I think I’m losing feelings what do I do?

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Me and my boyfriend have been together for over a year now and this is my first real relationship. We have had a lot of trouble in our relationship and as of late it’s gotten really rough. I’ve always felt very passionately about him and our relationship, I was the one that constantly wanted to hang out, I was the one who always called or did little things to let him know I was thinking of him. I used to get super excited to see him or just talk to him and overall I just felt really happy being with him regardless of what we were going through, but as of late I haven’t been feeling the same way.

I dread our boring conversation over the phone, and seeing him isn’t exciting to me, I think about what it would be like if we broke up fairly often and I find it hard to show affection now. This started about a month ago and it was almost instant like a switch in my brain, and as much as I try to force myself to be interested I can’t. The reason I haven’t left is because of guilt, I did something that I’m not proud of (no I didn’t cheat) which is one of the reasons are relationship has been so bad lately and Id feel horrible for leaving a relationship just because I wasn’t happy for a little... it feels like I’m giving up on it especially because I see him trying so hard to make things work.

I don’t know if this feeling is temporary and it will go away and I don’t want to make a decision based on temporary emotions I’m not sure if this is something most couples experience or if this is a sign that I should leave. I need to make a decision quickly because he’s beginning to notice the shift and I’m having a hard time hiding it but I don’t want to tell him and hurt him if it’s just a phase.
(P. S : I started going to therapy after I did the thing I wasn’t proud of, I’m not sure if that could be a factor in why I have been feeling how I feel lately because my therapist does point out a lot of negative things about our relationship)
I think I’m losing feelings what do I do?
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