Why would an ex add you back on social media?

[CallMeDave]

I have a different opinion that most of the other people that have commented on this. I'm connected on social media with a couple of my exes (and would be willing to connect with any of my exes if I found them and they were willing).

My reasons are that I liked them and cared about them as people when I dated them and so am still interested in staying in contact as friends even after the romantic relationship is over. Even for those that I feel wronged me, I don't hold grudges and still would be interested in having some contact and sharing information about our lives. There's no way I'd date them again, but being friends or acquaintances is fine.

My girlfriend feels the same way. She's connected on social media with a few exes also and I think for the same reasons. (I'm confident that she's no longer interested in them romantically, so I know that's not the reason.)

Neither of us sees anything wrong with that. When you have a romantic relationship with someone that creates a connection that I think lasts even after the romance fails. I'm connected on social media with a lot of people I went to school with or worked with even though I have no contact with them in daily life now, so why wouldn't I also be connected with people I had a much closer relationship with? We have shared experiences and memories and as long as neither person is toxic, I think it's fine to maintain a social media connection.

I'm guessing that you asked this because one of your exes has reached out to you after a period of time since the breakup. My opinion is that, unless you think he's toxic and will cause problems if you connect with him, it's worth connecting with him and exploring what his motivation is. He might just want to stay in touch and I don't think there's anything wrong with that. If you try and he becomes abusive or is flirting when you don't want that, then you can always drop him later, but if he just wants to be in touch and be friendly, I don't think that's bad at all.

[JPrez]

Mainly to get laid but could want to get back together.

[Thatoneasian]

Ex’s always come back. Either that’s your ex friend or a romantic relationship, they always come back. There is, and could be, multiple reasons but usually they come back because they see or sense the happiness that your having without them. They want the happiness that your feeling because they ended up being the unhappy one and you were the one who came out good at the end. This isn’t always the reason but in most cases it is.

[modelUN242]

He’s spinning plates, you’re his booty call, rebound, backup? Kind of obvious...
If he was interested, he would reach out but if he just added you and nothing happened, he wants you to chase him. Block him.

You guys broke up for a reason.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

They want to steal you off of me LMAO... no they are trying to get back to you

[Dontaaa]

They probably want to restart that old flame, if nothing else.

[Finchie40]

Desperation, realize nobody else wants them so they try to go back to their ex , Best thing for you to do is don’t add him back and move on with your life

[DAsk04]

Curiosity. To see what your up to. Perhaps something triggered a memory

[HOAAH]

They are curious how you have been without them.

[DiscomfortZone]

Because he wants sex.

[ItsjussZack]

He ran outta options

[_Just_A_girl_]

Stalk.