Boyfriend broke up with me during pandemic, I miss him do you think there is a chance he will come back?

Question

We were together for 15 months and he broke up with me in early January this year.

during the pandemic I became more stressed and this caused me to become more negative and argumentative. he couldn’t take anymore and ended things with me which left me feeling hurt. Do you think there is a chance he will regret and come back?

Answer 1

SueShe | 178 opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.

Influencer

You are the only one to know his character and his overall behavior.

Is he a more superficial person that avoids conflicts? Is he more of an introvert? Those traits of character would lead me to believe that he is avoiding conflicts because of lack of self assurance and how to deal with them.

Also, are you the type of person that stresses easily? If yes, then your future relation with your boyfriend does not look too rosy.

You have to communicate because only communication can solve problems. If you try to do the first move towards reconciliation, then you may have a chance to get back together. I suggest you prepare a list of issues you see with yourself and bring a solution that you think would be acceptable to him. However, if you are serious about this relation, ask him to do a similar list and also bring solutions. The you sit together and find a consensus. Good luck.

Asker

17 d
Thank you, I appreciate your response and advice also yeah that does describe my boyfriend and me, I have tried a couple of times as the first time I apologised for my behaviour and asked if we could try again and if he needed more space or wanted to take things slow i understand but he wasn’t interested

I just don’t understand why when the going got tough he just gave up
SueShe

17 d
His attitude means that he has moved on and that you should probably do the same. He is not the type of person that likes challenges and has given up too easy. It is sad to say but perhaps it is better for you at the end. You could find someone that is really appreciating you and does not give up with the first problem on the horizon.
Asker

17 d
Thank you for your advice again! It’s just a harsh reality to come to realise I guess as I loved him a lot even though their is nearly a ten year gap between us
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SueShe

16 d
Thanks for the MHO. Hope you are doing well.
Asker

16 d
Thank you very much! I still feel quite low to be honest but thank you for asking! Hope you are well
SueShe

16 d
I am. Get your mind off this topic and get busy with something that you find pleasure with.
Asker

16 d
I am trying to I just find it difficult
SueShe

16 d
You find it difficult because you cannot let go. Get rid of everything that reminds you of him like trinkets, pictures and other memorabilia. You are holding onto those things that do you no good. Let the past rest and concentrate on your future.
Asker

16 d
I’ll try too, thank you
SueShe

16 d
Welcome and enjoy life. Be happy. It is in your hands :-)

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Asker

Thank you, I appreciate your response and advice also yeah that does describe my boyfriend and me, I have tried a couple of times as the first time I apologised for my behaviour and asked if we could try again and if he needed more space or wanted to take things slow i understand but he wasn’t interested

I just don’t understand why when the going got tough he just gave up

Answer 3

SueShe

His attitude means that he has moved on and that you should probably do the same. He is not the type of person that likes challenges and has given up too easy. It is sad to say but perhaps it is better for you at the end. You could find someone that is really appreciating you and does not give up with the first problem on the horizon.

Answer 4

Asker

Thank you for your advice again! It’s just a harsh reality to come to realise I guess as I loved him a lot even though their is nearly a ten year gap between us

Answer 5

SueShe

Thanks for the MHO. Hope you are doing well.

Answer 6

Asker

Thank you very much! I still feel quite low to be honest but thank you for asking! Hope you are well

Answer 7

SueShe

I am. Get your mind off this topic and get busy with something that you find pleasure with.

Answer 8

Asker

I am trying to I just find it difficult

Answer 9

SueShe

You find it difficult because you cannot let go. Get rid of everything that reminds you of him like trinkets, pictures and other memorabilia. You are holding onto those things that do you no good. Let the past rest and concentrate on your future.

Answer 10

Asker

I’ll try too, thank you

Answer 11

SueShe

Welcome and enjoy life. Be happy. It is in your hands :-)

Answer 12

Avicenna | 1.2K opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.

Master

TBH, I think the chances are very low, and almost zero if you don’t take the Initiative to reach out to him

Asker

17 d
He broke up with me though? I have tried a couple of times to rekindle and he doesn’t seem interested
Avicenna

17 d
The main problem is WHY you broke up- it’s hard to overcome that because why would he think tjjvgsywould be different , plus there are no doubt raw feelings on his part.

You should move on and meet other guys.
Asker

17 d
I understand but if someone breaks up with you it’s not normally up to the person that was dumped to chase after them if they didn’t do something wrong like cheating or anything and to be honest this whole experience makes me think love is fickle as first sign of Trouble then it’s a breakup

Answer 13

Asker

He broke up with me though? I have tried a couple of times to rekindle and he doesn’t seem interested

Answer 14

Avicenna

The main problem is WHY you broke up- it’s hard to overcome that because why would he think tjjvgsywould be different , plus there are no doubt raw feelings on his part.

You should move on and meet other guys.

Answer 15

Asker

I understand but if someone breaks up with you it’s not normally up to the person that was dumped to chase after them if they didn’t do something wrong like cheating or anything and to be honest this whole experience makes me think love is fickle as first sign of Trouble then it’s a breakup

Answer 16

Iron_Man | 1.5K opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.

Master

The question is do you really want to have a guy like that back For what he did

Asker

17 d
This is the thing, deep down I still really have feelings for him I just can’t understand why he would throw the relationship away like that as I feel maybe I pushed him away. Thank you for your opinion by The way
Iron_Man

17 d
You’re very welcome and I’m sorry that this happened to you
Asker

17 d
Thank you it just hurts knowing that he wouldn’t stick by me or go through the rough patch with me
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Iron_Man

17 d
And It really must be tough on you
Asker

17 d
It really is it hurts a lot, he was 36 and despite all that I was willing to stick by him even with the age gap of nearly 10 years
Iron_Man

17 d
Yeah I date younger females myself
Asker

17 d
If you were in the same situation would you have left or broke things off?
Iron_Man

17 d
I would never leave a female during the pandemic. I will talk to her on the phone and have a lot of activities like sleep with her on the phone have dinner with her on the phone watch movies with her on the phone and then probably invite her over to my house. I was in a long-distance relationship for 2 1/2 years and everything worked out well yeah I took
Asker

17 d
That’s really sweet that you would do that. I guess I feel from this experience that love is fickle
Iron_Man

17 d
I’m sorry to hear that. If you want you can private message me later or we can talk in here. I have to get going now it was nice talking to you 😊
Asker

17 d
Thank you! I would like that and no worries it was nice talking to you too! :)
Iron_Man

16 d
Hi I am here now
Asker

16 d
No worries, how do you do the Chat thing? :)
Iron_Man

16 d
Did you follow me earlier?
Iron_Man

16 d
If that was you I will private message you
Asker

16 d
Yeah it’s me
Iron_Man

16 d
I just got one two minutes ago was that you?
Asker

16 d
If it’s mel2020 it’s me
Iron_Man

16 d
cool
Iron_Man

16 d
Thank you so mich for Most Helpful Award 😊
Asker

16 d
It’s no worries at all as it gives me perspective so thank you! 🙂
Iron_Man

16 d
👍😊

Answer 17

Asker

This is the thing, deep down I still really have feelings for him I just can’t understand why he would throw the relationship away like that as I feel maybe I pushed him away. Thank you for your opinion by The way

Answer 18

Iron_Man

You’re very welcome and I’m sorry that this happened to you

Answer 19

Asker

Thank you it just hurts knowing that he wouldn’t stick by me or go through the rough patch with me

Answer 20

Iron_Man

And It really must be tough on you

Answer 21

Asker

It really is it hurts a lot, he was 36 and despite all that I was willing to stick by him even with the age gap of nearly 10 years

Answer 22

Iron_Man

Yeah I date younger females myself

Answer 23

Asker

If you were in the same situation would you have left or broke things off?

Answer 24

Iron_Man

I would never leave a female during the pandemic. I will talk to her on the phone and have a lot of activities like sleep with her on the phone have dinner with her on the phone watch movies with her on the phone and then probably invite her over to my house. I was in a long-distance relationship for 2 1/2 years and everything worked out well yeah I took

Answer 25

Asker

That’s really sweet that you would do that. I guess I feel from this experience that love is fickle

Answer 26

Iron_Man

I’m sorry to hear that. If you want you can private message me later or we can talk in here. I have to get going now it was nice talking to you 😊

Answer 27

Asker

Thank you! I would like that and no worries it was nice talking to you too! :)

Answer 28

Iron_Man

Hi I am here now

Answer 29

Asker

No worries, how do you do the Chat thing? :)

Answer 30

Iron_Man

Did you follow me earlier?

Answer 31

Iron_Man

If that was you I will private message you

Answer 32

Asker

Yeah it’s me

Answer 33

Iron_Man

I just got one two minutes ago was that you?

Answer 34

Asker

If it’s mel2020 it’s me

Answer 35

Iron_Man

cool

Answer 36

Iron_Man

Thank you so mich for Most Helpful Award 😊

Answer 37

Asker

It’s no worries at all as it gives me perspective so thank you! 🙂

Answer 38

Iron_Man

👍😊

Answer 39

Shihab91

Xper 5

He will regret? But you were the one who is stressed

Asker

14 d
That’s right but just because a partner is stressed that doesn’t mean you throw the towel in and leave, you should at least try and have a serious discussion to see how you can support to help them deal with this
Shihab91

14 d
Correct, unless he tried to support but instead you were argumentative too much then nothing he can do. Your best chance is to show that you have changed.
Asker

14 d
Yeah that’s right I already feel like I messed things up but this is why I feel love is fickle as any little thing now a days and people just break up, people have gone through far worse and had to contend with arguments as well but still stick together
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Asker

14 d
Also he never really sat down to try and discuss with me how he could help he just wanted to resolve whatever happened there and then but not think about the long term
Shihab91

14 d
True, do you think he has moved on?
Asker

14 d
I think so but I get mixed signals he said he wants to remain friends but on the other hand when I say I miss him he says he misses me too everyday and thinks about me everyday
Shihab91

14 d
Well i think there is a chance, if i were you i would be honest and say everything in my mind including my feelings that i messed up apologizing shows maturity and responsibility
Asker

14 d
See I did that two weeks after the breakup and although he understood he still wasn’t interested in rekindling things. I apologised for my behaviour and asked to try again and if he wanted to take things slow or needed more space I understood but he accepted the apology but still wasn’t interested
Shihab91

14 d
Give it sometime he might be thinking. Remember actions speak louder than words. And honestly i think you should start moving on
Asker

14 d
I just find it hard but I appreciate your opinion anyway!
Shihab91

14 d
I know but you have to... Good luck
Asker

14 d
Thank you 🙂

Answer 40

Asker

That’s right but just because a partner is stressed that doesn’t mean you throw the towel in and leave, you should at least try and have a serious discussion to see how you can support to help them deal with this

Answer 41

Shihab91

Correct, unless he tried to support but instead you were argumentative too much then nothing he can do. Your best chance is to show that you have changed.

Answer 42

Asker

Yeah that’s right I already feel like I messed things up but this is why I feel love is fickle as any little thing now a days and people just break up, people have gone through far worse and had to contend with arguments as well but still stick together

Answer 43

Asker

Also he never really sat down to try and discuss with me how he could help he just wanted to resolve whatever happened there and then but not think about the long term

Answer 44

Shihab91

True, do you think he has moved on?

Answer 45

Asker

I think so but I get mixed signals he said he wants to remain friends but on the other hand when I say I miss him he says he misses me too everyday and thinks about me everyday

Answer 46

Shihab91

Well i think there is a chance, if i were you i would be honest and say everything in my mind including my feelings that i messed up apologizing shows maturity and responsibility

Answer 47

Asker

See I did that two weeks after the breakup and although he understood he still wasn’t interested in rekindling things. I apologised for my behaviour and asked to try again and if he wanted to take things slow or needed more space I understood but he accepted the apology but still wasn’t interested

Answer 48

Shihab91

Give it sometime he might be thinking. Remember actions speak louder than words. And honestly i think you should start moving on

Answer 49

Asker

I just find it hard but I appreciate your opinion anyway!

Answer 50

Shihab91

I know but you have to... Good luck

Answer 51

Asker

Thank you 🙂

Answer 52

In_Trance | 758 opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.

Master

No. You're free and clear. Move on. You broke up for a reason.

Asker

14 d
What’s the reason in your opinion?

Answer 53

Asker

What’s the reason in your opinion?

Answer 54

Pterodon

Xper 5

Only when he’s horny and can’t find someone else

Asker

17 d
Thanks for your opinion although pretty abrupt, do you think I was at fault for the breakup?
Pterodon

17 d
No a breakup is never one sided
Asker

17 d
Thank you, I’ve been feeling like I am because if I hadn’t have acted that way he might have stayed with me but on one hand I don’t understand why he left when times got tough?
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Pterodon

17 d
Exactly

Answer 55

Asker

Thanks for your opinion although pretty abrupt, do you think I was at fault for the breakup?

Answer 56

Pterodon

No a breakup is never one sided

Answer 57

Asker

Thank you, I’ve been feeling like I am because if I hadn’t have acted that way he might have stayed with me but on one hand I don’t understand why he left when times got tough?

Answer 58

Pterodon

Exactly

Boyfriend broke up with me during pandemic, I miss him do you think there is a chance he will come back?

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