My Ex regretting her decision?

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My ex of 1y 10m monkey branched to someone else and she seemed so confident in her decision at first. Our relationship was great, we didn't argue, always on the same page, have movie nights, her parents LOVED me (and still do). This was her longest and my only relationship. Month after the break up I tried to go no contact with her but she would text me every 5-10 days about her mail. Then here recently she started texting me about random stuff, she even called me once and just started talking about things happening in our lives. Early in the break up She offered to keep the house so I could go back to my home town but I didn't. When I told her I might be moving out of the house she told me "don't move" and "why would you move", "where would you move too?" When she comes over when I'm not home writes notes at my house saying "I still love you" and " I'm lost". Is she regretting her decision? Or is her rebound not working out after 2 1/2 months? I know she still has feelings for me. Thank you for reading ❤❤

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Mel2021 | 51 opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.

Xper 6

If she is saying some of those things maybe ask her if you can meet up to chat and talk things through as it sounds like she is confused and most likely regretting her decision to leave.
Also maybe the rebound isn’t what she thought she would be (grass is greener)

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Coyote12

1 y
So last week I told her I was going to workout and she asked me if I wanted her to come. I told her "its up to you", well she said she will be there if though she already went that day. But we were going to have a hail storm so we both cancelled. When I got her package in the mail (yes she still has mail coming to my house) I offered to drop it off her work, she accepted and we talked for 15 minutes. Then her boyfriend stared calling her multiple times so we hugged and left. Later that night she texted me and said "it was nice seeing you" and i told her "felt like old times" and she replied "thats what i was thinking, it was nice".
Mel2021

1 y
Hmm that’s weird it isn’t fair to be stringing you along or the other guy she is with if she still has feelings for you. I know you couldn’t meet due to the hailstorm but maybe ask her to talk as you feel you are getting mixed signals from her to clear the air
Coyote12

1 y
She doesn't really like talking in person about that kind of stuff so we talk about it through text and all she says is I don't know what I want. I generally believe she is confused with a little bit of regret. Her mom offered to have the mail come to her house but she doesn't want that for some reason, but she also hasn't changed the mailing address to where she is staying now? She is confusing me as well.
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Mel2021

1 y
I understand but it’s really not fair on her stringing you along like that if she’s confused about her feelings
You may need to be firm then via text and say you don’t feel it’s a good idea communicating at the moment while she is confused about her feelings and that if she wants to rekindle things to let you know so then she has to make a decision
Coyote12

1 y
I will do that thank you so much ❤❤
Mel2021

1 y
It’s no worries! I hope it works out for you 😊

Answer 2

Coyote12

So last week I told her I was going to workout and she asked me if I wanted her to come. I told her "its up to you", well she said she will be there if though she already went that day. But we were going to have a hail storm so we both cancelled. When I got her package in the mail (yes she still has mail coming to my house) I offered to drop it off her work, she accepted and we talked for 15 minutes. Then her boyfriend stared calling her multiple times so we hugged and left. Later that night she texted me and said "it was nice seeing you" and i told her "felt like old times" and she replied "thats what i was thinking, it was nice".

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Mel2021

Hmm that’s weird it isn’t fair to be stringing you along or the other guy she is with if she still has feelings for you. I know you couldn’t meet due to the hailstorm but maybe ask her to talk as you feel you are getting mixed signals from her to clear the air

Answer 4

Coyote12

She doesn't really like talking in person about that kind of stuff so we talk about it through text and all she says is I don't know what I want. I generally believe she is confused with a little bit of regret. Her mom offered to have the mail come to her house but she doesn't want that for some reason, but she also hasn't changed the mailing address to where she is staying now? She is confusing me as well.

Answer 5

Mel2021

I understand but it’s really not fair on her stringing you along like that if she’s confused about her feelings
You may need to be firm then via text and say you don’t feel it’s a good idea communicating at the moment while she is confused about her feelings and that if she wants to rekindle things to let you know so then she has to make a decision

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Coyote12

I will do that thank you so much ❤❤

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Mel2021

It’s no worries! I hope it works out for you 😊

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whatdoyouwantt | 182 opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.

Xper 7

Well if she said she loves you then she probably does

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Coyote12

1 y
I do too, she came by the house 2 weeks ago and cleaned it. She hasn't been there since February. Every time she comes by she leaves notes about how "lost" and "I still love you" even "I will always be here for you". She also said " I don't know what's going to happen"

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Coyote12

I do too, she came by the house 2 weeks ago and cleaned it. She hasn't been there since February. Every time she comes by she leaves notes about how "lost" and "I still love you" even "I will always be here for you". She also said " I don't know what's going to happen"

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zagor | 184 opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.

Master

Why did you break up? If it was because some hot guy showed interest then I would avoid getting back with her, as the same thing might happen when the next one goes by. If it's more complex than that, then maybe think about it.

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Coyote12

1 y
She told me she "I love you but not in love with you". She is the kind of person that has not been alone before, so I'm thinking that's why she just jumped in a relationship so she could have a warm body around.
zagor

1 y
Sounds like the old vague dissatisfaction syndrome, where something is missing in her life so she thinks maybe she'll try something new.

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Coyote12

She told me she "I love you but not in love with you". She is the kind of person that has not been alone before, so I'm thinking that's why she just jumped in a relationship so she could have a warm body around.