How do you stop yourself from reaching out to someone when you miss them?

Question

You know to yourself that you miss that someone but you shouldn't reachout because things ended so badly. Maybe they cheated or took you for granted. But sometimes you're longing for them so much that you need your friends or other people's help to stop you when you're thinking about messaging that certain someone.

Answer 1

SquirtleSquirtle

Xper 4

Do you fight it, the urge to reach out, or more like acknowledge it and then consciously switch to something else?

Annieee18

17 d
I acknowledge it. But I don't let my actions be based on my emotions so he doesn't have any idea i might be missing him
SquirtleSquirtle

17 d
It'll recede soon and fade, just get occupied with other things.

What I do is removed the person from all forms of contact, be it social media, emails or such, phone numbers, all! Even if I do get an urge it recedes within a few seconds as there's no way for me to contact them.
Annieee18

17 d
💯!!! And yep, that's what i did weeks ago. Ended the contact, blocked everywhere.
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SquirtleSquirtle

17 d
Yup, treating them like any other 7.8 billion souls whom I don't know. Indifferent.

So, Imma play devil's advocate 😈, what if this person's THE ONE? What if you can forgive them, change them, reconcile and start anew? What if you're 40 and single, miserable, getting old, and they're still there single, just awaiting for long time for you to contact them? 👀🙊
Annieee18

17 d
Hahahaha. That's all false hope. I don't wanna have my life revolving around them. When I'm 40 and single, I'll just be happy being single. I wanna be comfortable being alone. It's really hard to detach but it's not impossible
SquirtleSquirtle

17 d
Yup :-p these are the kinds of tricks bitch ass mind plays
Annieee18

17 d
Hahahaha truee. Thanks so much for your response

Answer 2

Annieee18

I acknowledge it. But I don't let my actions be based on my emotions so he doesn't have any idea i might be missing him

Answer 3

SquirtleSquirtle

It'll recede soon and fade, just get occupied with other things.

What I do is removed the person from all forms of contact, be it social media, emails or such, phone numbers, all! Even if I do get an urge it recedes within a few seconds as there's no way for me to contact them.

Answer 4

Annieee18

💯!!! And yep, that's what i did weeks ago. Ended the contact, blocked everywhere.

Answer 5

SquirtleSquirtle

Yup, treating them like any other 7.8 billion souls whom I don't know. Indifferent.

So, Imma play devil's advocate 😈, what if this person's THE ONE? What if you can forgive them, change them, reconcile and start anew? What if you're 40 and single, miserable, getting old, and they're still there single, just awaiting for long time for you to contact them? 👀🙊

Answer 6

Annieee18

Hahahaha. That's all false hope. I don't wanna have my life revolving around them. When I'm 40 and single, I'll just be happy being single. I wanna be comfortable being alone. It's really hard to detach but it's not impossible

Answer 7

SquirtleSquirtle

Yup :-p these are the kinds of tricks bitch ass mind plays

Answer 8

Annieee18

Hahahaha truee. Thanks so much for your response

Answer 9

Bigggylicker

Xper 5

go find and meet someone better and let them show you better

Annieee18

17 d
But isn't that unfair for that someone new?
Bigggylicker

17 d
Noo.. Because you can be honest and let yourself go and let them take care of you

Answer 10

Annieee18

But isn't that unfair for that someone new?

Answer 11

Bigggylicker

Noo.. Because you can be honest and let yourself go and let them take care of you

Answer 12

BunChan

Xper 4

I just write whatever I wanna tell them in my notes and keep it to myself.

Answer 13

ItsTheNephilim | 501 opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.

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Go and do something you like or maybe go explore something new?

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