After gaining about 10 lbs and spending less time on my hair and makeup before classes, I find that more people are willing to be friendly to me on campus and approach me.
When I was 15 lbs lighter and actually put effort into my outfits in the morning, it seemed like less people approached me in school.
I always thought that the more prettier you get, the more friends you have, but for me it seems like the more I dress casually, the more people tend to be friendly to me and approach me.
Does it mean the more average looking you are the more you attract people? It doesn't make any sense!
Anybody else notice the same thing? Why is this happening to me?
getting more shallow people attracted to me?
from now on, I should probably base how attractive I am based on the lack of approaches I'm getting, lol...
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i don't know if you are talking about guys approaching you or people in general, so I'm just gonna assume you meant guys. just my personal preference/observation: every girl I know that says she is where she wants to be in terms of weight/size is ALWAYS too skinny and for my ideal I would add about 20lbs to all of them. on the contrary, every girl that I know that is super hot in terms of weight/size, all they do is bitch and moan about wanting to lose 30lbs. Basically it works like this: a GIRLS idea of hot (in terms of a girl) is paris hilton, kate moss, taylor swift, etc. a GUYS idea of what is hot is beyonce, jennifer lopez, demi lovato, etc. I can't speak for the whole planet earth, but this is the case for me and all of my friends (male and female). so what you are probably getting a response to is that you are more what guys are attracted to instead of the impaired olsen self image of what most girls see when they look at themselves. it don't mean you have to stop working out. in fact working out makes this even better. but most girls don't know how. they need to not be scared to LIFT WEIGHTS. muscle (not fat) makes curves. you don't make muscle by walking on a treadmill and going to a spin class or yoga class.
as far as the makeup: same as I mentioned before, most girls that I know that come walking out of the bathroom after getting ready have on WAY too much makeup. I would like to scrape about 3/4 of that makeup off and leave it in the bathroom sink. but they think they look good. I think they look like the joker from batman.
I don't think the outfits have anything to do with it. certainly putting thought into your wardrobe isn't going to bump you down in attractiveness to guys. but being too skinny and wearing a lot of makeup will.2