How Do You Get Over Heartbreak?

[NyceGuyFinishingLast]

Heartbreak is like the common cold, there is no vaccine or remedy other then time. Heartbreak is nothing new as it has been around since the dawn of time. Everyone that experiences it, think they will never recover but you will. Life goes on whether you are heartbroken or in love. The only thing that changes is how you see things when you are either heartbroken or in love. People think that the world stops because they are heartbroken but if you step back and look, it is only your world that stopped because you stopped it. Your job doesn't quit, you still have to eat, breathe, the sun still comes up and goes down, bills still need to be paid, and others still depend on you. So I'm the grand scheme of things from a world view heartbreak is really miniscule. I have been heartbroken many times and probably will be plenty more times. There is no one method to complete or pill to take to get over heartbreak. I completely understand that people in pain cannot think beyond what is hurting them but focusing on what is important keeps you moving forward.

If your boyfriend/girlfriend breaks up with you or you leave them because they cheated or whatever. What if they aren't as heartbroken? What if they picked up and moved on while you are being all emo? Sitting around moping doesn't solve anything. Checking their social media to see what they are doing is nothing but letting them live rent free between your ears.

If you are heartbroken over losing a loved one then remembering them how they were is better than thinking of how life will be without them. It doesn't make it hurt any less but the healing process speeds up a little and you will become a little happier at the end of each day.

It is all about how you come into a situation. If you go to a party with a negative attitude then you will go to the party looking for things that are wrong or could go wrong instead of anything that could be fun. After a heartbreak you look at the world through wounded eyes. All you see is pain and hurt because you might see something that reminds you of why you are hurting. It is a fact and process of life. Life is full of situations that everyone reacts to but some times you need to act on instead of reacting to. You have to be more like a force of nature for example water, it always finds a way through, over, or around anything that gets in it's way. Like with your broken heart you need to continue to follow day to day everyday and just overcome or blast through any obstacles. Broken heart is an obstacle in life and everyone has their own way of getting past it. Just find yours instead of sitting around thinking about something that no longer exists. I know it isn't easy but it isn't impossible either.

[tootalldomangue]

For two people that are in love they both work together to form a bonding relationship If one person does all the work to form a relationship then it isn't as rewarding and the relationship is doomed.
In the old days men were the breadwinners and women were the caretakers of the home. Today it takes both man and woman to be financially stable and they need to work together in the home to make things work especially when there is children involved, if there is no children involved then things are a little easier
A loving couple will help each other no matter what needs to be done no matter if it is an indoor chore or outdoor chore.
If there is a huge age gap then the younger person will need to understand as a person gets older they are ready to settle down and enjoy life at home. For the young people if you get involved with a much older person you are making a big sacrifice to freedom (your youth) and you must understand one thing sacrifice is a big thing to give up so before making any commitment to a relationship with a large age gap ask yourself if this is what you want or willing to accept.
I made the same commitment when I met my wife over 9 years ago we dated for 2 years before I asked her to marry me she accepted, but I took about 6 months to think it over before I asked her to be my girlfriend and I did the same before I asked her to marry me, because of our age difference we are 20 years apart in age. I am 59 now she is 38 and we have been married for almost 8 years now we do have our differences at times just like any other couple we argue, have some fun together we even tease each other and she goes out with her friends when she wants and yes I have met her friends as well as her parents and she has met my friends and family. but at the end of the day we both love each other she made the choice to be with me and we love with each other. When we met for the first time she admitted to me that she had that look in her eye that she wanted to be with me. So you see it takes both people to make a relationship work and each person makes a sacrifice both of you need to work to keep the relationship alive because without each others support the relationship will fail.

[jennifer_bloom]

You can create a new meaning and purpose for yourself that does not involve dating and romance and revisit those old relationship triggers when you are in a better financial and emotional place - Our lives are brimming with hidden possible blessings and pleasures - you just have to work at finding it and discovering it

A friend of mine had a brain injury and lost her career as a musician and psychologist and wife and custody of her three children

Seventeen years later she is a professional graphic artist and human rights activist and award winning novelist and now that she is no longer skillful at writing music, she is choreographing videos and teaching music to children and socializing with other brain injury survivors

Her life is just as beautiful as it was before she lost her world - it just took some time to rebuild

[bobalife]

Going through the same, I just keep myself busy and surround myself with loved ones. But I’ve been really sick, I try to just focus on myself... I think that’s all you can do. Did you feel like your partner is limiting your desire to exp life and the world? If not, maybe you’re just being young and scare.. I felt that before with someone. Though it is unfair if he was supportive of it or you haven’t discuss it while being with him. I think it just depends on who you are with.. doesn’t matter their age.. we all want someone who will let us still do what’s best for ourselves and within the relationship... and maybe you’re not ready for a relationship if you just wanna focus on yourself and that’s okay.

[FlyGirl95]

Put logic over emotion and logically realize that love will come again. Loving yourself and focusing just on your needs of all the senses. Feed your eyes ears touch and mind. Take a hike in nature. Foster your other relationships family or friends. Get a dog and join a club. Meet new people. Go on dates. And have fun for gods sake 😁

[Rohan-Thanekar]

Actually no such advices worked for me. Until i met someone really special. That one person who u really want to love and explore together. That's the only time i forgot my heartbreak of the past. I didn't even realissed when it automatically vanished from my life

[Anonymous]

It may take a week or even years, but eventually you will move on. It's no fun feeling like your hearts continuously breaking after getting reminded of them. Remember that there's nothing wrong with you. Ask yourself where it went wrong, and use that to help with your next relationship. Your feelings are valid, no matter what happened.

[BackAgain602]

One day at a time. And don't get stuck and stagnant in memories--that makes it harder to move on. Surround yourself with good friends and throw yourself into something you can focus on--school, work, some kind of project. For me it was finishing my Bachelors.
I've had 2 heartaches. I can tell you that you will reach that day that when they cross your mind, you literally won't feel a thing.

[iced_coffee__]

Assure yourself there is a reason he/she broke up with you. You may not know that reason know, but it will make sense later. Move on. Find more people to crush on. If you focus yourself on someone else, you will think less about them. If you can't find someone else move on to celebrities. Hope you feel better

[seanras]

1. Think of your life and how it was before the whole chapter began.
2. Get back to some things that you felt held back from in the relationship.

The other major plan you can do is try to settle in each other's places so you don't have a LDR. Can I ask you what your circumstances are exactly?

[paraXaraq]

I've never experienced it, but I assumed time, reflection, healing. Allow yourself to go through the motions of the heart break the pain your experiencing though it is bad and unwanted embrace it. Reflect on the good times and the bad, the things that worked and didn't work so you know how best to approach similar situations in the future and finally heal, let it go it didn't workout doesn't mean you have to harbour that pain forever, let it go and allow yourself to heal from it.

[robertKugler]

Distract your self as best u can
Write a letter to the person getting out your feeling even if they don't read it it's best they don't you can be pissed off sad etc. And give your self time with it. allow you emotions to run their course talk to people about it

[Annieee18]

I don't know too, i wish i know because i need the answer too. Although, I think time helps a lot and finding your passion. You don't need to be busy doing anything, you have to like what you're doing. Have something you'll look forward to.
Now, that won't help you get over the heartbreak... but it gets better. Soon that pain will be bearable, next thing you know is you're finally okay.

[jshm2]

Why would you?

You move on from such things, not get over them. Though I suppose it depends, as heartbreak over a dead hamster isn't quite on the same level as heartbreak over a crashed prized car.

[iseekpinetrees]

Just move on in life. Sounds like u know what u want you want to live. Maybe down the line you'll see him again n be together. But just try to push towards the positive and live your life to the fullest.

[Bakry123]

I am on it right now she left me for a close freind the best advise that worked for me although iam not 100% over it is to delete everything that releated u to that person so u could not follow his news & do not contact or reach him ever

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Like a lot of things somethings in life take time & instead of reflecting on why your heart was broken reflect on the good times & use that feeling to slowly move forward.

[scott04sa22]

Start cooking seriously do it because cooking not only they help people reduce their anxieties but it can also heal peoples broken hearts. Google cooking therapy. Also a woman's broken heart heals slower than guys.

[Eliiiiii]

Music helps me.
I tried venting out to my friends but they weren't of much help, so i just trusted music and went on a little trip, to get my head out of shits.
Hope you feel better soon 💕💕

[dantheman1118]

There is an easy, less effective answer and the real, less fun answer. The easy answer is- Easiest way to get over someone is get under someone else. Why this is the less effective one is it doesn't really get you past that first person. It covers up everything for small amounts of time. The second less fun answer is- Time. That's it. Just time. There is no way of speeding it up. It's rather miserable. But it's the only thing that cures a broken heart.

[WesBrewer]

Some people find a new partner, but surrounding yourself with friends and constantly venting on social media will help a lot.

[EssenceOfLight]

You convince yourself it's better for you. This is mostly true because if everything was okay with your partner there wouldn't be any heartbreak.
Unless you're the one who made an unforgivable mistake, then is heartbreak the price you have to pay for your ignorance.

[spitifrex]

There is no defined or specific way to get over it. Time heals all wounds as they say. You just learn to live with it.

[Everglow5]

Never been heartbroken, but I recommend anime and tea all night, then sleep till 3 pm and do it all again lol

[I-C3_ME]

Time and self love are pretty good medicines for a broken heart but just make sure to not drink or eat or any other addictive thing cuz that's a hole without a bottom

[karangill]

Get yourself together. Romantic/intimate relationship is one aspect of life.

Getting over heartbreak is difficult if you are dependent completely only on this aspect of life.

How about friends? Family? Your career that you desire?

[CriticalDiscourse]

Choosing not to sacrifice your life for someone else's happiness is not evil. It's just.

[scholastic_vibez]

You don’t get over heartbreak unless you forgive them. Then you can forgive yourself.

[Hermes-Paris]

Be happy for what you shared with him but it sounds like its time to move on.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

I kept myself busy to distract myself from thinking about issues that (might) bother me.

[dawsonnata]

I usually find some rebound guy and fuck that for a while until I find a guy I want

[chHaynes]

With enough alcohol would be how I get over a girl and then I was this time I would improve myself even more after I get someone hotter possibly their job to

[Lynx122]

If he was depending on you for happiness that's not a great place for a relationship to be anyway.

[glock33sig357]

Hook with a friend with benefits and concentrate on improving myself by learning to speak a different language.

[Midnight_Kiss]

You don't, you use it as a learning curve and move on with your life the right person will come along eventually but unfortunately you have to kiss a few frogs before you find your Prince

[TeeBar]

Find another heart to love or at least feel good around.

[dudeinohio]

Time is the number one healer. Arrange your lifestyle to being alone. Eventually, you'll be all right.

[Skankhunt]

Keep going with your life. Distract yourself, cry if you need to. Delete everything what reminds you of your ex.

[sheikalana]

It definitely takes time so let time heal you. Focus on the things you like to do, focus on yourself, rely on your friends and family, do not isolate, be open to meet new people.

[Maspolomas]

Just keep moving forward find something to do or play video games especially online ones that involve killing

[jl25sc]

Just occupy yourself with other tasks and new hobbies. Thats what I'm doing now and it seems to be working

[jasco]

I just move on, play video games, talk to other people, music

[AnthonyJ01]

It takes time. I was told that I needed to start seeing someone, but I just waited.

[Wise4myage]

By keeping yourself busy and not spending too much time alone. Don't spend to much time focusing on what happened and try to stay positive.

[jgirl99]

Still trying to figure that one out...

[Unit1]

With drugs ♥

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure if I am over it or just got used to it.

[Anonymous]

I give the bitch that broke up with me all the blame.

[Trooper205]

Time is the Healer. It takes Months in some cases, but with time, You will heal.

[Eleni079]

Ben and Jerry’s, wine, cheesy movies, good friends.

[wittymilf]

Replace it with more heartbreak :)

[Dinosaursandanime65]

It gets lost to the winds. Patience... just... patience

[Guthm]

accept it, live with it.
it took me 8 months to accept it

[chriscdi]

time, because time heals all wounds

[lovespeony]

by experiencing more sad events...

[ryancg]

A lot of booze helps. And sex of course.

[Gedaria]

Depends on the situation.

[V12NI]

I don't know just don't care and move on

[Anonymous]

Feel the sadness first, then start to do what you love. Don't look back and create new memories.

[Anonymous]

Literally let it burn

[Darcia]

It takes time

[CometoMee]

Did you draw that?

[mrhappy69]

Ben&Jerry, alcohol and binge watching Netflix

[DanishSaint]

Drugs, sex and booze!!