Would it be a bad or good idea to apologize to my ex? Should I?

Question

He’s helped me out with things financially even though we broke up & we got into an argument over something small & We we’re going at it out of anger from the past and saying things we didn’t mean. I told him to die and I called him a crack head baby since his dad does crack :/. And he’s never blocked me in our relationship or after we broke up but this time he did. He has a girlfriend too so I don’t want to interfere I would just like to apologize because deep down I know that’s not how I am.

Answer 1

Skankhunt

Xper 6

Yes, it can be a good idea to apoligize. You can do his face to face or send him a message. A message is less personal, but it might be a good idea to keep distance for a while. I don't know long you are not with each other anymore, but just let it slide for now.

My adive.
1: Apologize in front of him, don't make it sound like you want to get back with him. To avoid suspicion, you can apoligize whil his girlfriend is watching the both of you (few feet away).
2: Be honest, don't apologize if you don't mean it
3: Move on, try to live your life without him,. Try to be happy. Do things you like or try something new.

Asker

20 d
I dont think it would be respectful and that necessary to do it in person. And it’s been 2 months since we broke up so things still hurt a bit.
Asker

20 d
When i say respectful i mean on the girlfriends end.
Skankhunt

19 d
Well, it's up to you how you apologize, but apologizing in person is way more respectful than sending him a message. Sending a message means you don't really care and you want to get it over with as soon as possible. It's up to you whether you apologize or not. Just talk to him in private without his girlfriend.
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Asker

19 d
I was planning i on calling if i do. I just don’t think it’s necessary to do it in person because wether it’s with th girl or not because i want it to be brief.

Answer 2

Asker

I dont think it would be respectful and that necessary to do it in person. And it’s been 2 months since we broke up so things still hurt a bit.

Answer 3

Asker

When i say respectful i mean on the girlfriends end.

Answer 4

Skankhunt

Well, it's up to you how you apologize, but apologizing in person is way more respectful than sending him a message. Sending a message means you don't really care and you want to get it over with as soon as possible. It's up to you whether you apologize or not. Just talk to him in private without his girlfriend.

Answer 5

Asker

I was planning i on calling if i do. I just don’t think it’s necessary to do it in person because wether it’s with th girl or not because i want it to be brief.

Answer 6

LZPanzer

Xper 6

If you want to apologize you can. Keep it brief, but make sure it's clear.
Keep in mind his new girlfriend may discover your apology. Don't make it sound like you want to get back together.

Asker

20 d
Yeah If I end up doing it I’ll for sure keep it short.

Answer 7

Asker

Yeah If I end up doing it I’ll for sure keep it short.

Answer 8

In_Trance | 758 opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.

Master

bad idea

Asker

21 d
Really, I respect the relationship but I just feel bad even though we had our ups an down. Likes those are the last words I said to him lol..
In_Trance

21 d
yup. It went the way it went. you're done, now move on. let it go
Asker

21 d
It’s not about just letting go. Believe it or not but you have a small or big impact on everyone’s life you come in contact with so.
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In_Trance

21 d
So show me a benefit of hanging on
Asker

21 d
Loll, well he’ll know that I didn’t mean those things, because him blocking me was a first so. I dont know he had a sad story and he got skinnier after our break up.
Asker

21 d
You’re probably right it won’t do much sigh. It’ll just be an “ok” moment and we move on with our lives.

Answer 9

Asker

Really, I respect the relationship but I just feel bad even though we had our ups an down. Likes those are the last words I said to him lol..

Answer 10

In_Trance

yup. It went the way it went. you're done, now move on. let it go

Answer 11

Asker

It’s not about just letting go. Believe it or not but you have a small or big impact on everyone’s life you come in contact with so.

Answer 12

In_Trance

So show me a benefit of hanging on

Answer 13

Asker

Loll, well he’ll know that I didn’t mean those things, because him blocking me was a first so. I dont know he had a sad story and he got skinnier after our break up.

Answer 14

Asker

You’re probably right it won’t do much sigh. It’ll just be an “ok” moment and we move on with our lives.

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