Delayed dealing with breakup?

[Imcmullan]

Yes, mines took 3 years. I was in an 8yr relationship.. and when we broke up, I was relieved and happy and felt free.. the first year I wild out.. went on so many dates, fycked who I wanted, partied, did drugs.. this was all bc I was in a controlling relationship n now I felt like I could do what I wanted. My ex stalked me , harassed me, begged me for forgiveness but I didn't go back. The 2nd year after our break up, I chilled out.. no more partying, dating and being wreckless.. eventually found someone else, got married , and we moved into a new home. The last place I was in, I lived there with my ex.. so, I felt like thay energy was still there. When I went to the apartment to clean it completely , it all hit me. I realized that 8 years of my life I spent it with someone I thought I was gonna be with forever n me moving felt like imthat relationship was finally over (also my ex moved down the street from where that place was so I never felt free) ... anyways, while finishing up, it all came crumbling down on me and I found myself crying over the past in an empty apartment. Not bc I still wanted that bc I got married n moved on but bc the home held a ton of memories that we created together with one another.. I grew up in that relationship and also I learned a ton. I attribute my success and work ethic to that relationship. Bottom line, everyone comes into your life for a reason. But it doesn't mean they are ment to be a permanent existence... u learn from every person you meet and build yourself up from there so that your next relationship is better.

[MindYourEyes]

Yeah it’s normal. Everyone grieves differently. I know for me when I broke up with my last ex it was easy to me because I knew it had to be done. But it probably hit me harder 6 months to a year later xD I just thought what the fuck haha but hey it’s all good now. I think I just blocked everything out my mind and then slowly I just let everything back in and it just hit me.

[Emay71]

It can occur quite often, and rather late, for many other people.

A delayed reaction is really just the realisation that a person you put your heart and soul into keeping close by, is now no longer by your side.

The reason why it may take a while to sink in, is because of the usual schedule and changes to that schedule. Before you have had your life sorted out and have everything planned to the minute, to both include time to yourself, time for work, and time with the partner.

It is after the break up that you then have to change that schedule to fit in that extra time that he has left empty in your life, and it is also only at a time where you would normally have contact with that person, where you begin to realise that he is now gone, and that he has left a space in your heart and soul open and empty.

[Redred56]

I’m referring to a divorce here. But she kept watching a highlighting
Every expense I made. Not asking or realizing it was my business
Account and being paid every month. Now I know part of the problem was me, takes you both to fall in and out of love (Right)
But she kept on with these threats and pressure that interfered
With my work! What she didn’t realize was as her daily babble was going on, I was serious and she didn’t see the divorce papers coming!

[EssenceOfLight]

This happens because we tend to remember good moments of former relationships and to forget bad ones. However I assure you if you reunite with your ex, the person will refresh all those bad memories very soon.

[HawkPerception]

Different depending on the person and relationship they had. Some people feel nothing when it happens but start missing it and romanticizing it later, while others take a while to get over it but then feel free as a feather once they are over it.

[PYTcassiaxo]

According to Attachment theory. You might be Fearful Avoidant.

[pleasestopthis]

It happened to be when I broke up. I felt so relieved that I didn't had to deal with the stress of birth control and his BS and that feeling cancelled any sadness I could feel for a while

[KrakenAttackin]

Because the guy you were planning to monkey branch to just pumped and dumped you.

[Synikal]

Nah. You're dealing with the downside of no relationship now. Simple. If meant more of would be quicker unless you're completely oblivious or never cared.

[etexbearkat]

Just take some time. That’s all you need. Spend time with friends and family. Cry if you need to.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes it takes time to sink in because we needed a break anyway, it’s taken years for my divorce to get to me