies, trinkets, Etc return it back to him. If he says he don't want it anymore make sure you get it in writing, you both get a notarized, and if he told you to basically don't give it to him anymore. Then you have the option to do whatever it is you please with the items as long as it's not within your presence and in your possession. You got to clean out everything that is not for you to keep. You also got to ask God what kind of Soul tie do you have. And make sure you hear properly from the spirit of the Lord. Any bondage spirits that you got from that guy you got to rebuke it according to Matt 18:18.

Answer 15

btbc92

And that also includes the spirit of lust and rejection. You also asked God any tie made with that person that is not of him you asked him to help you cut the silver cord in the name of Yeshua.

Answer 16

Asker

Ty I have asked God to break any ungodly ties. What is the spirit of rejection?

Answer 17

btbc92

As the definition is, is when you feel unloved. It's sadly tends to tie in with the spirit with witchcraft. That's when you start getting into spiritual warfare. But if you look it up, it would tell you a lot of stuff about it. Sadly when you have those kind of spirits on you you tend to attract the wrong kind of people in your life. Usually they're the type of people you don't want which are narcissists, abuses, manipulators, things of that nature besides socio and psychopaths.

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