I feel like a bad person after being dumped by my ex boyfriend?

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How can I overcome this? He broke up with me due to being stressed during the pandemic and me becoming more negative and argumentative as a result

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wheist9095
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If you feel bad because you blame yourself, then you have to take an objective view at what the problems were from your side. I'm going to ignore the problems he had for this idea because the fuck that guy he already left. You said you became more negative and argumentative, so make a mental map of where you started becoming more negative and arguing more, what the content was, what the triggers were, what the steps leading up to those things were, etc. After you know what caused it and all the little things that led up to it, you will know which perk you have to work on, and what you have to recognize in the future to prevent environmental stressors from causing you problems

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- Mel2021
  
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  That’s right and I just feel hurt because he left when we hit a rough patch. Also I became more stressed with not getting out for long periods of time and I know the pandemic has effected a lot of people that way
- wheist9095
  
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  Yeah, some people don't handle stress well. Or if it's just enough stress over a long enough period of time it's just not worth it to stay in. It hurts now, but think of it like a broken bone. It's going to hurt for a while, but after it heals up it'll be stronger than it was before. Now that doesn't mean go back to your boyfriend, or try to wait for him to come back to you, it means don't let it hold you down recognize your problems and work on them and move forward and hopefully you'll find somebody else who can compliment you better
- Mel2021
  
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  Thank you for your opinion and advice! :)
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- wheist9095
  
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  No problem, I hope you find happiness in your upcoming endeavors
In_Trance | 1.3K opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.
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Stressed during the pandemic? Smh
Have him fill out this

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- Mel2021
  
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  Yeah I was so I feel regret I guess
- In_Trance
  
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  Don't worry about it. You're fine. You're better off with someone who can handle the stress
- Mel2021
  
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  Thank you, I just feel like a bad person I guess and can’t shake the feeling to pick myself back up again
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- In_Trance
  
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  You will. Give it time. Do things you enjoy. Get your mind off of it
- Mel2021
  
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  Thank you I appreciate it :)
- In_Trance
  
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  You're welcome

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Heheebrv
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I would not feel guilty or bad if I was you... I have been a demo n at times during this virus due to not getting out and being stuck inside and thinking a lot. As a result I would get straight on whatsapp and hurl abuse and ask millions of questions to my boyfriend. Its only because he is committed to me that he stayed and decided to work things out with me. You deserve someone that is committed to you and sees you at your worst and your best and still sticks by. You are obvs a nice person and you are aware of yourself so please dont fret. Girl you are strong and you will find someone that will stick by you and treat you like a lady , unlike that guy.

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- Mel2021
  
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  Thank you very much! I appreciate your opinion and I know but it’s hard since I did care about him despite how the pandemic made me feel and act as I wasn’t so willing to walk away
- Heheebrv
  
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  Its no problem!! I know how it feels to like someone and want things to work out. Can I ask you say you were more argumentative? Do you just mean you were upset and would get catty about things or did you get argumentative at things he was doing? Xx im here if you want to talk
- Mel2021
  
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  Thank you so much and it would more just be upset and catty rather than anything else so say something at work could have bothered me that might have been minuscule
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- Heheebrv
  
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  I see! Well that sounds like nothing. Different if you were getting personal and actually making personal jabs that would of hurt him and caused him to end things but we are human and we need to vent and get it out of us. Are you planning on messaging him again?
- Mel2021
  
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  No as last time I seen him I told him to not contact me again unless he wanted to rekindle things and I wasn’t interested in a friendship
- Heheebrv
  
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  Ok! Do you see him texting you or can you see yourself moving on and healing well from the situation?
- Mel2021
  
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  See he was texting me from the breakup and we did hang out a few times but recently i found out he was only doing it from a place of friendship so I guess right now it’s to move on
- Heheebrv
  
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  Thats strange he would hang out with you after breaking up? Maybe he's on the fence still.
- Mel2021
  
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  I thought so but when I last talked to him about it two weeks ago he said he only wanted friendship
- Heheebrv
  
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  I see. How long were you together for? Sorry for the questions
- Mel2021
  
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  It’s no worries it was 15 months
- Heheebrv
  
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  Thats quite awhile. I wouldn't chase him If I was you. You do you and be good to yourself and he will see what he is missing. I wouldn't say you giving out was the reason he broke up with you. Some guys find commmitment difficult to deal with.
- Mel2021
  
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  I understand I just find it sad as I was committed to stay in the relationship and he wasn’t and no I’m not chasing at all
- Heheebrv
  
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  I know your not chasing but a lot of girls would. Maybe have another chat with him. If not, your best moving on and focus on you. I know its hard for you.
- Mel2021
  
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  I feel I’ve already had enough chats so I think right now it’s best for me to move on
- Heheebrv
  
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  I know how it feels. A guy broke up with me before snd i tell you I was devestated. I lost so much weight and I was depressed for ages. But I met a guy a year later that I liked even more. Its not the end of the road. You will always be you.
- Mel2021
  
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  Thank you so much for your opinion by the way, I’m sorry you had to go through that but I hope you are happier now :)
- Heheebrv
  
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  Its no problem at all!! Im happy that I can help in some way :) you are so nice. Thanks again. I hope you are feeling better about things xx
- Mel2021
  
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  Thank you you are very nice too and same to you 😊 xo

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Bang5luts
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Take care of yourself!! Do things you loved doing before you were together. Love yourself. Spoil yourself and surround with loving supportive people who will be there for you during the ruff times. Cry! If you feel like crying don't hold it in

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- Mel2021
  
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  Thank you so much for your kind words, I’m trying but just find it hard 😞
- Bang5luts
  
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  I know. It is very difficult and painful. I've cried also, but nothing has seemed to help with the exception of loving and supportive friends and family. Also, this picture I found on the internet. I'll post it
- Mel2021
  
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  Thank you! I appreciate it! It just hurts when you wouldn’t leave someone and they leave you 😞
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- Bang5luts
  
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  I know. It does hurt! I have done so much for the woman who left me and her five children that weren't mine and it left me feeling worthless, like trash or like you're not good enough
boggboss | 1.9K opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.
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By understanding u just wanted differnt things and was not right for wachother nether of u was good or bad

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Dchrls78104 | 197 opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.
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Amid all the stress that this pandemic has brought, the first thing a guy needs is someone to support and encourage him and the last thing a guy needs is a nagging, argumentative girl in his life.

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- Mel2021
  
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  I understand that I’m and I have apologised for my behaviour but he still wasn’t interested in trying to rekindle things with me or take things slow. Aside from apologise what more can I do?
- Dchrls78104
  
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  If you really want him back, you must first show him that you are not the person he left.
- Mel2021
  
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  I have tried to rekindle things at least twice and he isn’t interested
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- Dchrls78104
  
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  Next you must realise that it is up to him to take you back and that you will have to be patient in that regard. If he does, well and good; if not, give yourself time to recover, learn from your mistakes, and move on.
- Mel2021
  
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  Thank you for your opinion, I appreciate it :)
Ashwin0319
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Engage yourself with what u love more. Are start learning something new.

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